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Experiences with counseling ?

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Baroness
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(@river)
Noble Member     New Hampshire, United States of America
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When i was younger I went to many psychologists as I was a child of an alcoholic but they never did much for me. A few years ago I went to counseling for stress and she said I really didn't need it. but never have I discussed my CD desires.  Im in a better place these days partly because of all of you so thank you from the bottom of my heart . but sometimes I feel like some professional counseling could take me one step further towards my goals of inner peace and basically stop fighting with myself.  

What has been your experience with counseling and what type of counselor did you see. I dont have much faith in Psychiatrists as they seemed all book smart and I couldn't relate to anything and the few I saw were useless.  probably very difficult to find a good one. One thing i read that resonated with me is well there is nothing wrong with me so what do you need counseling for ? I have come to terms with this as well  and being open with my SO has been another piece of this puzzle.  I have been feeling like all the pieces are there now I just cant figure out how to put them all together to make one complete picture. Thoughtful  RC

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Duchess
(@missylinda)
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Noble Member     Ft Worth, Texas, United States of America
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@river My Story:   I have a therapist, originally for stress and CD secondary .I chose a stress specialist.  I chose a female, as I knew Lorraine would come up.( could not discuss with another man).  For me it turned out to be a new chapter in my life.  She was a comparable noice in the world of CD s, but immediately connected with Lorraine and wanted to know all about her world.  We became more like girlfriends and low and behold, my stress level went down.    We have now moved on to the problem of having my wife more accepting.  I have never been able to open up to a female other than my wife before and it has been a changer in my life.  This has been the only time in my life I sought outside help.  Hugs. Lorraine

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Baroness
(@river)
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Noble Member     New Hampshire, United States of America
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@missylinda Thank you Lorraine I also would like to be able to communicate better with my SO on this subject we talk sort or freely about it but she never shows any interest in meeting River during our discussions.  maybe its time I just say do you want to meet her and get it over with. 😉  I think im on a good path I need to put it all together and im thinking a therapist may help speed that all up.  Thanks again for your reply everyones support means so much. have a great day RC

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Duchess
(@missylinda)
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Noble Member     Ft Worth, Texas, United States of America
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@river I think suggesting the 2 girls meet is ok, but at the least bit of resistance drop it for now.  For me , I merely asked if I could dress in house, and did not make it a meeting.  The more my SO sees of Lorraine , the more everyday it becomes.  The key is don’t dress in an outrageous outfit, and don’t do it all the time.   My therapist and I have an eye not only on acceptance, but perhaps participation on the SO.  Good luck

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Hostess
(@cdsue)
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@missylinda very good advice - it took a long time for my wife to accept Suzanne but now there are times she will ask if I'd like to dress. The first time was on Easter - she said no one dresses for Easter anymore, why doesn't Suzanne come to dinner. I was very happy she said that and got dressed - dress, pantyhose, heels, wig, make up, earrings (bra and panties) = and it was a lovely day. There have been many days since when we do the same thing. One day we were talking and she said growing up she never really had a girlfriend to do girly things with and she likes having a girlfriend (Suzanne) to do that with. We go for mani-pedi's together and shop together. Shopping is fun - I'm in male mode and she will aks if Suzanne would like something as if we are talking about someone we know (which we are it's just no one else know it is my alter ego).  I let her take the lead on discussing Suzanne most of the time so that I know she is open to the conversation.

XOXO
Suzanne

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Duchess
(@loneleycd)
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Famed Member     Roland, Iowa, United States of America
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@river I will probably be against the tide here. I believe that having at least a little push back is good rather than blindly affirming is the best. To firm in your mind why and that you want/need? To continue to dress can help. Most of us here can attest that we can purge and quit.  BUT sooner or later the pink fog rolls in and we HAVE TO show our fem side.

 

I guess what I mean is a little push back is good but someone who will not accept our feminine side AND help us explore it is not right. 

