Girls night

To begin, I want everyone to know I am taking a brief leave from the chat. I do however want to check in with something that has been on my mind as of late. I realize that we are  all in   different places as to where we are depending on our living situations and just how we see ourselves in general in relation to who we are with our femininity. There is no right or wrong here to this. I do however take exception to some things that plague me.  As many of you know and as some of you do this as well, get together to have a girls weekend. This gives so many of us a  chance to  actually meet with the other members in CDH that have become close to us during interaction throughout the time we are in chat and I myself have made some , what I hope , are lasting  friendships. So this allows so many of us to present as woman or for those of us that are transitioning, a chance to further those bonds we have made and just have a great time. What does bother me however, and I am just going to be honest about this, is when plans are made with other members for such a girls night out and then , someone decides that they will only underdress or meet in drab. This does not constitute a girls night out. While so many here have gone to great lengths to prove a point about femininity being what is from within more than outwardly and wanting the respect of others for this action, please know, it is a great disrespect to those of us that do work so hard at presenting as women or are transitioning when someone plans a girls night out only to feel underdressing or being  drab is acceptable. This is not a girls night out. And it is very much not what those of us that are in a much different place are going to be ok with. I'm not going to apologize for what I am saying here. While I respect everyone for their situation, whether it be an unaccepting marriage or just some one not really wanting or needing to go further, please also understand what the other side of this means to those of us that lived in self torment and repression of how we identify and finally begin our journey to happiness. When someone makes plans for a girls night out and does not respect what that means to us by underdressing or being drab. to us, it trivializes and demeans us. How is that ok ? When one wishes to make plans to meet or thinks they would like to meet another member here, and it can be a wonderful feeling, I know because i have had such a night out. Please know exactly who you are dealing with and where they are at in terms of their femininity. If they do not match your own situation, there is a good chance that "Girls Night Out " will not happen. Respect is a two way street.  Be considerate and have some respect for those of us that do take this further.