Great read

Hi Paula thanks for the link will read it shortly love anything to do with Crossdressing Trans ect.. again thanks ..

Stephanie Bass

thank you Paula for link always love to read articles and all on the subject or anything to do with being trans. and cd.

Donna

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Be warned it is a bit on the clinical side

Thanks Paula, been up half the night reading it. Excellent read.

❤️Bianca

Thanks Paula,

TOnly a speed read so far, I'll have to revisit it. It may be from 20 years ago, but I suspect some (many?) of the commentaries could be repeated today.

Marti xxx

Thank you so much for that link Paula! Only half way through but very good  to read.

C

wow thanx so much

Great read Paula and you were right about being clinical still great report thank you again

Donna

A little dated for sure but a must read for any of us that are married or may get married some day. It’s completely through the eyes of wives of dressers so it’s a little slanted. Painful to read at times because it dwells on the negative aspects of dressing but gives a look into how wives feel about their cross dressing husbands and the affect it has had on their lives. Unfortunately I’ve given more thought into what color lipstick to buy next than I have to how my “hobby” is affecting my relationship. This article is a wake up call, for me to put more effort into what’s really important in life. I highly recommend it. Thanks Paula.

I have experienced a bit of that  “behavioral drift” LisaT. A very apt phrase,  I might add. In my experience, the drift was totally unexpected but the reaction of my SO was not at all like those in the study. I think it’s because she has always been very open, accepting and affirming of everyone’s  life choices  or journeys. So when it was her husband, the reaction was the same. I am very fortunate.

C

Paula, thank you for the link. It has been my personal previous experience that when I read research papers  I have found some them to be long, over detailed and sometimes difficult to understand. That was not the case with this read. I found the study to very interesting and thought provoking. As a long time crossdresser I wish I had read a study like this years ago.

I admit I didn’t read all the boring data but I experienced a handful of the feelings these partners shared. I wouldn’t agree with the negativity expressed across the board though.
Each spouse will have their own feelings once introduced to the unfamiliar  but I believe the stability of the relationship can influence what happens after that.
It would be a shame if the couples in this article were the reason a secret was kept any longer.  There are more positive outcomes than represented here.
I found exploring here on CDH more comforting than the few articles & books I read elsewhere. This one would have been a little alarming to me back when I was a newbie.