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(I didn't know where to put this letter, but since it was my introduction to about 80 of closest Facebook friends, I thought it might belong here.)
Wow that's interesting reading very thought provoking.
Thankyou for sharing.
Hi Laurie, Teralynn here. Even though you have been a registered member for quite a while now, this gender reveal party post is sort of like a an introduction so why not here? I did not find out about Teralynn until I was 51, and now I am almost 71! I never had any gender dysphoria when I was young or felt the need to embrace a feminine persona until the knowledge about Teralynn was given to me during meditation. Once I dressed completely in feminine attire and took a look at myself in a mirror I knew they were right. Teralynn had been there all the time just patiently waiting to be recognized! Now I am comfortable as John or Teralynn and for me it is situational. There is times when my wife needs John to step forward and do some of the things that he always took care of in the marriage. At other times Teralynn is free to dress in feminine attire and be the loving compassionate being that former Marine John normally was not. I had no trouble to adapting to the idea that both personas were me! After all, every once in a while a being has to think “outside of the box” in order to make sense of it all! After learning about Teralynn I did a lot of research on crossdressing and related matters and stumbled across something I found very credible called “cell memory” that offered me further proof that what I was told about Teralynn could very possibly be true! Sometimes you feel a thing is true but can provide no evidence that it is! Then there is a scientific breakthrough that provides you with a way to prove what you felt was right all along. I found nothing about your post that was objectionable or inaccurate. However I find no fault in a family enjoying a gender reveal party as long as they pay attention to the child after birth and recognize the child may not fit into society’s normal box. What the heck is normal anyway? Some psychiatrists may diagnose me as schizophrenic- Do you understand that you cannot be John and Teralynn? My reply would be -? Oh yes I can! I recommend that you do some research on “cell memory” yourself. I think you would find it fascinating! If you are interested in doing that send me a private message and on the subject line put “Cell Memory” and I will send you the references to check out! Thanks for providing us with an interesting and thought provoking post! - Blessings from Teralynn
Hi Lorie!
I believe putting this testimony of incredible bravery in the introductions forum is quite appropriate.
You knocked my socks off. This is incredible and you are amazing!
Hugs
Autumn
Lorie,
Thank you SO much for posting this. You write eloquently about a subject so very difficult for many of us to even talk about with our friends and family. I pray your message is well received by all and brings you only blessings.
-Jen
Thank you all for your responses, you are a loving bunch.
The response was wonderful, lots of support. In Facebook, I used Custom for the audience, and chose a select group of my 83 closest friends on FB, lol. If there was anyone uncomfortable with my reveal, they didn't say anything.
After I posted it, I felt a sense of relief and confidence. Honestly, that confidence comes and goes, but because most of the People were from my church, I decided ot dress en femme as Loren at church the last few weeks. It's been so liberating. Not much time to chat after service bc of social distance, but it's been great to go out or talk on the phone to share more of my experience.
One friend says she can accept it, but she didn't seem to really understand it. She said "I can see where you might choose to be a girl or you might choose to be a man, but what is it when you are both? I thought, "Choose? That's not it. It's not a choice. It just is." But if it's been baby steps for me, it will be baby steps for others, sometimes, too.
Another cis woman told me they had a trans woman hired at work, and she said she would get into conversations where she wanted the tg to ADMIT they were trans. She said she is fine with it but she needed the TG to admit it. I tried to explain that she is a woman, period, but my friend did not accept that. Baby steps.
The most common question I get is, "So how do I talk to you? Which name do I use? Which pronouns?" I say, "I'm still workiing on it." lol.
One man (whom I didn't know was gay) asked me "Why do you dress up? I assume its to attract men, right?" I said, "No, I dress up because this is how I feel natural and feel like I'm being me. It feels like I am complete." (I'm sure there are plenty of cds and tgs who DO want to attract men, that's cool.)
The most important thing is that I'm feeling so much more comfortable in my "skin." More gender euphoria.
Hugs, Loren.
How. Did. I. Miss. This?
Beautiful unpacking of one of the big issues.
So well considered and researched - a very beautiful and important work.
You are amazing, Lorie!
Love Laura
