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Following up on my Date with my wife as promised.
Started out with getting the kids ready to go to their grandparents to soend the night, nothing exciting there.
Next we went to get out scheduled mani/pedi at a local place. That did not go well at all, at least not for me, went perfectly fine for my wife. It was an Asian ran establishment (i mean that in a non-derogatory way, its the easiest way i xan think of to describe it and ut will probably help explain things.)
The pedicure was relaxing, but i was not given the option to have my toenails painted. Which was the one thing i really wanted. Nail trimming was sloppy, nothing smoothed out. Just snipped.
I was quickly moved on to my manicure away from my wife. Next my nails were immediately snipped down to man length. Not even a warning or asked what i wanted. Just a snip and they were gone. I had very lovely nails that I painstakingly keep ckean, smooth, and the shape/legnth i like (ling enough to clickety clack them on tables and such, but long enough to raise questioning aside from an occasional comment thst i need to trim them.) I work inbthe oil fieks, so as you can imagine, my nails are hard to keep clean and nice. I was shocked and horrified to see them just snipped away. It was too late to stop it, the damage was done. Again shevdidnt bother to smooth them out or round them. Apparently, men are not supposed to care.
Went and sat with ny wife whilevthey fully took care of her nails and talked to her about what she wanted and liked. Took proper care and time to shape and polish.
Then after all that, i got charged full price for my mani/pedi. That really pissed me off. (First thing i did when i got home was fix my nails, round tgem out, polish them, and try to fix them. Seriously still ticked off about it today. Like good grief, I'm ticked off about it, and theyll grow back, but still. I think im more upset at the cost for lack of a beter word, $#**. Grrrrrr
Never going back there. I told myvwife im buying a full kit, and ill just do her nails and mine at home from now on. She was perfectly fine with this. (She was upset by nails as well, i think she left them a 1 star review, despite her own good experiences there)
Moving on
My sister-in-law picked me up, and my wife took off to go buy lunch for the three of us.
My sister-in-law took ne shopping for makeup, that turned out to more expensive than i thought. But, now i have a pretty good starting amount of makeup to use. We also picjed out a feminine body spray that we both liked.
After that we headed vack to my house, i fixed my fingernails, and ate lunch.
The following three hours were getting my makeup done along with my wife getting hers done. My sister-in-law did a wonderful job in my opinion. (My profile picture is from last night)
I was pretty skeptical off and on during the process. Each time she told me to go check the mirror, i kept sinking into further self discouragement. I did not think it was going to turn out well.
Then finally, the fake lashes were applied, and everything finished up. I checked the mirror, and thought, "that's not too bad." Pulled together nicely in the end.
I grabbed the wig cap and wig, put it on and OMG! It changed tgeventire look. Walked back put into the living room and both myvwife and sister-in-law were both suprised at how well it looked. They both agreed that it was I passable if i wanted to go out somewhere. (that is except my walk and posture...i will work on that)
The rest the night we had steamy bedroom time, movie at home with dinner, more steamy bedroom time, drive up to lake and circuit of town (11pm-ish late and little traffic.), back home for more steamy bedroom time (oh my goodness I'm exhausted today).
About somewhere around 2am-3am we had a long conversation (my wife nedded to express some insecurities she was having.) She just needed some reassurance that i wouldnt leave her, and that i wasnt interested in seeking out other alt relationships, and that i was still heterosexual, etc etc etc) we had talked aboutvthis all before, but she said seeing me all dressed up and not looking like man, looking actually passable as a tall woman. Made those insecurities come right back.
The worst part of the night was taking off the makeup and returning to drab.
All in all in was really great day, despite the debacle of the mani/pedi disaster.
She wants to do it again, so i think thats a great sign that she enjoyed it to.
Wow thanks for sharing Kyra. Sounds like a dream come true. Hope you get to do it again, when you’ve recovered!!
