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Years ago I discovered that my brother also crossdresses - ran into his picture in femme on the web. I never mentioned anything to her since I'm not out and don't think I will ever be out.
About 3 years ago we were going to have a family chat online and when she logged in I noticed he had his femme picture up. I texted her to warn her about her profile picture, and she changed it right away. He has never spoken about this so I'm assuming he doesn't want to bring it up.
Has anybody else had a similar experience?
I haven't. But if I had a CD sibling, I know I'd want to talk to them about it. If for no other reason than to voice my support.
Many girls are deep in the closet. Maybe that's your brother. Having a convo about crossdressing is the last thing she may want to do. Just telling her you accept her for who she is could make a huge difference in her life. You don't have to out yourself to tell her that. But if you do, it could enrich both your lives.
Just saying.
/LK
@lizk Thanks for your insight. Actually I think I'm deeper in the closet than she is. After all she is single and lives alone, whereas I'm married and my wife doesn't know that I dress.
I have made sure to let her know I'm an ally without bringing up the topic.
@carloscloset You refer to your brother as she. Have they expressed a preference for using she/her pronouns? That may indicate that they are open to discussion.
@lauren114 good question, no. We have never spoken about me being aware of her dressing. I have seen her profiles (mostly on adult sites) and in them she is clear about her name and pronouns. She has never mentioned her femme self when we have spoken so I don't feel that it would be appropriate for me to do so. But whenever I talk about her I do it based on how she describes herself (even if she will never see them).
I make social media posts supportive of the LGBTQ+ community, and trans men and woman, on a regular basis my social media, and she always likes them (while on her male accounts). She knows I'm with her and I support her.
@carloscloset ooh, how weird is that? I've certainly never seen any suggestion that crossdressing runs in the family. I think you should broach the subject with her. I mean what an opportunity for a really strong lifetime bond. I'm trying to imagine my brother being a crossdresser, and it's a quite ridiculous notion. But of course he would think the same about me 😂 xx.
I think that you now have the perfect opportunity to talk about it. At least let her know that you too have a passion for dressing.
If I were single, I definitively would. But being married, in the closet, and my wife not knowing about her is a challenge.
@carloscloset I think I'd agree with @lizk - I'd feel compelled to say, "OMG me too!" I told my cis sister and didn't have to, so I'm pretty sure a CDing sibling would have been told straight away.
I was just wondering about this the other day. How many of us gals have someone we know that is also in the closet but we don’t know about it? I understand your hesitation to talk but I would in a hot second talk about it. Maybe I don’t see the negative in it because I think it would be so much fun having a sister whether it be my own family or a friend.
@staciebobacie if I were single, or not in the closet, I would not hesitate to talk about it and let her know about my situation.
For now, since she has never mentioned it to me, I will let her initiate contact. I do my best to show my support for both the LGBTQ and trans community so she knows where I stand.
I so wish I could have a CD family member, I’d talk to them right away. I already know that I love to chat with anyone who crossdresses, and a relative would be no exception.
Maybe one day there will be the conversation. It would be interesting to see how both of you crossdressed, if there is a lnk.
I have wondered what it would be like. If I crossdressed openly it would be so much simpler.
do not but have multiple times opened my phone up to show somebody something o and the CDH website still open also concerned handing someone my phone to show a pic and they scroll threw and see Erin
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@carloscloset that due to you don’t want your SO to find out about yourself
@erinb That is correct. That would not be a good thing for my marriage, which I'm extremely happy with.