Cassie 

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Baroness
(@river)
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@loneleycd pink fog love it..  I think i see your point here as well correct me if im wrong. a therapist can't just be a yes man/woman and support you in every way which may not be helpful for some.  but to challenge you as well to think another way or at least understand if thats needed. I think some of us know exactly what they need just may need that push to achieve it and others may have no idea what they need or think they do . someone also said to me in so many words a swift smack the the face sometimes is the medicine thats needed. which is another point whats good for one may certainly not be good for another.  thanks for your reply. unfortunately there is no one stop solution.  Cheers RC

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Duchess
(@loneleycd)
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Famed Member     Roland, Iowa, United States of America
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@river Exactly, every person is different and every situation is different. One therapist that works well for you today might be terrible tomorrow.  

Cassie 

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Dear River,

My journey and experience with therapy and psychologist was a fruitful one. My therapist was the first person whom I ever shared photos of my femme self with and spoke about the joys and sensations of cross dressing.

I feel everyone should (at least once) speak to a therapist/counselor/psychologist because there are experiences in ones life which need to be shared with a someone from a neutral position to gain perspective. It is very different to hear share with someone completely neutral as compared to the someone whom has a bias perspective such as your friends/family/spouse.

The biggest challenge was finding a good "fit" of a therapist. One i felt comfortable with enough to share and be open with. It took me several tries in my lifetime to finally find a good fit at the right time in my life.

I wrote a article on speaking with a therapist online ( https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/a-crossdressers-guide-to-online-therapy/ ) which may be of help to you. Do message me if you need any other information of guidance.

You have started your journey to find your best self! I am so proud of you 🙂

With all my support and encouragement,
The Bluest Belladonna

 

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Baroness
(@river)
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Noble Member     New Hampshire, United States of America
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@bluestbelladonna Thank you so much what a well thought out article.  this is very valuable to me. especially how you eased into online therapy . I was not considering online before this but now I think that would be the way to go for me personally.  like you mentioned I think I just need a 3rd party to run a few things by. once im comfortable I have no issues opening up and I would welcome that , as just letting out all ones thoughts makes me feel so much lighter. Ive learned so much at the CDH but now I have so much more to consider.  Thank you again for all the time you took to put together that wonderful article and your reply so I could find it. have a great day RC

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@river 

Dear River,

You will definitely feel lighter after sharing with a therapist/counselor. Much of the "weight" we feel is emotional baggage from the past. A example of would be my big reveal to my therapist that I was a crossdresser.

My expectations, fears and anticipation were met with a clear perspective that what we do as crossdressers is far from the fear makes it out to be:

  • We do not directly harm anyone
  • There are many of us out there, like on CDH
  • cross dressing does not directly affect ones sexuality (its just clothes)
  • The secret and lack of awareness is what makes us fearful
  • crossdressers can look glamorous, classy and gorgeous 🙂
  • We can be proud of ourselves and our cross dressing achievements

Speaking, discussing and sharing is what allows us to have responsibility and ownership of the things we fear in our lives.

Life is meant to be live: As adults, we personally need to comfort out inner child whom is stuck in the fearful cage. Nobody can do this for us but ourselves, especially if we feel we did not receive it in our childhoods. For me personally, becoming a glamorous queen with an adoration for dresses, lace and stockings; Allows me to summon that persona to soothe my inner child and collectively build the kingdom in my heart.

With all my support and encouragement my friend,
The Bluest Belladonna

 

 

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Baroness
(@river)
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Noble Member     New Hampshire, United States of America
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@bluestbelladonna Thank you.  Definitely for me its also play time. as you related to the wonderment of childhood and fantasy. its the only thing at this point in my life that keeps my imagination alive and honestly Im happy and lucky  to  have something that keeps me connected to that world. Thanks again. Have a great day RC

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Lady
(@jillannquinn)
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Noble Member     Reno, Nevada, United States of America
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@river It was funny (timing) to see your post about counseling today of all days. I was thinking about seeking a therapist/counselor this morning, regarding my cross dressing. I’m going to check with my work because we do receive some form of counseling, I just have to research what they have available to us. I hope your search goes very well!

