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It's amazing how far the gay/lesbian rights become much better then before. I know in person more then one gay and more then one lesbian. They have more rights then say 100 years before. They have their own places and language. Even non liberal people mostly accepting them. Sure, still not perfect but good progress.
Then us: First, I don't even know what I am. How to describe myself? what's the right term? is Transgender equal to CD? No language, no meeting places, Let's face it: I'll probably die before that I'll meet in person another one like me. No accept from most of the other. Sure, there are Trans/CD friendly shops, the Internet, this great community, some basic laws in some places.
I don't want to complain here. I lived like that all my life and I'm accepting my state. I am what I am, I'm proud of myself, and I can't be anything else. I just wonder if ever in the future our state will be similar to the gay/lesbian community? I can guess, and I don't have any information, that our kind has much greater part in the total population than the gay/lesbian community, still we are the freaks hiding in our place alone. Most of us.
Sorry, last little sadly post from me 🙂 99.9% of the time I'm happy and positive. But even strong soul like my can break for a second. I'll be back to only the happy things
I think we come under the Q+ - the little added bit at the end that people still don't want to give a name to.
Don't forget that in 1885 or thereabouts, it became essentially illegal to be gay, people were systematically imprisoned, killed by the state and tortured (sent to "correction centres") - it was horrific to be gay between then and 1967.
The main point is that we are included in that community - and any other. Only idiots exclude us from anything.
Go join in with a Pride event!
Drag Queens do - and they're in a league of their own (lovely ladies, all!), and that's what we do. DrAG.
Love Laura
As I have stated, previously, I consider a lot of us, as transgender, which I believe,is the t,in LBGTQ? We present, as women, feel, as women, act, as women, we are NOT, just crossdressers
That being said, the more of us, that do, get "out" there, the more we are seen, for good, and bad.
We can only strive to move forward
Hugs, Regine👸💕
Since I started cding, I've identified as trans, enbee (NB). It's how I see myself. Somewhere in between. I don't know that I'll take the legal step in that direction, as I live in a southern state, where such things are still not as widely accepted, and where impediments are placed in your way. Besides, i know who i am. I don't necessarily need a bunch of people i don't know or care about to create documents about it.
Bridgette enbee
Okay....
I'm a straight male....
but as Grace, all I ask society, is to let me.....
Exist, Live, Act, Think, Express and Dress as a female....so I guess i'm under the label "ELATED" lesbian .....and although it's how I feel.........I so HATE labels...
So please just call me grace xx
I too, dispise labels. Even the term Transgender is considered an umbrella term, which means there are many facets to the Transgender construct. I feel I personally an Transgender, or another term that fits close to home is gender fluid. Gender fluid because I wear women's clothes but 90% of the time I look male while doing so. Why am I at CDH then? Well, not wanting to get into great debates about gender and such, I was gendered as male my entire life, so when I first dressed in girls clothes, I called myself a CD. But then as I learned more and more about who I am, I learned that... I am NOT wrong for being ME. I could talk at length about this in person but I don't want to offend someone by typed words. I personally think that a CD falls under the Transgender category, as does Gender Fluid or Non Binary. But, others will disagree with me for sure. That's ok.
Labels are other peoples perception of what category they think you should be in. If you don't conform as these boxed society expect, then you are categorised to nearest that society think. Take us we are immediately dumped in the gay category. But we are male, not all of us have the same sexual orientation but this is never considered. "Why" there is no difference between a gay man in a dress or a crossdresser or a pre op Tran. We're just human beings.
Hi Maya You are right the gay and lesbian movement has come along way in the past 100 years. So has the woman's movement. I know it is our governments have to create laws to enforce the rules. Society is you and I and every one around us. We have to change rules by being more visible to those around us. Participating in Pride day events. So what if your seen wearing something cute and pretty. The fashion police have bigger things to do than coming to arrest those men who enjoy wearing feminine clothing. They have insure that woman feel uncomfortable about their bodies and their looks. I mean really stress them out about their weight because they have the solution that is for sure. We are just as much a part of the woman's. as we are apart of the LGBTQ community. I admit it, I am a lesbian always have been and always will be.I just love woman. Men just do not do it for me I have been there done that. Now i just have to convince society I am a lesbian no matter how I am dressed. Great subject.
Luv Stephanie
Bridgette, I'm with you on this one. I consider myself non-binary, which to me, really just means I'm not playing society's, "you have to be male or female" gender game. I just want to express my gender however I feel like. But, like other designations, I think we ultimately fall under the huge transgender umbrella.
But, enough with labels, I'm going to go enjoy my coffee, while wearing a red mini, and getting red lipstick marks on the white mug. 🙂
Birel
Way back when (like a year or two ago, maybe 5, I forget) I was pretty sure I understood all the LGBTQI+ letters...and symbols. And knowing that and making a general assumption, I was like, okay, I fit in there somewhere. Well, if it were that easy, acceptance would probably be a little quicker or sooner than it seems to be.
Problem is, it appears the definitions keep changing slightly as more people get involved and since absolutely every last person is slightly different than any other person, well, it seems to encourage that not only do the definitions change, but the people who want to be included sort of help change them to make it easier for themselves to be included and eventually accepted.
Or, as seems to be the case more and more, once a group of similar individuals latch onto one of those letters and begin to see a glimmer of acceptance, they seem to become very possessive and demanding that there be strict entrance rules into that letter designation.
Rather than saying ‘we’re all in this together, lets make sure we help each other’, it seems to be more the case, “I’ve got mine (or am making significant gains), you, who doesn't exactly match our definition, go take a hike.’ I just don’t understand.
So, I looked up the ‘definitions’ and guess what, the latest I could find was like 2017, which is only 4 years ago, but in today’s world, that’s a lifetime or more.
Hi Maya good post I personally hate labels of any description, I consider myself a very feminine male who loves being female. The big world calls me a crossdresser as the song says I am what I am, so live with it big world. The thing thing that irks me I see younger crossdresser's out with there friends the public just smile, I have seen mature cd's & trans people and the public call us f******* queers. Why discriminate we are nice people.
Love Sarah xx
