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Hi Ladies,
Well more and more my femme side seems to be popping up, and out. This weekend (yesterday) was a classic example.
I had recently purchased a pair of darling (womens) loafers, and wore them out in public for the first time. Mind you I was with my SO (who does not approve of my dressing), nor does she like the fact I shave. Just shaved my legs completely, also yesterday. She has not noticed that yet, but did notice and comment on the shoes, mentioning she had never seen them before, and was looking rather concerned. They are definitely feminine which I love, and it felt sooo goood to wear them.
I was wearing short (invisible) bootie socks and of course my usual womens tight jeans, panties and cammie under my shirt. The whole vibe was great, however anxious at times. We visited some consignment stores, where I found another great pair of jeans. My SO noticed me browsing in the womens section, which I openly do now, not even bothering with mens clothing. I bought the jeans, and will be wearing them soon. I know the SO is very suspicious right now, and I want to talk with her about this, and my continued strengthening desire to dress. I'm letting my finger nails grow, and have them nicely groomed, although not painted. I could not do this because of work. I find myself just wanting to, and doing more. I don't know how this will all end, but I'm just letting go more and more. It's bound to come to a head. I'm hoping for the best.
Thanks for "listening", and letting me vent.
BTW, saw a fantastic pair of knee high boots I will soon be investing in. Very obviously fem, and will be wearing those out soon as well.
Frightened!
You could start talking , Myself I found this article on line and it described my cross dressing to a T. So I printed it out and showed it to her and she read it, but it still took time for her to truly accept it. I just took baby steps. And like now,this weekend we went shopping and we bought tops, skirt, earrings and makeup. I wish you the best and pray that everything works out for you. I have been there believe me. Hopefully you SO will embrace the feminine side of you . Mine has and it’s pretty awesome 👠👗👙💄
My wife has started noticing things too, just not sure how to approach the subject. Josie you wouldn't by chance remember where you found that article would you?
She needs your support. Period. You have an agenda you must share with her. S/O, significant other, we must realize we are asking for sexual fluidity from someone who did not sign up for it. I see it this way, but do not think I came to this place without sickening doubts, if we are bold enough to begin transition and dress en femme publically we owe our partner the boldness to be open with them.
This said the horrible period leading to this realization I put horrible strains on our relationship being confused and unhappy. What it took was accepting fully myself I could no longer conform to expectations of society as a male and never really did. It made me a divided soul. Accepting Maria as my truth and feeling her power I realized that I could no longer live divided. From this I have chosen to embrace joy. My wife sees the joy and it made acceptance and even the conversations easier. Love is what matters. This is a test of not just her love for you but your love for her by sharing something fundamental to you.
My word I do ramble, but I hope in my word salad you find something of value. My thoughts are with you both. Seriously rugged emotional landscape to negotiate
hugs to you both honey and be as bold in word as deed. You both deserve it♥️
Thank you, sweet heart!
Hello Rebekka,
I have not come out and told my SO about my cross dressing. I started with a conversation about my femenen side. I told her that at this point in my life I am tired of hiding that part and need to be true to my feelings to reflect my inner femme. After the conversation she noticed my change in shaving, nail growth, hair growth, weight change and keeping my facial hair very short. My mannerisms have also changed. I have started wearing more gender friendly clothing such as v neck, scoop neck shirts in more “femme colors” and wearing shoes like Toms and even pushing for flats. Above all else paying attention to her needs with even more detail. I have read so many times about the shock to some SO about cross dressers coming right out and saying it. I think this transition will open the door to more understanding when the time is right. Looking forward sharing stories with you and others as we continue this journey. 💐❤️
Thank you Courtney!
I've been wearing female/womens blue jeans almost exclusively now on weekends, including "booties", the short womens boots, I have 3 pair now, and knee highs and such. Recently I purchased an really cute pair of womens loafers, very low profile and obviously womens shoes. I wore them out (with my SO) for the first time last weekend. She noticed and commented on them, and looked a bit surprised, but did not say more.
When I get home I jump into my capri length jeans. She has not said anything about this.
My legs are completely shaved now, as is my chest and most of my genital area, but she has yet to complain. I'm sure she will at some point. My next step in dressing is womens tops. I've seen so many blouses I want to buy and wear, and will eventually. That will be a tricky one. I do wear camisoles and panties under my clothes on the weekend, and have to find time (at the end of the day) to quickly slip out of them without her seeing. This weekend I'll wear my shoes again, and I'm planning on buying another pair in a different color.
Lastly I've started letting my nails grow, and keeping them groomed. I do have to be conscious about this however, when it comes to work too. Sigh.
Hope we both do fine!
Hi Rebekka . Sorry to say but "picking up on signs" as you say is an understatement.. Your being as subtle as a hand grenade. Lol I highly doubt your fooling her at all. BUT she hasn't run away yet, so maybe you got one of the good ones. Better hang on tight and come clean and pray for the best. All the best. Mikayla
Hi Mikayla,
Yeah, you are probably right. Guess I am being a bit more than obvious. We'll see where things go from here.
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