Hugs, Jill

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Lady
(@leainvancouver)
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Prominent Member     Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada
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@river you’ve got some great advice from your post. Speaking as a psychotherapist myself, I agree with you about psychologists and many psychiatrists. Most if them are book smart, having a PhD or a medical degree. None of them have had to do their own work and gender dysphoria has not been a specialty.

Psychotherapists generally have to train by doing their own healing under supervision. As some have indicated, finding a trans or a female who specialized in gender/body dysmorphia is what you want to look for in a therapist. It takes time to find a good match so don’t get attached to one until you click with one who you feel seen by. 

A great goal of therapy is to accept yourself and embody your feminine. Once you accept and love yourself, it’s much easier for others to accept and love you. This will go a long way toward healing River!

 

 

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Baroness
(@river)
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@leainvancouver  . its very comforting for someone with your credentials to share this . and clarifyiing the difference between Psychotherapy and the others. "Train by doing their own healing "  Is quite a different path than book smart. as well I expect anyone with practical knowledge is  not going to come into a session trying to ""Fix"" someone as I think most psychiatrists and such would be aimed at vs Helping someone to understand who they are and not that its a clinical diagnosis on some mental or physical issue. Since joining the CDH one of many things i have learned is there is no definitive set of traits to define someone  who is a CD there is a huge range of very specific differences between many of us making it even more difficult to find the right person  that can help guide one in a direction thats most bennificial for that individual.  Thank you It takes a special kind of person to dedicate themselves as you have to helping others. I greatly appreciate it. Have a wonderful day. RC

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(@laurynvalentine)
Trusted Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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I was also very wary of going to therapy, not because I don’t think that going would be helpful but probably wasn’t going to help me. The psychotherapist I have is wonderful. The previous one did a lot of validating and praising which I didn’t find helpful but the one I have now is great. In two months I have come so far with really coming to terms with what I want to do and how I want to experience life which is mostly as Lauryn. We don’t spend much time on the past instead we talk about what I am experiencing now and how I can make my desire to be a woman work with the wonderful life I have. I have a supportive wife and daughter and great things I value. We talked about transitioning and if I were younger and still building a life I most likely would but we are focused on how to make the life I have and wanting to live as much of myself as a woman that I can while respecting the life I have. She is someone I can be totally honest with and I don’t feel so alone in this journey. 

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Baroness
(@river)
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Noble Member     New Hampshire, United States of America
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@laurynvalentine Thank you Lauren I expect there will be some trial and error.  psychotherapists is not one I have tried.  I googled cross dressing therapy and there are so many.  I appreciate your response and feedback I think this is the final step I need to take to find my way whatever that may be. Regards RC

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Over a 30-year span, I've had 4 therapists and 1 psychiatrist.  My experiences have been mixed. 

The psychiatrist was good for managing clinical depression.  At the time that's what I needed.  The meds he prescribed really helped.  I was severely depressed several years before that. 

The first 2 therapists were LMFT's that treated general anxiety, family/marital problems, etc.  They were okay but I'd never go back to either of them. 

The 3rd was also a LMFT that treated anxiety, addiction, and marital issues.  He also had another trick up his sleeve - he claimed he could "cure" crossdressing and transgenderism. 

I was there at the behest of my controlling and transphobic wife.   Trying to save my marriage.  I became a "fix-it" project after she discovered my secret.  Weekly visits to this quack were part of the conversion therapy program she forced me into.  You read that right.  Conversion therapy.  The quack therapist did way more harm than good.  It took years to undo the damage.

I've said before that the last 3 years of my marriage were a living hell.  This is one of the main reasons why.

I found my 4th therapist shortly after my egg cracked, in 2016.  I did my research this time and looked for therapists that specialized in affirming care for patients with gender dysphoria.  The woman I found has been utterly amazing.  More than anyone else, she's had a profound impact on my life.  I wouldn't be where I am without her.

I think even girls that are in a healthy and supportive LTR can benefit from gender therapy.  Nearly all of us have some internalized transphobia from years of being shamed.  A good gender therapist can help push past that to a greater understanding of who you really are.

