Have you ever run into someone you know while dressed femme?

This is one of those situations that makes a lot of girls scared of going out, and I was one of them.

Over the years I saw people who I knew and diverted away and sometimes I realised too late and had to pass them by. One time I was in a restaurant with friends and on a table adjacent to me were neighbours and friends. I was with a couple of friends and I could see them looking around but it is natural to do so and they didn't clock me and nothing was said. I can say that in all the years of being out I have never had anyone I know who I have been near in public recognise me.

The first thing is that they do not know you as a female so would be less likely to recognise you. People out and about are wrapped up in their own thoughts and are focused on what they are doing so in a crowd, unless you stand out, they wouldn't give you a second glance.

I am lucky that I look fine in public and can interact with no problems. Those who are not so blessed will be seen as a crossdresser and perhaps attract attention for that reason so it would go that if someone you knew saw you it would be for that before any recognition they know you.

Hi Angelica

Happened twice when I’ve been en femme. Each time was in a shopping mall passing people who know my male persona but not Bianca.
Each time resolved to pass the person as natural as I could muster given I was  about to pee myself with nerves.
Head up chest out, brief glance their way and passed by without any stopping or staring from them, or me suddenly changing direction or skulking away or acting irrationally. As far as I’m aware they were none the wiser. Phew!!!

Another step along my path to confidence out en femme. Did they see a woman or a man in a dress, I don’t care. But I’m sure I look sufficiently different en femme that I won’t be recognised unless it’s by someone who knows my Bianca side.
I now also have more confidence going into stores en femme shopping for anything feminine. In fact I will now shop in womenswear in my drab male attire as well, to be honest I don’t really care anymore. The salespeople don’t care either, they want a sale. In fact female shop assistants are usually thrilled when I say I’m shopping for myself, have even tried on womenswear in shops I went into in my male attire. No probs, simply fess up be honest and they will, as far as I have experienced, help you.

B x

Yes, I've been outed while dressed. At a gathering of CDs, so it wasnt quite a bad as being outed by a civilian. Life happens!

Yes I have been out as Gina and ran across people I knew, since there is so much of a change from my male looks to female looks they did not recognize me (Whewwww) . One time at a bar I was taking to some girls and they di not believe my age I show D/L and the gal said your from ____ that's where I am from I am so & so wife, alas I knew him but had never met the wife she said that's ok your secret is safe. A couple of other times I have been out and ran into customers and my voice gave me away but again they said no worries. I could go on & on with more but the answer is yes but never been outed .

Many years ago I ran into my next door neighbors.  It happened to be a few days before Halloween.  They complimented me on my "costume" and we had a good laugh.  Little did they know I was laughing at them.  They were never going to see my actual costume......

In Nordstrom a few months ago, I walked right by a couple I've known for 25 yrs. I had been to their house recently, to the movies and to dinner over the years and they didn't have a clue. I got such a kick out of it, I circled around and walked past them a second time. Still no reaction.

Hi, when i have been out wandering around the shopping malls i have seen people i know. Mostly just in passing and they never noticed. I have been on the supermarket getting groceries and while wandering around saw a couple i knew. Passed them several a number of times, but they never showed any signs of recognition. I think i look too different for any one casually looking to recognise the male me. If it was a 10 minute face to face discussion, that may be a different story.

Jane

I no longer worry about meeting people enfemme, I'm dressed most of the time.
Now that is something I started doing 2022 so it's still a lot of people who doesn't know about Kelly and yes, I do run in to people who doesn't know. I did write about one time in https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/forums/topic/got-caught-on-purpose/ where in short I did see some  people I know and instead of avoiding them I walked over to them and had a little chat about things other than my apperance.

/kelly

I went into a jeweler just before Christmas and was looking at earings when the assistent recognised me. She worked behind the bar of the arts center where I practiced with my band. I dont disguise my voice or try being anything other than I am when out and about. I was looking at a pair I particularly liked when she turned up behind me and asked if “I would like to see them closer by”. I recognised her, but carried on as if I didnt, we had quite a long conversation before  I saw that she had recognised me, but didn’t dare say anything. I smiled and gave in and said “hi Silvia” still she couldn’t recognise me, not because I am so convincing but just because we weren’t in the situation and setting we would normally be in. I told her and she found it amazing that I could look so different. I didnt buy the earrings but we had a lovely conversation. She found it awkward how to end our chat ,one,  I think because she doesn’t know me well enough to ask the question about  ‘how further’ should she keep it a secret,  or is it ok to have the ‘guess who I saw in the shop laste week , and he was a she’  at the bar. And two, it would be rude to ask about a customers blatant transgenderism  when in your place of work. I relieved her of both by saying this is the parttime me, I am as comfortable dressed like this as I am in front of an audience of a thousand on the stage and that its not a secret, I just dont advertise it.
So to close, I dont think anyone outside of family or friends would confront you. They might tittle-tattle but but todays  news is tomorrows recycled toilet roll.

Ok heres a real doozy!! My wife and I were at a gay bar ( when we first got together and I had not met much of her family) we go to while Im en femme. So were having a cocktail and chatting with some gurls and I said wow Ive seen that guy here a lot. She turned and looked then quickly looked at me and said " we have to sneak out of here NOW, THATS MY UNCLE! OMG WE GRABBED OUR PURSES AND HIT THE FLOOR RUNNING! Of course we were wearing short little mini skirts and heels!! When we got to the car we just laughed. A few years later her uncle shows up to a family outing with his friend "Jen". Who turns out to be a trans male to female. Well that was a bullet dodged!!

This is one of the major things that keeps so many of in the closet. I did nearly run into a couple of former co-workers and 2 people from my Church and what I usually do is casually walk a different direction or just walk by. But this has been a few months back and in the last 2 months I have been seeking out encounters with some of these people.
I am not ready to be out to all (the women are easier to come out to), but one or two here and there. Foe me it is getting to the point where the excitement of coming out to more people out weighs the fear of keeping Cassie secret.

. Cassie

A lot. Especially now I’ve transitioned.  Especially when I first came out. People would look right at me and talk to me and have no idea. And now I see people I used to know that don’t know me at all.  I do look drastically different though.  But even before my transition. I’d see people I knew. And they never once acted like they knew me.

Hi girls,

I'm a trans woman and live and work dressed femme every day. The place I work at is a government office building, 95% of the staff being women, and there is a fairly constant changeover in staff as people retire, move to another ministry or go on maternity leave.
Over the time that I've been working there as a woman named Lauren, there have been a number of women, who knew me before, return after being away prior to my transitioning. None of them recognized me. I greeted each of them by their first name and each of them were puzzled how this woman, who they didn't recognize, knew their name.
I introduced myself as Lauren, and the reaction so far has been wonderfully positive. I told them my story and many of them were very tearful and overjoyed upon hearing of my transitioning. It's actually been quite enjoyable introducing my new self!

Hugs,

Ms. Lauren M

Hi Angelica,its Michelle.Some of my neighbors have seen me dressed as Michelle,I wont be afraid anymore.A few months ago one of my elderly neighbors was walking her dog and I,as Michelle,pulled into the driveway in Martys truck.Of course the dog knows me as both,but she had a very doubtful look on her face until I said "Hi,its me,Marty,but in a different wrapper".At that she broke into the biggest smile and said"Honey,you look great and where did you get those legs"?We both laughed and had a great conversation and a wonderful day.