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Hi gIrls,
Many of you Know I had fairly long friendship go wrong about 3 months ago.
This person was getting married and I wanted to send them a gift to honor this beautiful occasion.
well their security blocked me and I tried three times to apologizelogize and make amends only to dig the whole deeper.
In the end instead of feeling uplifted by this wonderful friend I had my I was destroyed.
I felt like I was just a bunch of digital data that someone could turn off with the flick of a switch.
It sure destroys your self worth.
any body else get frustrated about online only friendships?
I do enjoy my friendships here, sometimes I just wish I could meet you all, ya know.
P.S. Fortunately for a few first class members of this sight I am making it.
Sorry to hear that, Patty; we are living with a generation whose members are too easily offended and too slow to forgive and forget (if ever).
I agree with Betty Lou Patty!! We live in a society where financial wealth, power and material things are more important than human life and relationships. Just look at medicine and medical insurance companys. The dollar has become more important than a person's health and welfare, as insurance companys cancel coverage yet take premiums. I really hope your feeling better and understand that you must come from your heart and not your head when dealing with other people. Forgive them as they do not know better but you do!!!
Hi Bren and Bettylou,
I always like hearing from you and reading your posts.
I am really new to this online friendship thing.
I must say its a learning curve for me.
I have found things can be taken out of context without facial expressions and voice tone emphasis.
It is nice however to have the opportunity to meet so many special people.
so I guess it has its advantages.
But don't worry I will continue to follow by my heart.
Patty
I know what you mean Hon... I try hard to choose my words correctly so I don't offend people but I'm sure I make mistakes from time to time. If I do, forgive me, and move on. And, I've only been on-line for about a year now and I still can't do chat, go figure, old age I guess! LoL
Patty -- Thanks for sharing your experiences with virtual connections and friendships. Although we surely do feel a connection with others on this website or other platforms, text alone doesn't convey nearly as much information as voice or in person. I think I read that when we meet in person only about 10% of what we communicate is our words and the rest is subtext. We are hard-wired to pick up on subtext with all of its sarcasm, humor, love and myriad of other emotions and meanings. And subtext is conveyed in gestures, tone of voice, facial expressions, etc., none of which we receive in a written message. In part because of this, I like to meet with other CDs and SOs when possible. Plus it is just so refreshing and fun to enjoy simple pleasures like coffee, a meal, a little shopping, visiting a museum...with kindred spirits. Then I feel more like the sister I want to be.
I think theres some of both and unfortunately its really hard to tell the difference but like most other things, we won't know until we try. There are still some awesome people out there waiting to connect, keep at it Patty.
Thanks Olivia and Rochelle,
I will keep at it and try to pic my words carefully.
You are right Olivia there are a lot of awesome people out there and like Rochele said eventually maybe I will get to share some simple pleasures with them.
Thanks ladies
