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Want to share my experience over the last couple weeks.
A few weeks ago my wife and I went for mani-pedi's which we do every couple months. I got a light pink gel on my toes and clear gel with a pink tint on my fingers. Last week I attended a meeting and after the meeting one of the women came up to me and complimented me on my nails (fingers only as I was wearing closed toe shoes). I thanked her and told her my wife and I go for mani-pedi's every couple months. She said she tried talking her husband into going to get his nails done but he won't do it. Then yesterday I was at lunch with some ladies and a couple of them asked if I had a manicure. I told them the same thing. They also said they would like to get their husbands to do the same but they won't. I told them there are a lot of men that fo to the nail salon to get their nails done, especially their feet.
It felt wonderful to have my manicure noticed and commented on in a positive way. It's little things like that that make me feel good without having to out myself. Has me thinking that with the holidays coming I may need to get some holiday appropriate earrings to wear instead of my usual studs or hoops when I go out.
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Suzanne
That's great, Suzanne, it definitely is nice to be noticed and complimented, it doesn't happen to men very often.
I was particularly interested in the other women trying to get their husbands to do the same. Years ago my wife and I were out shopping, I was wearing a long Asian shirt and baggy trousers in a silky fabric. One lady asked my wife how she "got" me to wear clothes like that. My wife just said, "Oh, he buys his own clothes, he wears what he likes."
Allie x
@alexina yes it is - I understand what you're saying older generations are harder to change but we're slowly coming around - that was a nice reply by your wife
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Suzanne
@cdsue I have been complemented on things I was wearing a few times and it was so validating. Getting complements on something like my nails is a whole different level of validation. Good for you Suzanne!
@lauren114 it is nice getting the complimetns and about nils is a whole different validation
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Suzanne
That’s lovely Suzanne.
It’s interesting, the number of women that seem to want their husbands to go for a mani/pedi with them.
My wife wouldn’t go herself, so she never going to encourage me to go 🙂
@lucyb112 it is interesting how many women want that, could be they don't want to help them trim their nails or that their feet are nasty and need work - that's a shame she wouldn't go - out of curiosity have you asked her you may be surprised
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Suzanne
@cdsue When I was in the service, I got stationed in Far East Asia at a base that allowed families to come as well. A friend and I would get our haircut at a local barber shop downtown where they did manis and pedis while we were in the barber chair. When our wives got there, they suggested we get our haircuts on base. We were in our early twenties at the time and there might have been a bit of jealousy going on. I like to get my nails done now that I am retired and am not as likely to break them while working.
@tia that must have been nice getting a haircut - I can understand your wives getting jealous though - that's nice that you get your nails done now that you're retired.
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Suzanne
Congratulations on getting noticed. Unfortunately, it also demonstrates the gender-phobia that still exists. Getting a manicure or pedicure has been so much associated with women that many men refuse to do it, even if it doesn't involve any polish on their nails.
@alison-anderson thanks - -gender-phobia is still there for sure - hopefully over time more men will avail themselves of it
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Suzanne
I have had several comments about my nails nearly.all.positive or at worst neutral. All where while in otherwise drab mode. Most just complememt the color, and most were from.women, but I have had to comments from men. One said he loved my color, and then showed me his immaculately done nails with very detailed designs on them. I just said wow and he said yeah, it takes a lot of time. The other was around my bicycle racing buddies.one asked if I go a manicure and I said yes, and have a clear coat on to help stop splitting, which is true, but I didn't say I do color as well.
I wear color occasionally and nobody cares, but I almost always have a clear coat, which actually does help with cracks and splits. I also frequently wear a Sally Hansen color called Rainbow Rave which is a very light, translucent pink that is almost undetectable except in strong sunlight, and even then barely noticable. Two coats does show more, buy is still subtle except in bright sunlight. I wore it pretty frequently for six months before my wife even noticed.
@jjandme thanks - that is wonderful that you're able to share aobut your manicures - I'm sure that gentleman's nails looked great - I have gotten designs on my big toe for the holidays - it does help with splitting for sure - I get clear on my fingers with a light pink tint (one coat) which isn't that detectable - I do gel though so it is shiny.
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Suzanne
I was in a nail.salon onve surrounded by a bunch of ladies and one asked if I ger my nails done for myself, or my wife. I just said bot, and that was that. I would.love to get them done often, buy it is so expensive. I already spend $100 a month on waxing.
@jjandme that was a great answer - yes it can get expensive - it's about $100 apiece when we go - we both get gel on our feet and hands but it lasts a long time so worth it - never tried waxing (ouch) and don't think my wife would go for it so I shave which does help me feel femme
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Suzanne
Would love to go to a nail salon or even a spa weekend , think it is only my self holding me back , would enjoy it once I got there its just plucking up the courage , I know my wife would be up for it and drag me off in a jiffy .
@sugden you should go for it - my wife and I talk about doing a spa day - hopefully soon - we've done it a couple times, very relaxing - we go to the nail salon every couple months and make an afternoon out of it a great way to spend time together - the nice part is that you don't have to get polish if you don't want to or you get color or just go with clear - when we first went I just got clear then we talked and she said I could get color if I wanted which I did next tie we went (only on my toes though)
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Suzanne
It is a nice story, Suzanne. I am glad for you.
Getting compliments on your nails is a great feeling. In my case it has been very satisfying because I do them myself and combine colors. But I don't usually wear colored ones in male mode.
I could use another pedicure soon.
Gisela
I’ve had pedicures for over ten years. Both my grandfather and dad had foot problems that led to sores and sepsis. I go with my wife and we get matching color that we pick out together. If people ask my response is that it matches hers. If they persist I say it’s way better than looking at dirty or discolored nails and most men should get their toes colored because their nails are usually grosser than cis girls. I just wish my wife would be the way she is about nails with dressing and makeup.
@staciebobacie a very good reason to get your nails done other than the obvious one for us girls - I like your explanation as to having color on your toes, I'll have to remember that as it is very true - give her some more time maybe she'll some around on dressing and make up
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Suzanne
