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Getting out is hard enough - as a married hetero Male To Female Crossdresser, I have to coordinate both lives. Schedules can be daunting, finding the right events to attend in a "small town" without running into folks that are "his" friends. But the hardest for me has been getting someone to go out with. I have a cadre of girl friends (and one guy friend) who know Julie and want to get together. But they also have lives and schedules and families. Then, one of my first Sister Friends recently passed away. She was single and the most available for get togethers. I miss her, for that reason as well as many others.
This post isn't going to give any answers or provide any insights. It's just an expression of a low feeling. I know it will pass and things will change. But until they do, I'm in the doldrums.
Thanks for your time and attention.
@juliemshaw Julie, you know we have your back. At least you have some girly time to get out and about. More than a lot of us 😢.
Hugs, Chrissie xx.
But the hardest for me has been getting someone to go out with.
If you can't go out with your wife at your side, things could get complicated. And if you go abroad on your own, especially en femme, then you may feel the pressure of going against society, a lonely battle in its own way.
Let's hope that this changes soon. If you can find a local CD group, you will find lots of acceptance and some opportunities to dress in public.
@harriette I have been trying to start a local CD group here for 20 yars -- no takers. When I first moved here there was a group, but the soon disbanded for some reason.
My wife knows about Julie, is supportive, but prefers to not participate.
@juliemshaw Spokane isn't all that small, but it is in the eastern side of your state, so my guess is that the population isn't necessarily all that liberal.
Have you tried using the MeetUp app / service to find CD groups or to start one?
@juliemshaw I have no miracle answers, but concentrate on what will make you happy, and it will happen.
@juliemshaw Hang in there, girl. There are groups and events and people out there that will welcome you in - you'll find them!
I spent over half a year looking, but I found local people and it's changed my life!
I am in the same situation, I have to be Clara away from home and at time that is not easy.
Same here girls, Gail has to find time and opportunities that dont overlap with home life. One thing is that not only here but also on facebook there are quite a few groups that advertise their functions. I met and still remain in contact with several other girls that I know will be at some of the events I will be going to, so there is usually at least one or two friendly faces. Keep looking around there are lots of us out there and we are all looking for someone to connect with.
Love
Gail
HI Julie, Melodee is right. There are groups that are out there. I looked up PFLAG Spokane and found out that they meet the last Sunday of the month. PFLAG's are welcoming and you can go and just say that you are an ally. You can attend dressed or drab and you will probably learn a lot, help a lot and make friends. They may be participating in Pride Activities too and usually the church groups that are allies will be at PFLAG meetings also. From those meetings you will most likely find friends and activities to be part of. Safe Journey, Marg
Hi Julie, I can commiserate with you in your quest to be out ‘n about in your feminine persona… I wrote an article about my “first time” as I explained the moon, stars, sun and planets were all aligned. for Leonara to attend a cd/tg get together… to make a long story short.. I had a great time and wondered why it took so long lol.
Good luck, I hope you find a welcoming cd/tg group..
Leonara 🌹
Julie I’m so sorry for your loss, people we are comfortable enough to share this with are truly dear friends. They are people we trust with something even our families aren’t trusted with, if I can give any advice to others I’d say treasure them. Tomorrow isnt promised to any of us and telling them how much we appreciate and love them is something we all should do. Hugs and love to you Julie, remember the good times and pay forward the friendship she gave to you. Ty for sharing
