Gender and dressing.

Wonder how many men would dress if was more acceptable to society?

Count me as a yes for this.

Where did it change?

My guess is that it was for religious reasons. Isn't a man being feminine a sin?

Hi Jane

Where did it change indeed? Where did it all go wrong?

When did societal norms and expectations become so polarised. I think the media, TV , and film have a lot to do with it. Years of deriding, insulting, portraying cross dressers as objects of ridicule, or sexually deviant, or comical figures has made it socially unacceptable. Driving many of us into keeping our ‘guilty’ pleasure secret, for fear of insults, ridicule, and being ostracised by those nearest and dearest to us. When many of us just ask ourselves, ‘What am I doing that is so wrong? So heinous that I have to hide this wonderful part of me! Am I doing anybody any harm? Well the most harm is probably to our own mental health! It’s so frustrating.

If it was more normal and acceptable in society I would 100% be more adventurous. Womenswear is just so much more fun and interesting and colourful and varied and comfy and sexy and chic than drab menswear. I think I would feel I would look better, and call me shallow but I think if I feel good about how I look, it is good for my wellbeing.

❤️Bianca

If a man being feminine is a sin, I'm seriously screwed.   Honestly, I'm no theologian, but I have never come across the Lost 11th Commandment - "Thou shalt not wear a Dress" in the Holy Bible.  Same with the Golden Rules or the Koran to the best of my knowledge.

I think commandments 11 to 15 are on the third tablet that Moses left up the mountain!

We used to play a game with the teen when they were younger to find out how many they had broken on any given day!

-A.

If society didn't care about what people wear, I would so take advantage of that! Of course, without the stigma, lots of closeted CD's would have no reason to hide who they are.

Sigh, I probably shouldn't go into religion, but I will throw a couple of my thoughts out there. Religion has been weaponized, at least that is how I see it in the US. People will use religion as justification for their hate, to promote their political beliefs, etc. The bible has been translated differently to make people think that it said being gay is a sin. I believe the bible should be taken with a grain of salt.

I was raised "religious", now I consider myself "spiritual". But, back to the original point, yes, I think we have organized religion to blame for anti-CD views, as well as lots of hate in the world. My belief is: We are valid, dress how you like, love who you want, we are lovable, we are enough, live and let live! 🙂

Birel

Wonder how many men would dress if was more acceptable to society?

I know that I would.  I love wearing panties,  bra, stockings, boots,  leggings and some lingerie.  I really haven't done much of anything else,but given the chance freely I would.

Isn’t a man being feminine a sin?

I'm told that yes it a sin for man to wear women's clothes,  but also that GOG loves you for who you are.

I don't wear much women's outer clothes. What I wear is mostly the lingerie, bra and panties.  I have a goatee and mustache that I like but won't shave.  I'm just one of those few that loves being in women's clothes when I can get the chance.  The wife always tells me that it's fine for panties but nothing else unless she doesn't know about it. That makes it harder for me to dress up when I want to.

I would wear more if it were socially acceptable. I love dresses and skirts.

I've come to think of my dressing as do most I think that it is an extention of my feminine traits,  also that it helps me to embrace and bring out these feelings. Ultimately I believe that my feminine side makes me a better person. Giving me a better understanding of how things at least should be. If we could just get people to get over what I we like to wear.

I don't know why it is so wrong for us to dress as we see fit. I love feminine attire. All of it. Hair , makeup , pretty top , dresses and don't forget tight jeans and leggings. Jewelry ? Of course. It is so not accepted that we hide it. I live in rural Wi. and when I go places dressed both with or without my wife we are certainly in a minority when in a dress or  very feminine attire. Funny how accepted it is for a large segment of the female population to dress as I do as a man while at work everyday. When I started first started going out enfemme I found it impossible not to draw attention to myself. I try to always present 100 percent as a attractive.... as I can be anyway.....confident proud woman. I don't understand why  it is any worse of us to try be the women we want to be than it is for women to project as men in their choices everyday. I don't care but I don't see what all the fuss is about. This is my first post. I hope I don't sound like I am trying to put anyone down. Only that we all should be able to present anyway we prefer without any repercussions. Love reading your posts girls.

Society decides what either gender should wear I suppose. You are expected to dress within certain standards as a man with little room for varying it. Women certainly have the better deal of the two genders.

Wasn't long ago that Women were expected to wear dresses or skirts with hosiery routinely. Now quite the opposite. Does that mean many women don't enjoy wearing the clothing many of us enjoy?

Yes at times I think it would be wonderful if we could all dress without gender limits. Women can express themselves in so many more ways with multiple combinations as well as hair and makeup. I find skirts so much more comfortable than pants. On the other hand if we all dressed the same then we would miss out on expressing our feminine and girlie side since we would all be the same like wearing uniforms . I think I like the gender differences because we act and feel different and get to enjoy a different world

I find that most of the ladies I dated were fine with panties on me and some even turned and had me wear theirs when we had the same size. I made sure to tell any woman about the panties but only those before we were intimate. For anything else the relationship had to be much deeper.