/EA

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Baroness
(@river)
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Noble Member     New Hampshire, United States of America
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@emilyalt Wow Emily such a rough road im glad your final destination was positive as I read I was reaffirming my faith in therapy which was not positive.  you nailed the key point finding the right one. OMG  the 3rd must have been a living nightmare so sorry you went thru that we deal with enough already adding that must have been awful.  thank you for sharing this is very helpful.  have a great day RC

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(@lizk)
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Illustrious Member     North County San Diego, California, United States of America
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@river There ARE good therapists out there River.  You just have to find them.  Referring to your local LGBTQ support group is a good way to find qualified therapists near you.  That's how I found mine.  I reached out and they responded with a list of about a dozen therapists.  I then read reviews on each one and called a few for more information.  One practice stood out among the rest.  They didn't take my insurance but their cash rate was reasonable.  I knew on my first visit that I'd found the right person.  We "clicked" immediately.  That was 8 years ago.  Anna changed my life. 

I still see Anna every month or two.  Mostly my visits are just check-ins at this point.  But having a qualified therapist is essential if you're trans.  Sooner or later, you'll need a letter from a therapist for many medical procedures.

/EA

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Baroness
(@river)
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@emilyalt Thank You Emily knowing what specifically to look for is the perfect first step in finding the right help. Its comforting to hear that most have found value in some therapy once they found the right person. this is great advise on how to go about that most important first step. Thank you for sharing this. have a great day Regards RC

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Hostess
(@cdsue)
Famed Member     Delaware, United States of America
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River -

I've been seeing a therapist for about 4 years now. I started at the suggestion of my wife after I came out to her. It wasn't to get me to stop dressing but to help me understand myself (hope that makes sense). I opted for a female therapist as I find talking with females easier than males as well as thinking a male wouldn't understand. I was probably wrong in that thought process but that's what worked for me. My therapist is a gender therapist and has worked with the trans community for years which is very helpful. When I contacted her to make my first appointment I was very nervous (read sweaty palms and cracking voice) as she was the first one, other than my wife, to whom I admitted being a crossdresser. She put me at ease and I felt comfortable with her at the first session. I have been open and honest in all my sessions and discussed things with her I've never discussed with anyone else (including my wife). One ting I learned is that therapy will only work if you are open and honest with yourself.  The therapist only knows what you tell them, if you hold back they won't be able to help you. I was fortunate and found a good therapist right away this time. I've been in therapy in the past for anger management and grief counseling but didn't get anything out of those. 

I hope this helps some. If you have any questions or want to discuss further feel free to PM me.

XOXO
Suzanne

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Baroness
(@river)
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@cdsue Thank you so much for your response.  I think there is a trend here gender therapist is the key word. I also need depression and anger management but treating the cause and not the symptoms I think is key and I believe my gender confusion is the cause .I appreciate your reply and experience.  I know what to look for now. Have a great day RC

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Hostess
(@cdsue)
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@river I wish you the best in finding a therapist. You mention anger management and depression. You may find that it is all connected in some way. When I started counselling it was about my crossdressing, since then it has branched into emotions, intimacy, sexuality, relationships and other issues. It is nice to be able to unburden with a non-judgemental person and to get your feelings affirmed. 

XOXO
Suzanne

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Baroness
(@river)
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@cdsue Thank You Suzanne Non judgmental is the key word . someone that you can tell anything without repercussions and get un biased feedback.  regardless of if one has an immediate need or not thats just something that is good to be able to do once in a while. I go thru spells which Im sure have some connections to River and I look forward to understanding that better.  Thanks again for your reply. have a great day. RC

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Hostess
(@ab123)
Illustrious Member     Surrey, United Kingdom
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An interesting topic and variance of replies, most of which come from girls in the Americas and seems a huge industry. Therapy is not something we here in the U.K automatically think of but it is gaining ground and counseling is even offered after some documentaries on T.V.

It can take time to put the pieces together and can be figured out. What you have to ask yourself River is how is this affecting your life in general, are there any other issues. How is life overall, relationship work and things in general. Is this issue impacting your day to day abilities over and above the usual trials of life. Some replies site bad marriage, anger management and other impacts on wellbeing. If this is so then it is more than one issue and complex so help would be the next step.