❤️Bianca
Not exactly sure when next time for "this" will be, but she does want me to start practicing my makeup on my own. So im guessing soon 🙂
Manicure/pedicure kit are in the amazon list along with a foot spa. Waiting for payday
Not sure if i will go again, feel rather discouraged. Its a pretty ckosed-minded town ontop of that, so doubtful I'll find s good place to try.
Really sorry about your nails, my only question being did you explain to the assistant how you wanted your nails at the beginning?.
All in all it sounds like the rest went well.
Glad to read that you and your wife engage in conversation about your crossdressing, even the most accepting SO, still needs to be
assured that her man is still there when she requires him.
Lol Amanda xx
I didnt get a chance to explain I'd like to keep my nails long when we sat down.
She grabbed my hand and took the nippers to pinky finger. I was expecting her to ask first, but she did a quick clip and it was gone.
I said, "uh, i wanted to keep those longer"
she just shook her head and kept snipping away, zero csre about what she was doing.
There was a lady sitting next to me getting her nails done and she just snickered
Thanks for sharing, sounds like the majority was a good experience. Look forward to the next time.
So happy for you Kyra. Besides the nail experience It sounds like you had a great time. Keep us informed as you progress.
Howevwr, take it slow because it sounds like your wife is going to be a great support to Kyra after she processes everything. My wife went through the same emotions that you explained your wife had after seeing you for the first time. We now go out together often and it is great having her by my side. Continue to take advantage of your sister-in-law too.
❤ Tonya
So sorry to hear of your mani/peti debacle. I had a SUPER time with mine last week. In the next few days I will share with all here.
. . . Cassie
Hi Kyra,
I'm glad to hear that your night worked out well in the end. No doubt you will have more such evenings in the future.
On the subject of the mani/pedi I'm sorry to hear of your awful experience.
Most (if not all) of the nail salons in my local area are Asian run, however, my experiences have always been good. Last Sunday I went for a mani/pedicure and was asked if I wanted rounded or square cut.
My nails are not long, but the technician... a young man... did a very good job. Once he had finished he asked me what colour I would like and I chose red. They look really nice and I have received a lost of compliments. Of course, when wearing guy clothes my nails are still varnished red and on those occasions either no-one seems to notice or again I am complimented.
I must add though that it is women who do all the complimenting and guys who do not seem to notice.
I'm sure your nights out will become better and better, Kyra.
Hugs,
Aurora
I had a similar experience with a mani/pedi. It wasn’t so much that I had my nails clipped off. They needed it. They were cracked and peeling and in bad shape. But the fact that they just assumed I didn’t wand polish of any kind, or anything special with my nails as far as shaping kinda made me feel unwanted. My female companions had great service.
I really think the general expectation is that men don’t want to be pretty or pampered. Perhaps it falls on us to be more clear with what we want upfront. But still frustrating.
I haven't tried red yet, i bought some though to try one of these times.
My wife felt bad i had such a bad experience with the nani/pedi and painted my nails for me. Lovely purple color (I can't remember the exact shade).
I just cleaned it off my finfernails a bit ago. Going up on the mountain to herd cattle again tomorrow morning. So that is something i really dont want to explain or have to come up with a lie for. Least of all my dad.
Left it on my toes though, easy to conceal, and its my happy little secret. 🙂
Kyra, that's so wonderful. I wish my wife would ask me those questions. that would mean that at least she is engaged.
Hugs, Liara
I hope she comes around for you.
I don't know what I'd do if my wife wasn't engaged. Im fortunate to have jer as not only my wife, but best friend as well.
Is she just not open to the idea? Or?
Hugs
Kyra
I came out to here years ago and she was more or less disgusted, I've suppressed it for many years and just in the past few months began to embrace my female self once again. I haven't told her that I am dressing again (sorry to say I am afraid to).
I wish that she would be my girlfriend and we would do each others nails and shop for clothes together. That would make me so happy.
Hugs, Liara
