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To my girlfriends of CDH
Thank you for your acceptance, love and believing. It's been a long tense 5 days. Starting Thursday of forum topics with wife. We'll be married 45 yrs on 22nd. Very thankful. She's known of CDing for over 30+ yrs but as sexual compulsion. Only realized intensity for 4yrs. Accepting to degree of boundaries not comunicated on stone. Been open and tried to educate thriugh books, which she never finished, or CDH SO area. She hates internet and social media. Been through counseling seperate and together. Been out few times together, so she says I've let you do that. Big adventure was with Roberta 2 months ago on boat. Last time dressed. Lost joy and happiness since then. Alwsys looking over shoulder. You on the site again, those people don't know you. I've let her hear and read forums and see photos. You're my only outlet, know she needs one also but not willing to find one. Discussion of Keystone, but she refuses. Asked what if I go alone 💩 hit the fan. Started feeling flu starting, so guess the mighty purge machine swept in. She said this is last time. So everything went to trash😭 should've kept quiet 🤐 . Oh well done is done. Now both sick with damn flu im recovering she's in middle of it. Binge watch Pirates of Caribbean all 5. Best quote was to Keith Richards. "Dad you've seen it all, done it all forever. It's a trick isn't it a trick to survive" "it's not a trick TO Survive forever, but can you survive with yourself forever". Not bashing wife I understand her struggling with this.
So with that said Ginger is in hibernation. I'll look for replies till May 1st. Interesting to see how many. To all I've had contact with thanks for sharing. To my 3 BFF Roberta, Barbara and Gabby stay sweet and "positive"
Sad hugs & loves
Ginger 😪🤧
Hi Ginger, you had me in tears reading your post, partly because I feel so sorry for you that your SO is that negative and also because I went through a similar thing with my wife. But I was a little more fortunate. With the help of a girl, Kandi, who has her own blog called Kandi's land and some of my girl friends here at CDH my wife has become accepting of my crossdressing. I, like you, gave my wife the info on how to join the SO group so she could talk to other women who may have the same issue she does. Her reply at that time (2years ago) was, "I don't feel like listening to a bunch of stranger's tales of whoa". Then when I went on to Kandi's Land she had a letter she had done called 'A letter to the wives of crossdressers'. I gave it to my wife to read and the change in her attitude from reading that letter was amazing. We started talking more, civilly, rather than shouting at each other. If you feel comfortable in sending me your email via private message I could send it to you today. Or if you're not comfortable with that please go to Kandi's Land on the net and you can find it there. It sounds like you're at your rope's end so why not give it a try. It really sounds like you have nothing to lose. Good luck and a big hug from me girl.
Trish 💖🤗
Thanks Trish
I'll look it up. Let you know
Hugs ❤️
Hi Ginger,
Kandi just revised her whole web page so I had a look and the letter isn't as obvious as it used to be. Once you're on her site you'll see the seach logo in the upper right hand corner. Just click on it and type in "a letter to the wives of crossdressers" and it will come up. It worked wonders for my wife and I and I hope it does the same for you.
Trish 💖
Hi Ginger,
Very sorry to hear of your problems with your SO. Keep the communication going. If the counselor hasn’t worked perhaps, a different one might work.
Hope you recover quickly from the flu. Happy anniversary on the 22 th.
Alice
Sorry to hear of your problems but you know it will never go away... sigh.
I don’t know you well Ginger but my heart hurts all the same. Your story is so sad and personal but I applaud you for sharing it, it is truly heartbreaking. I always talk about honesty being the best policy but yours is a tale that may make me reconsider. No one knows your wife as well as you do, so only you know if she can handle such a revelation, unfortunately in your case Ginger this didn’t work out well. I hope things go well for you moving forward and with any luck we will see you back on cdh soon! Hang in there Ginger life has a way of working out.
Thanks Melanie. You're another Jersey girl. I was born and raised in Scotch Plains and Long Valley. Small world
Stay strong and positive
Hugs
Yes Michelle and that's complicated the issues
Hugs
Thanks Alice. We were always near eachother thanking on forum ❤️
I'm so sad for you Ginger, the tears are flowing freely as I type this. 🙁
Hang in their girl, we're all here for you.
Hugs,
Lauren
Thanks Lauren,we always thank about same time
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Ginger -
Sorry to hear of your situation. Hope things change in the future. You will be missed.
XOXO
Suzanne
Hugs & kisses,
W.
Dear Ginger,
Life is full of ups and downs but I am sorry to hear of what you two are going thru. Only thing I can offer is my hope and prayers that somehow her heart will soften. Stay strong, love your wife more than ever and give this one to God and let him guide you thru this.
Roberta
