Females gay radar What is it?

Don't try to figure it out Stephanie, you'll drive yourself nuts. I love my wife dearly but sometimes I just agree and walk away.

I've never understood gaydar either. Some gay men have obvious tells. It's when he doesn't have a tell that I just shake my head and say "Okay, sweetie."

I have many gay friends, both male and female. I asked one when we were out having lunch and he would point out who he thought was gay. I asked him how could he tell, did he know them from bars, stores, etc.? No, he said , he could tell by his gaydar. He said it's just the way another acts.I asked what he meant, because I thought they were acting like anyone else. He said "mostly they act more confident and comfortable than straights. No games." I think he was on to something.

It's a very interesting topic. Quick story. I went out to dinner, my family and a couple other families. I'm usually pretty engaging, and a fun time was had by all. The next day, one of the other dads reached out to me and started dropping hints that, based on dinner, he was wondering about my sexual orientation. I was a little stunned because I really couldn't think of anything I had said that woukd leave that impression. Kind of made me realize that no matter who we think we are, or portray, we are who we are. Took a while to get comfortable with that idea but I look back on that experience with a bit of a smirk now.

Hi Heather. I know now GG's survive by using skills that  we did not need to develop. I think it is their quick way of determining eligibility or not. Not sure

Stephanie

Hi Kristan I used to worry about being considered gay when out dressed . I did bring that subject up with my therapist and she just said if you are not gay why even think about it and if you are gay so what enjoy being gay. That ended that discussion real quick

Stephanie

Hi Danielle. I learned a new word gaydar. Its not a skill a ever developed. I am not sure if i have to develop that skill at my stage of life.

Stephanie

I have always had feminine traits that snuck out no matter how I tried to hide them. It is why many people thought I was gay, even my sisters. It is the primary ingredient of gaydar and perhaps even why my gaydar is so attune.

It has often affected my relationships with women. At first meeting, women are more comfortable around me as I don't project a male threat. This often leads to initial attraction as I am loving, caring and supportive, something they all claim to want. But as time progresses they become unhappy because of my lack of authoritative "take charge" behavior. They say they want the softer things in a man but then balk when not given the harder behavior. I have had several relationships over the years that started wonderfully but soured because I wasn't "man" enough.

Now, presenting full time as a woman, I can have good friendships with GG's and gays without concern about being man enough. Although a male/female relationship would be nice, at this age in my life it's not necessary.

❤

Beth

Hi Stephanie I have been to 2 all girl weddings & 1 all male wedding, the nicest thing about all of them was they were lovely people. What made it really nice was there were people I've never met before who were lovely friendly and welcoming. You could have have said to your wife yes your right isn't he lovely, would have been interesting to see her reaction. I love everybody people are interesting.

Love Sarah xx

Being Bi knowing same thing. can tell who is and who not.

Gabriela Romani wrote: Yet, I can imagine many of the sales ladies or manicurist o makeup artist have been certain about me being gay. Of course they were; everybody "knows" that all CDs are gay. In high school, I was generally presumed to be gay, though I'm not; and Bettylou had only shown herself to me a few times, in private.

Hi Celeste I think the odds are more like 50/50.  I was at a beach get together with six women including my wife all of the woman were forty years old up to sixty five. I notice one of my female cousins motion to the other to look over toward a certain direction. I turned my head to look at what all the woman were staring at there were two young men all completely tanned up with rippled abs playing football in the sand. I turned my head back toward the woman and saw five woman had managed to turn there beach chairs completely around facing those young men with sun glasses down off there head to cover their eyes. I heard one my cousins say my gay radar is up and the other said i do not care they are just wonderful to look at. I said what is going on with all you ladies its just a couple of college kids having a good time. my wife "of all people said Its not very often we get to see such beautiful young body's up close. I said "what about me" She responded by saying you did have a great body. So I ask all the ladies what is up with this gay radar thing I got no response they were all in a trance. I think now that i am thinking about it. I think those woman on all were hoping they were gay So that they could put them on the unavailable list. So they could complain there is not enough good men available. I was thinking to myself there is whole lot of good men available some of them just to prefer to dress as woman sometimes Just look beyond the clothes and you will see a beautiful man. Stephanie

Not all GGs apparently have an inbuilt "gaydar" - I know I don't - I'm generally quite clueless and the last to know!!

If gg’s have gay radar how come are you gay is almost always the first question a wife asks if hubby says he likes to wear panties? Seems to me they should know that those of us who are attracted to them are not gay even if we wear panties etc.