Femme name/alter ego

I came up with my name after the actress Lana Turner and a town in Pennsylvania, Bartonsville. Just love the way it rolls off the tongue.

Lanna💋❤

Speaking for myself, my feminine side is just an extension of my overall being. I don't view my male and female sides as different. In my situation, like most boys growing up, we're trained to be the aggressors. We're told we need to do things like play sports, be rough and tumble, basically everything that is expected of boys.

Growing up, I was never the rough and aggressive type. I sucked at team sports, though I'm much better at individual sports. I was always attracted to the softer, more feminine things in life. I much preferred playing with the girls. I could always relate to them better. It was always easier for me to talk about clothes and makeup than it was to talk football. I also much preferred playing dress up than riding skateboards with the other boys. It's taken me many years to finally reconcile the two. As a whole, my feminine side is the most dominant. However as I've gotten older,  I have been able to embrace and participate in some "male things" that I once shunned when I was younger. It took me a long time to realize I need both.

Now regarding my female name. When I made the decision to come out and present myself to the world as a woman, I felt I needed to give my feminine side a name. Not because she is the more dominant side of my personality, but because if my feminine side had a name, her name would be Cynthia. This is how I publicly choose to present myself. I have close friends who have seen me both in male and female mode, but they always refer to me as Cynthia. Even when I'm in guy mode and I'm hot, sweaty, gross, covered in grass clippings and wearing work boots, I'm still Cynthia. She will always be with me.

Its kinda funny though. Since I've reconciled both sides of my personality, my male side views Cynthia as his twin sister. He is very protective of her. Anyway this is my take on your question.

Thank you for that thoughtful reply Cynthia. Exactly what I was hoping for.

No problem Charley. I'm sure there are others with a completely different take on the subject. All equally valid.

I don't really go by another name neither and I don't plan to reveal myself even here. That is why the single letter. And I use "swim" because my only crossdressing preference is one piece swimsuits. I don't really swim very well, but I do enjoy being in the water in women's swimwear when those rare opportunities arise.

I don’t own any one piece suits but I’ve snuck them on when I was younger. I too like how they feel.

Charley......excellent for your dual personality! Makes well and fits for your natures. That may change in time and a new name and always change as you change.

Dame Veronica

Yes, I have a fem name and while a name is just a label I choose to reinforce my persona. It is not really any different than having a home / professional name. Someone may use their formal given name during their professional work hours and a less formal iteration of that same name the rest of the time.

For example, Deborah at work, Debbie the rest of the time to everyone else.

First off my SO actually came up with my femme name, Pam.  And I actually like it so it stuck ;-p

The woman inside me is always there but I do have the two sides of me. I need to be the man for my SO's sake as she married a man and desires her man. But she also accepts my female side as well. She just doesn't want Pam around all the time.

When I am en femme, I definitely feel like a different person. I think differently and feel more calm and relaxed. I would say I feel happier as well.

Thanks for the post Charley!

Pam

As you can see from the replies we on CDH are as mixed a lot as any group of humans.  Some are totally femme some view themselves as male but still enjoy wearing women’s clothing.  i see two distinct aspects to me.  One is distinctly masculine and likes to run things; the other is feminine and very submissive.  i choose a femme variant of my own name because it gives more reality to the femme me.  Also if i succeed in going out en femme a feminine name will be helpful.  There is no right or wrong way to be a crossdresser, infinite variety 

I came up with mine after debating between Jessica or Veronica. The charms is cause of two apparent features my female side has.

I do think my male side and female side are different people. One can be shown all the time and the other is slowly coming out into the light. Hopefully one day both can share the same world outside of the walls.

Interesting topic, and i’ll say again, this site and the folks here make you think about things that may have always been there, but haven’t put much thought into.

That being said, I too am closeted and have always dressed mostly in private.  Really the only reason i’ve come up with another name is for internet anonymity. I have never really viewed my dressing as a separate persona.  I do wonder how I would behave in a more public or group setting.  I am certain I would behave differently  and perhaps another persona would emerge, but it’s hard to say without having experienced it.  I doubt I would view her as a different person, more so a reaction to the circumstances  in the moment.

I do practice my manuerisms and walking and such, but I view that more so as part of the package then a separate entity I suppose.  Good topic thanks for the question

My wife gave me the name, unwittingly!

She chose a character in a murder mystery game for me to play, dictated my amazing costume, and I had an incredible time!

She even told me that I looked pretty and, when a mutual friend shared a picture on Facebook, some of the women parents at my son's school made flattering comments, especially about my legs!

All the men I know were noticeably silent...

Anyhoo, when I came to sign up here, it seemed an obvious name to use, and when I started going out regularly, and dressing more, and adding makeup, I noticed how amazingly different and more feminine I felt.

I accepted that Laura is as real as the male side of me - possibly just a part that I haven't really expressed before - but different enough for me to consider a feminine and a masculine persona.

It's not something I've deliberately gone for  but the more I go out as Laura, the more Laura I feel, and I behave differently - but there's still a core that is "just me".

It's a bit confusing to explain, but I couldn't be happier than to accept Laura as a femme persona - being her is making my masculine persona so much happier and stronger.

The more full-on I allow Laura to go, the more full-on my male side becomes.

Long periods of not dressing are somewhat depressing...

Love Laura

Meghan was a pretty feminine name to me years ago, so I assumed it for my femme side.