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<p style="text-align: left;">My wife loves and supports me so much as Mikayla. She is so sweet and caring. But she worries so much about my safety, a lot. She gave some resistance to me going about my daily life with black nail polish on. I got one comment in days at work, and it was a question, no hate or anything. I told my wife I'd like to do other colors than black, and she told me that someone will have a problem with that, and I'd be putting myself at risk. How do I tell her that I can't hide this from the world anymore? I've hidden Mikayla from everyone, even myself for so long that if I can't express her, I feel like just hiding away again till this life is done. I don't want to hide away. How can I tell her that life is risky for all, not just us? How do I let her know how important these seemingly little expressions of my gender fluidity are to me? Ugh, first time really depressed as Mikayla, and it sucks. I know she's not telling me these things out of shame or embarrassment, she is truly concerned. How do I address those concerns? Any help/advice would be greatly appreciated ladies.</p>
As always, lots of love
Mikayla
Yes, that's the difficult question for all of us free souls in a trapped environment.
<p style="text-align: left;">Slowly and gently is my suggestion.</p>
Read up on gender dysphoria and see if any of it relates to you.
Read some of the excellent articles in the archive here - they go back many, many years, and contains much sound advice.
The frustration may cause you to want to come out quickly, but prepare, prepare, prepare!
You have 30,000 counsellor right here.
First step - relax.
Love Laura
Mikayla! In this world......it is not to not to offend some anymore anywhere.
It was said.......Don't worry.....be happy for yourself!
Dame Veronica
Hi Mikayla,
It is wonderful to know that your wife is supportive and concerned for your safety. As Laura mentioned, there are really great articles here about our members first time out and what they have done to prepare among other great pieces of advice. And asking other members what they did to keep themselves safe is a great question to ask. I have yet to travel beyond my front door as Michelle but I think planning ahead will be essential and to be smart as to where I will go.
Hugs,
Michelle
