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I was messaging with one of us ladies here and it made me wonder if I don’t realize how lucky I am?
Sharing stories, I explained that for Rebecca, she has her own space for her clothes and feminine accoutrements. My work has me in need of a home office. Luckily, the room I selected has a closet and some extra space. Also, it is in the basement where none of the family sleeps, providing more privacy. For security, the door has a code to enter, which only my wife and I know.
In my office, I have a closet with all of it clothes for boy and girl mode. These days, Rebecca has truly taken over the closet space lol! But also, I was able to get myself a small makeup vanity and standing mirror. I have wig stands with a few options in plain view. Even have some cute girly accessories strewn about for me to feel at home.
Remembering back to when I didn’t have this sort of space, everything Rebecca owned fit into the side of a carryon for a flight. I have had the pleasure of going out as Rebecca only a few times, but I feel like my room allows me to express myself more often. Does anyone else have the luck to have their own space to be themselves? Even if things with my wife get to full acceptance and freedom, I’d secretly prefer to keep my space… Rebecca is truly a girls girl now, and she’ll be damned if she has to share a closet with my lovely wife lol. That would just be the start of a new fight I’d likely lose from experience 😂.
@rebeccaoh I can really identify with what you say. A few months ago my wife and I at last talked things out and I now have at least some acceptance. The most symbolic breakthrough I think was when I told her my clothes were stashed away in suitcases in the garage. She took a practical view that it was a silly state of affairs and now they are in a closet in my home office.
If I ever get frustrated about lack of opportunity to dress, I open the doors and remind myself how far I've come. 💕
@rebeccaoh I was thinking how cool it would be to have one of those pull a book on the book shelf secret doors to an all River room . Open to shelves of wigs and a full lit vanity and makeup table. loads of clothes and all that us girls need. Maybe with a Google switch So I can say Hey Google its show time and have all the lights turn on in there.. oh to dream. 
unfortunately my office is also the guest bedroom. I do have some things in our closet but there is not enough room for more so im suitcasing it for now. I would at least like to stop flattening my wigs every time I get them nice.I could probably build a little secret cabinet for that.. something else to keep me awake at night dreaming about 😉 Cheers RC
That's awesome Rebecca! So happy for you! Having a space to be yourself does wonders for your mental health.
Personally, I didn't have a space in my last relationship. Being myself at home was difficult. We had a DADT. At least I had the ability to get away from home fairly regularly.
I've had a place of my own the last 3+ years. I'm trans so there's only one wardrobe and plenty of space. At this point I'm just living my life as I choose. Life is good!
Liz xx
I live on my own. I don't really bother to separate male / female clothes because most male stuff I have is unisex. I don't do suits or shirts and ties or formal menswear anyway. Just hoodies and overcoats which overfill the hallway hangers
If I was tidy, two wardrobes would do it, but I'm not. So I have one full wardrobe, an 'overflow' one, and clothes strewn randomly 'at hand'. I know, I know, I have plenty of spare time to be tidier, but ...
Even so, this situation contributed to me finally sharing with any friends who visit me and stay over. I got tired of 'hiding' stuff and feeling paranoid when they came to stay. As I repeat ad nauseum, I'm still a 'private' type, but finally sense overcame fear to fess up, and say "hey, if you come across a blouse, or a bra, or some lippy left out, that'll be mine.
And it worked, although Emma remains somewhat aloof and enigmatic to them. That's just me. One day I'll write an article called "Slowlee, slowlee, catchee monkee".
eM x
@emmat The hiding is something I refuse to do in my home too. Not to say I leave things around the house, but if I have any friends come over and need to come into my office, they’ll have to either accept that or head for the door lol.
@rebeccaoh Yes, I have my space in our walk-in closet. Were you to look you would simply think my wife has a ton of clothes and oh so many shoes, not to mention the wigs.
Some years ago we were house hunting for ideas for the future retirement home. We walked through a model and it had 3 walk-in closets. My wife saw that and said "look, one for me, one for you and one for Cheryl". Love that woman!
Cerys has many times more space than the male me. Wardrobes, chests of drawers, and a large table piled high with clothes.
She would like more space, but that would mean moving house 🙂
Cerys
It’s hard to be mad about it. The interesting and beautiful options for ladies is far superior to menswear. I do love a tailored 3 piece suit however.
I, as Becca, have two wardrobes full of my clothes, male me has a small corner in one of them, plus a shelf or two. Apart from my jeans and a couple of male-design T shirts, everything else is either outright women's wear or androgynous enough that makes no difference.
Most of the stuff I wear in male mode is now gloriously colourful and a far cry from the blacks and greys I used to wear.
I had to wait until I was 68 and my family moved far enough away to have at least a half a day warning to have Lacy's own space. How lucky we are to have a wife who if not embracing us at least tolerating our female self's.
Lacy
Such an interesting topic. I had never thought of this until now. Living with my wife and daughter in a fairly small home, I never had a separate space of my own. No man cave or home office type situation. Danni has even less space. I have learned to keep things in the back of my closet and some things are in my wife's area (she is fully aware of Danni). While pondering this situation, I realized that I have NEVER had a special space for Danni. I grew up with my mom and sister until I was done with school. I did not go away to college, but stayed local and commuted. After college, I moved in with my future wife. I have never lived alone...Danni has never lived alone. That would have been an amazing situation! I wonder how I would have developed had I had all that time and space to myself?
Being divorced, and having the 2 adult children who live with me not care makes things easy for me.
Half of my walk-in closet is my women' clothing, although there are a couple of shirts I wear as a guy. The same can be said for two drawers, one with long sleeve shirts and one with short sleeve shirts. They are all women's shirts, but there are a lot that are androgyonous that I wear in guy mode.
