[Closed] Dressing or under dressing...but do you ever consider the consequences????

Ah the biggest fear . My gf would like me to underdress 24/7 . Problem is teen and older daughters and fear of driving to meet gf (60km) and being stopped by police or car crash . How would you survive the embarrasment in backward west of Ireland .

We would love to dine or walk as gf's or dress or underdress everyday but fear of accident or being caught stops the hobby being reality .

Jenny

Hi Grace,

I think I can offer an answer to the underdressed question, given that's mostly where I'm at, and also based on different but significant 'whoops' type scenarios that have happened in my life.

I'd probably think "D'oh" or some such expletive. I'd rather it not to have happened, but I'd have to accept the situation and get on with it - and just possibly with a new found "So what!?!" attitude

Marti xxx

Consequences, well I am definitely not walking around the woods in your area Grace, you have some mean squirrels.
If you dress fully open or even underdressed then as in life generally there is always consequences to consider. But isn't it true to a lot of things, If you drive to fast," what if?".
Consequences the "what if" that hidden voice of sanity, the barriers that can trap you in the darkness of fear. As with every thing there is always a risk, but with out taking them the constraints will consume our freedoms. Emergency service won't care,. Most people won't care, if you are caught out just be natural, honest and remember it's not a crime, or sin to wear what you want. But remember what your mother always said "Make sure you always have clean underwear on when you go out".

It hasn't happened, yet, but I do think about it, my response would be "oh well,crap happens"
just deal with it, and move on.
my mind, is firmly in "Im a cd'er, or trans, love it or leave it"
Hugs, Regi👸💕

I think of all those things and so many more, before I go out. Many times, those imagined events held me back.

Grace,

You’ve just perfectly described the innards of the lock that’s been so securely affixed to my closet door all these years!

Now perhaps somewhere in all these responses a key may be discovered…..I will be looking closely - thanks!

Marcellette

Morning Grace, I have been out both ways many times.  Pretty much underdress everyday and have been going out a lot more lately. One time when I was grocery shopping an older woman came up from behind me and asked straight up “ are you wearing a bra”. Which I wasn’t but rather a camisole. So I just turned around and replied “ no it’s just a cami”. Her face was priceless hun.
As far as being out fully dressed I’ve never had any issues but my wife always tells me to say I lost a bet if confronted by anyone.
hugs

Ashley

Underdressing doesn't phase me too much. I work in an office so my circumstances that may cause a reveal are slim since I would only consider wearing panties or stockings in the office. Anything worn up top would be too ripe for a reveal.  Now there have been times where file boxes and such have had to be moved which would require bending over and I have been real cognizant of my shirt riding up and some satin or lace peeking over the tops of my pants!

As far as going out dressed I'm not there yet as I have no wig nor any aptitude with makeup. Trying to track down someone in my area that can teach me makeup though. I would really like to see how feminine my appearance can be. If it works to my liking I will be that much closer to attempt a public outing.

Lost a bet is an awesome excuse!!

Would be dead on perfect at the end of those fantasy sporting events.

Yay one more piece to the puzzle of attempting a public outing some day. Please thank your wife for this simple but perfect excuse!

Earlier on I spent quite a bit of time and mental energy on the 'what ifs' and possible consequences.

I knew in my heart that I felt better and more alive being dressed as I like and that I wanted more if it. So rather than be caught up in what might be an embarrassing situation or have hurtful rumours spread, I plucked up the courage to have conversations with the the people that mattered to me. Not everyone was fully supportive, but thats their choice. It took time but allows me to enjoy my life more freely.

Olivia

Hi Grace,

When I first started to dress it was only at home and was absolutely terrified of being seen or caught, all the what if scenarios with having to call for help and being found in my wife's dress.  It was part of the trill.

When I started wearing panties every day the worries were there, but then I came to the conclusion that it is my underwear, and I should wear what makes me feel good.

Then the conversation with my wife took place, and she was terrified of me being discovered, what would people day or think of her and of me.  All the fear came back.  So I stopped for a while.

Then we had a week away and I dresses fully enfemme for the week, and felt so much better. So back into panties under my work uniform of black dress shirt, and black dress pants.

I have had many people at work talk about the new sensitivity training they have taken, or how a freind just came out Trans, or this week the pride flag flying out front of the building.  I don't think anyone would care how I am dressed as long as I met the safety code and was fully covered.  Work in a welding environment lots of sparks.

So I say go for it. Most people are so rapped up in their own world that they don't have time to think about what you are wearing, unless you are out for attention, then you will get some attention,  wanted or unwanted.

Paula

I have given this a lot of thought and worry over the years but here is where I’m at:  I don’t care!  I under dress every day and even my daily “man” clothes are mostly womens but more androgynous. I was stopped once for speeding (only about 5-10 over and just a warning they were “watching” that road) fully dressed and the officer was polite and professional and didn’t care. I have been clocked in public as a cd/tg and nobody cared. I had to pick up my son from school early one day when he got hurt (not bad just a cut) and forgot I was wearing knee highs and flats, nobody noticed or cared. The theme here… nobody cares. I don’t worry about it anymore. I might be embarrassed about admitting I was attacked by squirrels though… that might be a little awkward??  I think it all depends on how YOU handle it more than what others think?  If your fine with it and don’t make any issues about it most people won’t either, they don’t care. They have their own issues and would rather deal with them than yours. Have a wonderful life and be who you are.
🍷C

I have in the past gone to a doctor’s appointment when I have underdressed without thinking that morning (just panties) and nothing has ever been said so I do not give it a thought anymore. If anything was said I would hope it was nice undies and I would say thinks. In the early days I might have said they were my so’s but not now.

Hi Grace,

Our squirrels are friendlier than yours, apparently; never a problem, though one of the rabbit rescues I had did latch on to my hand one time. (No real damage).
My attitude concerning being "caught" like you describe has evolved over time. Once, I would have felt trapped; but since I have fully accepted Bettylou as the real Me, it has become "I'm a CD, so what?"

Hugs,
Bettylou