Female mannerisms that are too much or over the top

Mannerisms are not in my repertoire at this point. Never tried to do anything with my voice either. I agree with you though some take their mannerisms over the top. But I will say this, I think some folks don’t have to work on it they just have them even in guy mode. I don’t fall into this category so I’ve got something to work on. Although I might not want to work too hard or they might bleed over into my regular life. That would be a strange conversation to have with my extended family and friends for sure.

Hi Patty I feel the same way. My therapist recommended voice therapy sessions and along with voice therapy came help with fem movements that we all most defiantly need if we are to present our selves in public more and more. I was going to take her up on her offer but the cost of everything to further transition was getting a little much for me. My therapist did not take my Ins. so I am paying with cash $80.00 per 45 min. session twice a month. She recommended voice therapy and then HRT. I believe HRT covered by Ins but not voice therapy yet.  We are learning on the run our gg sisters learned over a life time  It is defiantly learned and we can learn it it just takes time and feedback. What is funny I did ask my therapist about some gay men having more feminine movements than some GGs. She just said they learned it and now own it. They are not born with it. Its just how they want to present them selves. That simple I guess we have to do the same learn it and own it. That simple Have a lovely day

Luv Stephanie

I think it’s good to overdo it a bit while you’re figuring things out, try things on, see how they fit then pull them back when you’re out (if you do that). I’m mostly working on basics like how to walk and stand without looking like a hulking man. I’m also starting to hold my hands different ways too, more relaxed honestly. Even practicing a curtsy for fun.

— Abbie 🥰

Hi Abbie ,

I have been using different hand movements also Like I keep catching myself holding my forearm out to the side while walking with my hand held up a bit but I think that is a bit too much.

Definitely a work in progress.

sometimes I think we try to over compensate because we are not GG

Thanks Patty

Hi Stephanie ,

Wow very pricy ,never knew how expensive it was being a woman.LOL

I definitely have more studying to do and it is so fun watching women.

They are amazing .

Melanie I am already experiencing that.

I feel I act a bit more femme in my guy life but I like it.

I do think many gay men and tg /CD's try to over compensate for their masculinity too much and it look really ridiculous to me.

Acting feminine is more a subtle thing I believe.

Of course women have varying degrees of femininity them selves .

Thanks of the input sweetie

Patty

Well as a wise being once said, you have to be yourself. If you are acting the way you feel and it fits within the norm then I would t worry about it. Lots of people act different ways, we aren't all grey blobs thinking and acting the same. Each one of us is individual, some act more so than others and vice versa. While some may act more over the top, that's there way. You just do you, don't let others dictate how you should act.

It's better to burn out than fade away!

Better to push the boundaries, go a bit OTT and see what it feels like than try to go about unnoticed, IMHO.

Because you will be noticed by someone.

Love Laura

To each his/her own and a delicate balance for sure.

Me?  I most definitely conduct myself differently in male mode versus female mode.  I would like to believe I am not exaggerating in female mode, but I do endeavor to act lady-like in my mannerisms and most definitely to conduct myself as a lady at all times when cross dressed.

A short story and a negative example:  A few years ago, while searching for a parking spot, we observed an individual, attired in a dress and a wig, taking wide strides down the sidewalk, walking very much like a man, not lady-like at all.  The non-verbal message was loud & clear, I am a man in a dress and wig.  Later, we confirmed, it was a CD we knew of.

Maybe we should think of ourselves sort of like teen girls trying to figure out womanhood.  You know, odd clothing, exaggerated cosmetics (tats, piercings!)- trying to be a woman, but still be one's self.  No adolescent girl I've ever seen became a woman overnight (my daughters, and now a granddaughter), or in a few years, or by only trying to be one on occasional days or nights usually not in succession or sometimes not even close together.

And then, unless one is seriously considering transitioning - in any manner - we only tend to live for those brief, fleeting moments where we can immerse ourselves. And that can be, and should be wonderful for what it is.

Like I've mentioned in a much earlier post (somewhere or other here), the most I've been able to be dressed was for 4 consecutive days, and during that time, (besides all the required functions), I changed clothes daily, washed off and re-applied make-up, did lots of very generic and standard household chores (washing/drying, ironing, dishes, vacuuming, dusting, etc.etc.) and the change of clothes included slacks, simple tops, simple to elaborate jewelry, dresses in the evening.

I wish I could have done it for a week, or a month (or life maybe, but that was impossible), but I just decided to try even for a short time...being normal, doing normal things.

I doubt I ever got a lot of mannerisms down, but for me, anyway, trying to just live a normal life if only for a short time, I realized, would be the start of it.  And to tell the truth...I loved it.  More than I expected.

I understand Chloe,

My femme side is just brief moments I snag hear and there .

I would give anything to spend some appreciable time en femme.

Maybe one of these days

Huggs Patty

Thats exactly what I dont want to appear to be Peggy sue, a man in a dress.

However I think trying too hard to be femme can give you away also.

Huggs Patty

Very true Laura.

Good point

Thats very True Jessica just as some women are more feminine acting than others.

Patty