If this is merely putting the jig saw together about your dressing then you hold the answers. If you are out to your S.O, she is sympathetic and talking then it's a good thing for you. The key is for you to have an idea where this is going, where you want to be then how is that going to be achieved? This is the scary part not only for you but your S.O.. Can you piece it together yourself or between you that would be my question. You may not need a therapist but if an impasse is reached, the final bit is missing or something else is having an impact then maybe.

 

 

 

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Baroness
(@river)
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Noble Member     New Hampshire, United States of America
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@ab123 Thank you for your reply.  if you would have said the same thing a year ago or even a month ago before I joined CDH I would have a completely different response.  Currently Im in a good place and my SO is happy and on board.  its not affecting my life.  but im not sure what the next step is . i have all the pieces I think just dont know how to put it all together.  I may just need a bit.more time.  lots of progress lately thanks to you all. Heart  RC

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(@dazzler)
Noble Member     Cardiff, South Glamorgan, United Kingdom
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I went through 3 or 4 counsellors before I found the one that was right for me. 
I fell into a deep depression due to the deeds of a close family member. He was sent to prison for a very long time. His crimes sent me into a couple of years of hell. 
My first counsellor was fresh out of uni, had neither the experience, nor the capacity to deal with what I was going through. He also had never met a crossdresser before.
The second didn't want to help me with overcoming the depression caused by the evil deeds. She only wanted to talk about my crossdressing. She had no idea and was using me to learn. I was paying her to use me as a teaching aid. One day she asked me to attend dressed. I did't go dressed, but I got changed there. She left the room. I got changed and called her back in. She entered the room and laughed. That ended that relationship!

The 3rd was OK, but I felt we were getting nowhere.

The 4th was amazing. A transwoman that I had a lot in common with. She not only helped me with dealing with the evil deeds, she helped me slowly climb out of the well I had fallen in. She also helped hugely with the struggles that crossdressing was causing. My crossdressing came to the fore as I was dealing with the evil deeds. Being Cerys helped me, but it caused issues with my wife, and it also made me doubt my "I'm only a crossdresser" belief and made me start to think that I was trans. This caused all sorts of issues..... This counsellor worked with me. A little on the evil deeds, a little on my crossdressing. Bit by bit my life started to improve. I learnt how to deal with my demons. I learnt how to cope with the guilt of my crossdressing. I learnt to accept who and what I am. I owe my counsellor so much. I still suffer bouts of depression, but I can handle them now. I know that they will be short lived. I know not to let them define me.

Going to counselling will only work if you GET THE RIGHT ONE!!!!!!!!
Do your research on them. Don't be afraid to change it it's not working.  Good luck!

Cerys

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Baroness
(@river)
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Noble Member     New Hampshire, United States of America
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@dazzler Thank you for sharing your experience I also suffer from depression and on meds for it that help. Dont need them though when Im River so that says something 😉  sounds like you have overcome so much and is a testament for your strength.  I appreciate the need to find the right one. it would be tough enough to come out to someone new but then to have a bad experience OMG so strong that you tried again. thanks again and have a great day RC

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Duchess
(@traci429)
Reputable Member     Brighton area, Michigan, United States of America
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I went to a guy counselor and he was a very general counselor. When I tried to discuss my crossdressing he laughed and told me of another guy he counseled and that was the end of him. I now started to see a “LGBTQ” friendly counselor. There are several of them and they specialize in many aspects of LGBTQ issues. My counselor is female (my preference) and she is very easy to talk to and has challenged me to think about me and why I crossdress. I also recently told my older son and my younger sister, as a result of counseling. I told my wife on January 1st and she does NOT want to live with a Crossdresser but also suggested a counselor. She is also going to a counselor, as a result. My wife and I have had many discussions since then and continue to talk. My counselor asked me once “why don’t you tell others about your crossdressing?”. I never thought about it but was shy because of social acceptance and homophobic people I know (they would laugh at me and not be accepting). Anyhow, it is important to find the right counselor and if you don’t feel it is working then find another one. Kind of like jobs, you don’t like one find one that suits you more. I am excited that I found a very open counselor who makes me think and gives me homework each time I leave the session. I m going every two weeks, due to costs but also looking on line for information. I do not want to lose my wife as I love her very much. I am very close to retirement and have set plans on moving out of state to build a new life with her. Traci is not part of her plan. Time will tell what happens. Research and find the right one for you. -Traci

