Ever been in a relationship with a guy?

I sometimes wonder about how many others feel on this topic so will be curious to read replies. My only same sex experience was when I was about 10 years old. My best friend was 3 years older. He and I and a couple of other neighborhood boys would do the childhood “you show me yours and I’ll show you mine” sort of thing. We experimented with some touching and comparing etc. We stole some naughty magazines from a local grocery store and attempted some of what we read about but with very little success. That just stopped and we went our separate ways. I’ve always been very interested in sex and quite fixated with porn. I went through a phase of buying gay porn magazines when I was around 18. I tried to contact a guy through a dating magazine but he never replied. Once I started dating and getting physical with girls the same sex interest went away. I married, had kids etc and never really thought about it until recently. I’m totally devoted to my wife and very content so it will remain a fantasy, but I must admit it does interest me greatly. People often say sexual orientation and gender expression are not related but my intuition tells me otherwise. I would love to hear about others experiences and feelings on the matter.

Xoxo,
Catherine

I knew I was bi at puberty and have always admired handsome men. I'm married to a GG so no real relationship with a man so I can't answer the rest of your questions... sorry.

I had a short relationship with a wonderful gentle man. It was not a daily relationship unfortunately. It was someone who I met on Flickr and we would chat via email and then one day I had the guts to meet him at a gay bar. It was so wonderful to feel feminine and be treated like a woman. We made out for a while and then I pleasured him in his car. We always somewhat kept in touch throughout the years. At least once a year we would meet up and eventually we made love. He treated me so well and it was so magical. Eventually we lost touch but I do miss him very much.😢

I never hAd the desire in the past. But a few years ago. I👩🏿 aquire👩🏿d a friend so eventually.,because he knew I was into photography, asked me if I would like to take some nude pictures of his girlfriend. Of course I said yes. I I had a few sessions with her. He was there also. Then he allowed me to sleep with him and his gf. It was fantastic. But at times he would try to touch me and I told him I am not gay. A few times later hew would touch me on the leg. I shrugged him off.  He did not know I was CD at the time. As time passed I acted out in cd and one time he knocked at my door for a drink. I was covered in a robe. We had a few drinks and eventually I got a little aroused and let him in on my little secret.  He loved that information and I took my robe off. His eyes popped an asked if I had some fishnet stockings and of course i did and put them on for him.  He loved it and after a few more drinks we went to bed. It was a quicki. We got together a few more times after that. When I was sober I kind of regretted it, but a few times after  I wished he was still around. I can’t say it was better than being with a woman but it was enjoyable. Just different. As of today I am not looking for another man but sometimes wish he was sill around. Now a passable cd I would be interested in.  Life is so short   Love you gurls💕💋🌹😘😋

There was an area of the city where it was common knowledge that the girls who hung out were trannies (ugly word I know but was the vernacular at the time). I would sometimes pick up girls knowing full well what I was in for. I have to admit I enjoyed their company.

Hi Jess,

I'm being very bold here because I could have answered via PM.

I love being as much a woman as I can, or as much as my circumstances allow.

My therapist tells me that I'm gender fluid, and I believe that's right. I have only been with women, and I now find myself exploring as much of being a woman as I can.

To be with a woman as a woman? I don't think so.

To be with a man as a woman? Well, I'm not taking any action to make that happen. I'm very happy exploring womanhood in the privacy of my home.

All of the above being said, I am open to being with a man. It would depend on the circumstances, and, especially, who it was.

At the present time I will continue to be a wallflower though.

Diane

Not my thing. I do find the thought repulsive.

I love men that admirer and desire us. I just adore being the girlfriend or wife when out on a date to feel complete. Have dated men I meet through friends and clubs or events for cds and tgs. I feel uncomfortable playing the role of the male  and only had a few bad experiences but still worth it

It is interesting to think about repulsion from a psicologic point of view because it is a very polarized answer.

And at least in spanish the word repulsion in some way is offensive to the others that could desire to be a girl for a male.

Kisses

Sonia

Hi Girls!!!

I had a two sexual contacts with a guy as a male and I have thought a lot about my role in those two relations.
It didn't work I think because both wanted to he passive( I didn't know in that moment).
I have never again but I guess that my feminity could be completed when I have sex with a man at least once. And it scares me.

Kisses

Sonia

Great topic Jess.  For me, I have no interest in men.  Even if I were single I don't think I would pursue and relationship with a guy.  But I have really enjoyed reading your post and the responses, as I really do care about the lives and experiences of my CDH friends.

Hugs,

💖Lola

No No No. My wife would not be happy. But as a girl I can not help but wonder how it would feel to have someone inside of me. As a male I am sure I would regret it. But the thought is there.

I think we take offense way too easily these days.

The thought of gay sex is repugnant to the way I'm wired.

If others are wired for same sex attraction, that is the way they are wired. If those wired that hit on me, I would be repulsed.

If that person takes offense to my reaction, that is their problem. It's not mine.

Rejection is part of life. Been many girls I had the hots for over the years...but they were never into me.

Been girls who had the hots for me, but they did nothing for me.

And a male mate once admitted he had the hots for me. I told him, yuck. Vomit. Sorry bloke not my scene. We are still friends. He married some other bloke. Thats his thing. Not mine. Btw he wasn't offended by my reaction.

Then I met my wife. And we both clicked. And thats our thing.

You are right Mary Jane.

Rejection (as support) are part of live..

And in my personal view I see CDH as a place more for supporting and caring than for rejecting, that's all.

Thank you

Sonia