Do you want to know a secret?

I had been intimate with my girlfriend a few times and as we were in bed one day I told her I wanted to get married but she needed to know I liked to wear panties. After being assured I was not gay yes ladies I think every SO asks that question, she said panties are just a piece of cloth so go put some on before we have sex.😊 The marriage lasted decades and I wore panties throughout. She was not ok with me wearing any other fem clothes besides a bra although she said she could not understand why anyone would wear a bra if they did not have to😊

Lisa T

Sadly i have nothing to put in a Bra (Excuse the bluntness but there's more breast on a bull than me...lol)

Time alone is also an issue with me, driving to and from work are the only time I'm alone. So dressing time is restricted .

Hugs

Wilma.

I told my boyfriend while we were dating, he was very supportive right away. I didn't actually tell him *what* clothing I wore until our first special/romantic night together. I wore a dress for our candlelit dinner and I told him that I wear beautiful lingerie to bed (which he definitely didn't mind!) and his jaw hit the floor when I came to bed that night all dolled up in a gorgeous bridal negligee. Was very romantic and needless to say he loves the fact that I dress!

Jeannie

That is also the dreaded question when I do "Come out" I am not and never been gay but that will probably the first question ( And for the record I have no issues with gay people of any gender)

Luckily we have no children so there are no offspring to object.

Hugs

Wilma x

Jess
I envy you with your ease of coming out.

hugs

Wilma x

She found my secret wardrobe when looking for something in my closet.

It set off some tense moments.  I think she was more upset I couldn't tell her than about the actual dressing.

After a while she understood I was worried about how she'd react and that's why I hid it.

She helps me pick clothes now.

Thanks Wilma! 🙂

With me it's about my wife going through the menopause & loosing all interest in sex.
I had earlier interests in dressing.
When it became obvious that she was no longer interested I confessed to her that I would like to crossdress (a very nervous conversation late at night in bed).
I was GOBSMACKED when she instantly agreed.
The following day she went out & bought me a couple of mini-skirts & a couple of blouses.
I'm daily in knickers & hold-ups, If I can get away with Bras, I do. My wife constantly recommends clothes for me.
My job precludes girls clothes but I could get away with skinny jean (if i could find a paid that did not smell)
My son does not like to see me dressed and as he works from home in his bedroom/office due to Covid if I'm dressed he shouts down & I change,

To make a long story short, I am (or used to) into zentai, so back then I was into both CDing and zentai.  I haven't worn zentai in ages, as CDing has completely taken over.

One day, when my wife was taking an evening class, I decided I would quickly eat supper, then enjoy abit of time in my zentai suit.  As I finished eating supper, cleaned up, I started to get into my zentai and then I hear the front door unlock.  It was my wife as her class let out early.  I bolted faster than usain bolt down to the basement, however, my wife saw me run by half wearing a black spandex outfit.

She questioned me as to what I was wearing, and man it was awkward.  I finally told her what I was wearing and that was that.

Some time while elapses, and I kinda hint to my wife I like to wear women's swimsuits.  I can't remember the exact details, but I began wearing the swimsuits in front of her and she was ok with it.  I do remember she asking something like "is there anything else you want to tell me ?"   I wanted to tell her at that point about my CDing, but I chickened out and said no.

Again, time elapses, and after reading posts on forums like this one, a common theme I noticed was if your SO doesn't know, it is only a matter of time before they will.

So I thought about it, and I really wanted to tell her because I can't dress up yet at the same time worry if she will come home early.   I had some days to myself while she went to work, and even though I knew she would be home around 5 pm, any sound spooked me as I would be already taking clothing off just in case it was her coming home early.

Eventually, I mustered the courage and I told her about my CDing.  I was so fearful she would just pack up and leave, but she didn't.  She had question, like "are you gay ?", "did you want to transition ?", "why didn't you say anything sooner ?", I answered her questions honestly.  She then said she had a strong inkling about my dressing, hinting that some of her panties/clothes felt stretched.

At the end, she said "go get changed, as I want to see you dressed (as wendy)".  I was floored, I did not expect that.  I do get changed (back then I did not do makeup), and overall she was accepting.  It felt awkward immediately after I changed back, but she didn't bring up the topic .  Fast forward a few more years, and I fully transform, makeup, clothes, wigs, hip/butt pads/breastforms, in front of her.

I don't have to be spooked about noises now if she is not home and I am dressed as Wendy !

Wendy
That was beautiful, I just hope that when I finally pluck up courage my wife will be as understanding.

Hugs
Wilma x

Ayla
sweet result I hope I'm half as lucky when I tell the wife.

Hugs

Wilma.

Zoe
that is one of my fears, we live in a 2 bed flat and the wife is a bit of a "Miss Marple"
but I sometimes think that may be the best way.

Hugs

Wilma x

Dear Wilma,

My wife and I were talking about our sex life one night, about seven weeks ago, and I just threw it out there that I wanted to wear panties and bras. She was a bit surprised and worried because she’s always thought of me as very masculine. But to her eternal credit, she stayed calm and asked lots of questions. How long have you felt this way? Why didn’t you tell me sooner? Is there anything else I need to know? and various other questions. I answered honestly and to the best of my ability. After our discussion, she walked to her dresser and pulled out two nighties and had me try them on! It felt amazing! Not just to wear a nightie for the first time, but to do so with her blessing. It was hard to talk to her about my feelings because I didn’t know how she would react, but I felt so much better getting that secret off my back. I hope that if and when you tell your wife, that she will react in a very similar manner.

Hugs and support, Jill

I didn’t know how to bring it up (20 years ago) but I knew it needed to happen so without preplanning it I just started leaving my sexy underwear on the floor on my side of the bed instead of hiding them. Eventually she saw them and started asking questions. Things progressed from there but kind of got stuck at the lingerie for sexy time and underdressing phase for years. There have been many conversations since that day as my understanding and awareness evolves. Now it seems like her only real concern is my desire to not come out but continue to dress at home. Mostly I think she’s worried I’ll be outed accidentally instead of something that happens within our control. Though she’s coming to terms with that and seems less concerned as time goes on. I’m finding that going slow and timing things appropriately are the best tools for tempering an SO when it comes to CD’ing and/or transgender issues.

— Abbie 🥰