Does anyone find the desire to dress wears off occasionally?

Mine is a little bit different as when I’m depressed, stressed and anxious I have 0% interest in wearing women’s panties or bloomers. When this happens I will go weeks without wearing them.

Very interesting topic . Another one a shrink could delve into lol . 

My desire has never ever wavered or worn off . Completely the opposite. Over the years it's been circumstances or laziness that have reduced the number of times I dressed . However circumstances meant I was miserable , looking at women thinking that's a nice outfit I wish .....

Laziness now im out isn't a problem and actually provides a chance to dress down. Sweat shirt and leggings are my go to laze around in .

I'm one happy CD 

Let's face it, transforming into a woman can be a lot of work. So many issues to contend with. I think regardless, if your male or female there are days that that it's just takes too much effort to do it well. Sometimes life just gets in the way.  I don't think it's a sign of anything other than we just are too stressed or tired to put out the effort. This happens to GG too, so don't worry about it if it happens.    

There are times when I have the opportunity to dress and opt not to. Sometimes it is because of the amount of time I'll have and feeling like it's not worth it. Also, because of the amount of time I don't always so make up or put on a wig. Just being able to wear a dress or skirt/blouse makes me feel wonderful. 

XOXO
Suzanne

Yes. There are times I dress and have a brain switch and go what's all this crap I'm wearing. 

Or I get bored and think its not coming together, why bother. And other times while in bloke mode I think......

While Fiona wasn't really fully formed with me, my desire to under-dress and use forms etc. came and went.  Since losing the beard and getting hair and makeup, I've made the full effort on the day each week when I can stay as Fiona right until bedtime, because it's so rewarding.  I don't always underdress or wear my femme clothes around the house on other days, but I'm usually more tempted when it's nice outside 🙂

Others have commented here about whether the desire to dress is enough to warrant the effort and also that the amount of effort required can be dependent on exactly what dressing means for you -- are you happy to just wear a dress around the house or do you need to go the whole hog. If I'm going to dress then for me that means investing the time in such things as shaving, makeup, clothes and accessory selection etc to do a complete MTF. This usually takes a minimum of about an hour. So if I have limited time then I may well decide that it's not worth all the hassle to only spend a couple of hours as Veronica. However, there are other times when I've had the whole day free to dress and planned exactly how I will use it but when the time has come I've lacked any real motivation to crossdress. I can't say I've noticed any pattern in when this happens. It seems to be totally random and unpredictable. Normally, I treat these low motivation periods as just part of the CD experience but I've arranged a few days away that I plan to spend entirely as Veronica. I won't be particularly happy if this time coincides with a period when I don't have much desire to be Veronica!

I'm assuming that this phenomenon is mostly afflicts only CD's but do those who are more on the TG spectrum also experience it? 

Veronica xx

Becca,

I can go a week or sometimes two without the urge to dress. Sometimes I’m just too lazy. But when I see a photo of one of the many lovely ladies on this site, I get the urge to see if I can look anywhere close like her.

In the past when opportunities were limited any day was treated as a special day and the excitement was high. Now I am able to dress all the time I do have days where I get up and slub around doing bits and pieces then have to get out to do something. Seemingly unenthused looking into the mirror I pick up the make up pad and within minutes am looking forward to the day and feeling good...

Mind you I am slubbing around in a nightie as I drink coffee and have breakfast...

My desire to dress typically does not decrease,I do not always have the desire to present in female mode,  but more correctly stated, my dressing has decreased to give my wife balance of me not being dressed and having her husband present

My interest in dressing does flag every once and a while.  Usually this coincides with me feeling down on or disappointed with myself.  I've been experiencing less of that lately, though, as I've been following a weight loss regime and am down 50 pounds, and the desire to dress is in overdrive.  Almost always, I'm more pleased with the person I see in the mirror when I'm dressed.

One occasion where I feel better when not dressed is when, after having presented as Charlotte all day, I welcome taking off my bra.  This is a common experience with my wife, and it pleases me that I can find myself in a similar headspace from time to time.  

I had the opportunity to write about this about this time last year.  I was feeling great about dressing at least once a week and getting better and better at it.  Then for some unknown reason, I just didn’t want to dress any more.  I can’t explain it, but it happened.  I knew that i’d go back and do it sometime, but just wasn’t sure when.  I guess there was a trigger that got me going again.  Since I like to shop, I had ordered a new wig.  Once I got that in, that was definitely my trigger to get back into it.  Since then I’ve not stopped and haven’t grown tired of dressing pretty.  I get a lot of encouragement from my friends here, so I don’t think I’m going to slow down any time in the near future.  The desire that comes and goes is unexplainable, but we do go through those periods.

I think it's common among CD's for the desire to ebb and flow for a variety of reasons that many have already reviewed above.

To answer Veronica's question about TG's, the only thing that varies for me is just how dressed up I may feel like getting on a particular day. If I didn't feel like wearing ladies clothes for some reason my only option would be to walk around in my birthday suit!

For me, it comes and goes. And when it does come, it's verging on an overwhelming desire to dress,..and be. 

And when I say 'it goes', it's because I'm facing up to the reality that for me, it will never be a long-term situation.

I mentioned way previously that I was able to stay in dress for about 96 hours straight, mid-afternoon to mid-afternoon. What that allowed me to do was to get all my 'fantasies' out of the way and get down to the basics of being female, with a house and home, and doing many of those tasks, that we associate with being female - ie dressing differently each day, or parts of a day, vacuuming, cleaning, dishes, cooking, washing, mending clothes, sunbathing, trying on different combinations, experimenting with cosmetics, altering hairstyles, drinking wine and reading trashy novels, watching chic-flicks, catching up on correspondence. Yes, all that and iirc probably more. That to me, without physically transitioning, is a goal - to be able to be just me. 

I doubt it will happen again.

Some fascinating answers on here and a great insight into mindsets. 

I personally cross dress because its hard wired and I'd rather wear a pair of leggings than jeans . Everyone is different and I don't judge anyone . 

Some of the points raised are very interesting and I think show the spectrum of behaviour we present . We've got those who are dressing 100% because they are transitioning , they are women . At the opposite end theres those who do not dress unless it's all in , the full works , in order to look on the mirror and see a woman . Then somewhere in the middle there's a group of us who wear whatever clothes we feel happy in at that point on the day. Around the house leggings and t shirt no make up but on other occasions the full works . 

Lots of grey areas around all categories though and factors that affect us. I wonder what everyone else thinks on the subject ?