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Baroness
(@river)
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Noble Member     New Hampshire, United States of America
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@traci429 Thank you for sharing . the right one is the key and probably more difficult than opening up when you find them. I plan to do alot of research.  I hope the counseling helps you and your SO to come to an understanding it sounds like a tough road. Im glad you found the right person to help. Thanks again for taking the time to share your experiences.  Take care of yourself.  Regards RC

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(@Anonymous 91116)
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Hi River,

 

it seems like you have got a very good advice on this topic already from lots of ladies. I can't offer quite the same level of expertise, however I have recently started seeing a counsellor who I sought out specially to help me with this subject.

 

It was daunting at first but I found it has been very helpful so far. It's nice to be able to talk in person about wanting to be Yasmin and she has asked me some very thought provoking questions. Although I haven't had a massive revelation yet I am very hopeful that as this goes on it will help to improve general happiness and acceptance of crossdressing, and for that reason I would say find someone who states they cover these sorts of topics and go for it as it may be very helpful.

 

in the meantime if you wanted to chat and share any thoughts please feel free to I'd love to hear from you.

 

Yasmin x

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Baroness
(@river)
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Noble Member     New Hampshire, United States of America
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@yasmina02 Thank You.. I think im past revelation stage. I feel I somewhat understand but just cant quite get the 2 to co-exist or meld into just one whole.  I dont have to be dressed as River to be her thats already part of me. just want to stop the internal battle . both sides need to accept one another and be cool with it. Its mostly my male side thats fighting which is typical lol. but its always been that way. Im not in the place whereas I need to let River take over Personally I want some from both sides as I feel thats who I am the best of both masculine and feminine.  but male ego and all wont compromise lol.. Thanks again I appreciate it. Have a great day. RC

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Baroness
(@ryanpaul)
Famed Member     Outer Eastern Suburbs Melbourne, Victoria, Australia
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My first therapist for over 40 years ago and was to put it politely, plain useless. It was a man and back in the days of if you like "shock therapy"

Given my love of female period costumes, he told me to go home and when in the shower, think of myself as "Scarlett O Caty " dolled up to the nines and then turn off the hot tap... (Come 2017 and I went to a CD conference as Scarlett, so plainly shows how that did work...

Later years....A good female one whom I saw re "family troubles", but of course Caty got a mention She helped quite a lot.

Then just after Covid, I needed some help again with my CD'ing, (why is rather confidential) and again a good female therapist was the answer.

I saw her again last September, looking for advice after my "DADT' SO did the old "She came home early" thing and caught me red handed fully dressed.

Good advice from the above, but since then we seem to have settled back into our previous DADT. I'd like to take it further, my I've had a serious, (non fatal, but very painful ) health issue going on since Christmas and that's taking up all the spare brain power this old girl can muster "ATM"

Caty.

 

 

 

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Baroness
(@river)
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Noble Member     New Hampshire, United States of America
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@ryanpaul Thank you for the reply.  It sounds as you have had a tough time of it lately this makes me sad but  Im very glad to hear the counseling has been positive and helpful in your difficult time. everyone has been so sharing its such a shame that it also seems there are alot of bad counselors out there as well but i see a trend.. In today's day its seems easier to read reviews and information and have a better chance of finding that perfect person , and it also seems the majority prefer female therapists which makes sense as the caring and empathy females have is directly related to how everyone here is so caring and supportive.  Thank you again for sharing your story I sincerely hope your pain subsidies asap. so you can focus on Caty Take care of yourself.  Sincerely RC.

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