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This past weekend (actually Friday - Sunday) my wife and I celebrated my birthday. She arranged for us to go away for a couple days to an Inn and Spa with massages for both of us as well as dinner. As we were packing she told me to bring something for Suzanne to wear, so I packed a pair of pajamas and panties. We left on Thursday stopping to shop on the way. We did a lot of looking in Torrid but no buying (my wife is unaware that Torrid is CD friendly). We also went to Bath and Bodyworks, they had cute hand sanitizer holders. She bought me one in the shape if a dog paw that was a fuzzy tan with heart shaped paw pads (reminds us of our dog) as well as some containers to go with it that have scented hand sanitizer and lotion. We went to the resort and checked in. The room was gorgeous with a gas fireplace, antique furniture and a large bathroom with a big tub and shower. We went to dinner which was lovely. The dining room is an in old blacksmith shop where the forge was converted to a gas fireplace which was on. The chairs were upholstered in brocade cloth. The food was excellent - my wife had a shrimp dish and I had beef short ribs. When we got back to the room Suzanne got invited to visit. I put on my pajamas and we watched the baseball game (not very romantic but we both enjoy sports). When it was bedtime I was started to get undressed and my wife said it's okay to wear my pajamas to bed. I was surprised as she never allowed that before. We went to bed but were awoken in the middle of the night by the smoke alarm. We had to get dressed to leave the room so the pajamas came off. When we got back in the room I got undressed and didn't bother to put the pajamas back on but did sleep in my panties. The following day we had a relaxing morning and in the afternoon had our massages. Dinner that night was excellent again. She had duck and I had venison. We left the following day and when we got home and were unpacking getting laundry together she told me to put the pajamas and panties in with the laundry. I was surprised as that was a first. She told me if Suzanne had any other laundry to put it in as well. I reminded her that she had said that Suzanne's laundry was to be done separate she replied she didn't remember that but she has become more accepting and tolerant of my dressing and it is okay. She also said I could spend the weekend dressed if I wanted to. I changed into a denim dress I had just gotten along with a bra and panties, changed to a pair of dangling earrings, bead necklace and she put one of her brooches on the dress. I also wore my white sandals. The next day I spent the day wearing a maxi dress, bra and panties as well as dangling earrings and a pair of cream color block heels. It has been so wonderful to be able to dress for all that time. Probably one of the best birthdays I've had.
Sorry for the length of this post, I'm just so excited to share my experience.
XOXO
Suzanne
@cdsue Oh Suzanne, I'm so thrilled for you honey. What a weekend! Positive signs of further progress. This is wonderful news xx.
@cdsue What a lovely time for bonding with your wife on your birthday (well, except for the fire alarm). Happy birthday and many more!
@cdsue That's a really heartwarming story Suzanne 🙂 I really hope things keep progressing for you on that front honey.
Hugs,
Fiona xxx
Suzanne, great story of your experience. This has been similar to the experience with my wife as well and it’s only been 6 weeks of my “coming out” to my wife in a much more immediate way.
I like the comment from her where she didn’t remember saying the laundry must be done separately. Again - relatable. Nobody wants to be thought of as non-supportive. And that’s something I always point out to my wife that anything she does I’m 100% all in on.
I think the issue with some wives being in DADT mode at first is they don’t want US to think THEY’RE weird. For being accepting of our crossdressing. You know how ladies are, I’m sure. Their first thought is - “If I accept this, what does this say about ME?” (It doesn’t mean you’re a lesbian girls!)
I know it’s a fine line we have to tread with our wives. But as long as you communicate it should be easier to navigate. Even at first I was jumping in and out of CDH. When we started discussing everything more, now I just freely check into CDH. I go back and crop some of Grace’s images without hiding what I’m doing. I’m able to express my feelings openly with her…tell her how important it suddenly is in my life to do this.
It’s not lost on me that crossdressing is a very narcissistic endeavor. We want to look good, wear nice things, get our makeup looking good. Look at it this way…you’re bringing another woman into the picture here in your married relationship. Your wife is gonna have her moments processing that. Remember it’s not just all about you and your long suppressed needs. Go slow and you will be excited by the little progressions you see happening.
GP
@gracepal thanks - it took a long time (6 years) to get to where we are but well worth the wait - as you say communication is key and I think we're both getting more comfortable with that - like fine wine it takes time to ferment to make it good, the same for CD'ing takes time for them to tolerate and accept
XOXO Suzanne
Suzanne, what a great weekend. Glad you both had a good time together and it sounds like you both grew from this experience. It always nice to be accepted.
Lynne
@lillie thanks and I think you're right about growing from the experience as well as feeling nice about being accepted
XOXO
Suzanne
What a grand event Suzanne. I'm so happy for you. Hugs, Marg
Happy birthday Suzanne! Sounds like you had a lovely vacation.
Alice
Great story and birthday gift Suzanne! It is nice to see such acceptance from your wife. She now understands how important Suzanne means to you and is reassured that both of you will continue to enjoy life living together. Congratulations
@isabella22 thank you - it took awhile but I think she realizes that her man didn't go anywhere just that there is more to him than she knew, a softer, gentler side that is expressed by crossdressing - after all she gets a girlfriend out of the deal
XOXO
Suzanne
