The living years ( thanks to Mike and the mechanics )

My Condolences, Grace, I feel for you, I lost both parents some years ago, as well.
How timely, though.
My oldest friend, we were brothers for over 50 years, and brothers-in-law for 40, passed yesterday from the damn C. We shared everything in life, for so many years, but the past few we had only seen each other occasionally. He knew how I felt about him, as I did about his feelings, but the loss I feel, and the regrets over recent years, is pretty hard.
So girls, as Grace said, only on a wider basis, hug those you love, make sure they know how you feel, and don't ever forget, the reaper can come far too quickly, enjoy every moment you can
Hugs, Regi👸💖

I lost my Mum to Polio - I don't remember her, sadly. My Dad died a couple of years ago, but we were estranged, thanks to my step-mother. I wish I'd seen what she was doing rather than just assuming it was random nastiness.

If you still have either or both parents, please mend any broken fences before it's too late.

Connie

xxx

🙏🙏🙏🙏 xx

Thanks Connie... remember the living years....we are gone a long time xx

So sorry Grace for your lost. Know still having both parents now have mended many things with them over the years. actually mending many things from the past now. Some say why other say thank you and being forgiven.  Still feel bad for not able to mend some things with my grandmother that passed away few years ago.

Donna

Hi Grace,
That’s understandable and I share a little bit of your pain.
I lost my Mum when I was 23. That wasn’t fair. My Dad died in 2012. I spoke to him on the day he passed away. He had a good life. He lived without his partner twice over. His second wife died too. Yet above all he was a man of action. His humour was sharp. He was loved by those who knew him. He didn’t suffer fools gladly.
He gave me my life and my confidence and he was a fine grandparent. I miss him. But I’m so glad he didn’t live through the last two years of misery. We all have lost friends during this awful period of time. There is no right solution or answer. However I know their lives were not pointless. I am certain they left there precious mark on many folk. And we were blessed to know them.
I watch young children grow up and I have more concern for their future lives. I hope and pray that they will be fulfilled.
I can’t explain why I have a faith but it won’t let me go. So I choose to go with it, wherever it takes me.
I have been here before and I know many have had similar journeys.

Grace, all I can give you is my love. I do not have to force it on you because you are gracious ( pun INTENDED ). You value people and when you hurt we hurt too.
So all I say is - we are here and we hear you and we care for you. I wish you peace and I wish you to feel our love.
You are strong and even the strong need support.

Time I stopped.

Love Anya xox

Mum and dad's little boy is now their lovely girl....and they love you!!!....aren't they wonderfull???....you're a lucky girl Donna, but I'm sure you know this xxxx

Losing loved ones before their time is tragic and unfair. I lost my father suddenly when I was 20. He was set to retire in 45 days and had grand plans of traveling. It hurt, it still hurts almost 40 years later. Mom continued on for another 30 years. Bless her. Another painful loss was my niece. Only 5 years younger than me we grew up almost like brother and sister. Cancer took her 20 years ago, only 43 years old. At least we got to hug and say goodbye. I miss my tomboy Molly. She could ride a horse better than most guys, definitely better than me.

I think I will cry with you Grace. 😢

Love and hugs,

Beth

Grace best parents a girl could ask for.  Know my mother is very happy to gain a daughter.

Best wishes Grace.

Donna

Oh gosh Grace it is always a sad day. I can only share your grief. My mother is still with us at 94 years of age. I  lost my dad some years ago. All I can think of is the things he gave to me and my siblings. I had to write his eulogy and after writing it we realised what each of us gained through him that was never obvious when you were young. Reading it out at the funeral was a joyous eulogy but I was in tears, as I am now.

They can take the person but not the memories. Cherish the time with those you have.

Hugs to all.

Grace sweetie, my heart breaks for your grief. The loss never goes away. Sadly both my parents are gone too. Obviously the most devastating loss as you know most recently was that of my beloved wife from  a tremendous battle with cancer that she fought with dignity and courage. Myself and two daughters were there at the end holding her hands as she slipped away peacefully, then all that pain and frustration of watching someone you love deteriorate over a long time period and not be able to stop it, just opens the flood gates and all comes pouring out. Yes I still cry, and there is a wound in my heart that will  never heal,and I often find myself talking to her picture beside the bed about the girls and their children I certainly get a great deal of comfort out of this, that some how she still is involved and connected. As for your parents Grace, i'm sure they are looking looking down with enormous pride and love at such a beautiful person you have matured into.,

Lol and massive hugs  Amanda xx

Regi,

Please accept my condolences.

Lol Amanda xx

i hear you   i lost my mom then my dad  68 days apart from each other, my mom died from lung trouble, 1 lung then she punctured the other one. had to drive her home from Florida to war saw hospital were she passed away later on, but she hung on till all the family was there. 68 days later my dad passed way from broken heart syndrome, a friend called me from where my parents lived in the county and told me that my dad is gone. i told him on the phone he might be out, No the friend said No he is gone. my mouth dropped to the floor and i drove 95 miles an hour to get out to war saw and be there. but they did not let me in to see my dad on the floor, they told me it would be better if i did not .  so its been since 2013 since they both left me and my brother.    i have lost a few of my family members and cousins since then and its been a long ride to forget but not forget its to keep them in my hearts and soul.    I play the song by mike and the mechanics in the living years and i sing it out loud and cry at the same time. so you are right about seeing people and saying hello to family members and friends before its too late.   thanks for sharing your story and prayers to you many blessing   Lucinda

Thanks for sharing Grace, hard times.

I can’t listen to that song. When it starts I have to switch it off or leave. Would just descend into a distraught wreck. Again to do with my parents, dad in particular, who died suddenly when I was 13. The song just fills me with regrets about missing us finding things out about each other just as I was starting to grow up.

Guess it has kind of driven me to live life for today. If you love somebody tell them, if you have something good to say about somebody tell them, if you want to do something with somebody, ask them, Don’t live with regrets, and if you can do something good today with somebody don’t put it off until tomorrow.

❤️Bianca