I've only been wearing women's jeans for a few years now. There are a few areas that are men's clothes, and a few that are women's.
Hi Rebecca, I've been out and open for several years and my wife and family are allies. I still work part-time as a woman's costumer. I have one 10 by 10 foot room upstairs and half of the basement downstairs with seven Z-frames, 6 sewing machines and 2 sergers. It helps to have married a dancer. Marg
Hi ladies,
In a way, I have the best of both worlds, tho the latter could be perceived as an "expensive sphere", aka a rented 10ft/3m sq storage unit about 30mins from home. But I have no space at home for what follows under point 2/.
1/. My own bedroom. A combination of male/female wardrobe space with 70% male in the robe and drawers, balance, most of my lingerie and sleepwear. For summer this means nighties hanging, bras, panties silk camis and french knickers in drawers. (Aka "Me drawer's in me draws"!! LOL). Winter fleecy pj's and heavy duty tights go in a "pull down" on my bedhead headboard
To use the Cockney term about the unit, aka "the lockup" ("wotcha Arfur and Terry" from the 80's English TV show "Minder"), has all of Caty's outerwear, shoes wigs ,make up and 2 out of the 3 pairs of breast forms I own. (Old ones that have seen much... better days).
It's also used for wine storage, my weekly arms and leg shave and the occasional "jam session" on my electric guitar and amplifier.
There's a combination of sporting memorabilia and photos of Caty "down through the ages" on the walls
As oft stated, it has a window; power and light it's carpeted and I have a desk and chair in there as well.
Except on extremely hot days, all very comfortable and convenient.
Happy dressing, (no matter the time and location)
Caty.
@rebeccaoh Hello Rebecca, (Sadly..) you dont know the "1.3rd" of it.
By this I mean that for nearly 10 years I lived on an acre block with a 12x9 metre, (40x30ft???) shed "down the back". (Yes! there was a very nice house on it as well)
I set it up with office space, workshop, fishing boat storage and best of all, a "Man Cave".
The only way to describe the latter was to state "what it did not have"in it eg Bar billiard table, fridge, wood heater, stereos etc.etc. When my beloved SO spent weekends back in Melbourne visiting her family, The Man Cave very quickly became Caty's "Shediour"
I was able to to my make up and dress in peace for at least 36 hrs. All day in the Sheduoir, then "sneak" back up to the house in my drab, but still made up and underdressed
The "upside from our block" neighbours knew me as a "wine man", so to cover up my boobs under my drab, I would carry an empty wine carton on my chest up to the house.
Then into my sleepwear for the night, get up next morning and have all of caty's stuff back in its hidey holes in the racking in the "main part" of the Shed.
In my work travelling days, I had Linda Rondstadt in her "Nelson Riddle torch song" era on cassette as I did my make up. This was repeated in the Sheduour. All very nostalgic..
I cant seem to get the link up to show the above. But if you google on You Tube it you will see how good it was. I'm someone who's into all the old 30' and 40's (flared petticoats etc) period dressing and the costumes in this are a real added bonus .
Happy dressing one and all,
Caty.
Hi Rebecca it seems like your very much at home in your basement office. I am glad it has worked out for you and you can be yourself whenever you want. It must be a good feeling for you. Like to many other ladies I too share my walk in wardrobe with Gwen my female self and my lovely wife as well. Not actually a closet as such but a little room with heaps of space to cater for all 3 of us LOL.
Happy working in your own little environment
Kind regards, Gwen
Rebecca -
How nice that you have a space where you can store your things and be yourself.
Like you I have a study where I keep all of Suzanne's things. My wife is well aware and okay with it. I don't have a make up table or mirror in my room. I keep my make up in a drawer in our bathroom which is where I out my make up on.
It is nice having a space to call my own. As it is just the two of us and we very rarely have anyone over it is not an issue. Should we have visitors the room gets locked to keep out prying eyes.
XOXO
Suzanne
@cdsue also takes away some of the stress of “cleanup” after undressing. I’m terrible about picking up sometimes and if all of my things stay in my room, no worries about a stray panty or anything left out once the door is closed.
@rebeccaoh that does make sense - It's easier for me to leave things out in my room as well which is nice after years of having to make sure things were put away
XOXO
Suzanne
I have one of our bedrooms made into my special girl’s room. I have a closet full of clothes with a makeup table it’s such a special place. The problem is that I have run out of closet space in my girls room so I have to keep some of my clothes in the master bedroom lol.
@shelly-lynn Yay, that’s a good problem right! Glad you have a space for her as well 😊
I have my own space. Sadly, it came with the loss of the one I loved almost 10 years ago. Now, my closet is almost all femme clothes.
@rebeccaoh Very similar to you, my office is the 4th bedroom and it's closet is Melodee's. My GF and daughter both know so there's no need for any security in that way.
As with the majority, I did use to hide it all away. I do not miss those days at all.
Jennifer has her own space for clothes. Basically, one of the bedrooms in our house has been made an "office" and the closet for that room has an assortment of "junk" and Jennifer's clothing. Basically half the closet is Jennifers. But in addition to that, Jennifer has 2 bureau draws in the Master BR for her lingerie plus some further storage for breast forms, etc in the Master BR closet. Oh yes, and Jennifer's shoes are in under-bed storage bags in the MBR.
Once dressed, Jennifer has the whole house at her disposal, but that's mostly just before we head out for a club meeting monthly.
@jenna116 Amazing, I’d love to have a lingerie drawer to pull from in the evenings lol. Jealoussss
