have you ever Shame Tossed your fem clothes?

Ive not thrown anything away for ages, i wouldn't dream of it as it would be like throwing a part of myself away and anyway i love being a femme and would never stop ever x

Been there done that. There were always a few special items but a good deal went away. Sometimes I think there was a part of me that wanted to purchase. It was like saying, this is who I am to someone else who did not know me and who I would never see again. Righ now I have a very limited amount. Enough to get me through the stress days.

Yeah to come to think of it, the few times I’ve bought stuff from an actual store, there was some kind of excitement about it - my heart would race as I, looking like a man, going through the lingerie department.

I guess without being dressed like one, that is my first experience “going out” in public with a CD mindset?

anyways, maybe I just need to open a personal storage locker somewhere so I need not have the fear of someone discovering them...

Lol more power to you, sister!

Been there...almost.  The only reason I didn't toss them is because of the money I had invested so I put them in the attic and vowed to never bring them down unless I was taking them to the dumpster.   So glad I chose to store and not trash.  I was over it in a couple weeks, brought it all back down and had an all night wine and glam binge session!  It was glorious!💄💋👠👗💕

Lola

Gotta love that fog it enriches one so much x

The worse years of shame tossing for me were during my military service years.

It was a continual conflict of having young sailors and marines look up to you as a leader and superiors view you as a role model, all the time viewing yourself knowing the deep dark secret that lived inside.  Add to that the fact I was a cryptologist, and my work required maintaining a Top Secret  level security clearance with additional special accesses.  Loss of career and loss of respect were constant threats.

When I was promoted to Chief Petty Officer, which was a huge big deal in the old Navy, I did a complete shame toss, got rid of everything, a complete purge.  A year later I started rebuilding my wardrobe, and when I had enough clothes, my wife and I took leave, went out of town, away from the military, and I dressed for a week.  My supportive wife was always a blessing!

Purges and shame tosses, yup, I knew exactly what they are!

PostScript:   I hear in today's Navy & Marine Corps there is an official CD policy which spells out when, where, how, and under what conditions a sailor or marine can cross dress.  My my, how times have changed!

I can relate 100% been there done that. One day your time will come and you will feel free as a bird.

Somethings take baby steps and other times its rip off the band-aid. I think you had the baby steps. Its time to rip off the band-aid

Mine time came New Years Eve 1999 and drunk. When will your band-aid come off. Only you will know when.

The last time I shamed myself I took all my clothes to the basement in a trash bag, they stayed there awhile.   I have purged in the past as well.  It is something we all have, shame.  But I do know I am going to try never to purge all my stuff.  Its too expensive and I would not have much clothes left because pretty much all my stuff is womens now except some stuff I use for working on dirty engine type projects.   I feel shame at work sometimes too, working as a sailor and being around all the guys at work can put me into shame thoughts.

I tend to get the urge to be femme daily and i dress as soon as i wake up and love doing my day to day stuff around my home as its such fun, then have to work so underdress and then at 4.30pm i can be fully krissy til i go to bed and normally involves getting my teddy on and slipping into bed 🛌

40 years ago yes... I used to travel a lot interstate for work. So I'd buy some outer clothes/lingerie, wear it in my hotel room, then ditch it before I got home.

That gradually changed until I had a complete wardobe and stored it in a "secret spot" in the building where I worked.

Come the early 2000,s and a new and (still) loving relationship, I did not ditch ALL of Caty's things, but donated about 90% of it to a local CD group.

That's cos I thought that the "CD diversion" from a loveless marriage would "all go away".

But of course.... it did not And here I sit in 2021 ona cold Melbourne winters day, underdressed in thermal cami, panties and heavy duty tights.

Tonight I will ad a bra and breast forms for "ni ni's"

I am well and truly back to having a complete female wardrobe.. And loving it!!!

Caty.

I purged 3 times in my life...and darn it I had some really nice stuff! It's fairly common and ultra frustrating when I look back on it. You can't throw away a part of yourself. If I never dressed again, I'd still keep that Kate part of me. She's non-refundable :).

Only the once after the breakdown of my first marriage, it was the first night of living on my own after 20 years of being in a relationship, I was going to dress but I got myself so worked up I put everything thing in a bin bag then threw it in a skip.
After a couple of weeks I realised that it was not my fault she had an affair it was her decision which would have happened if I was a CD or not. Haven’t done it since as there is no need to anymore 😀

So many times I’ve lost count. I think I am finally reaching a level of acceptance. At first it was out of shame I suppose. Then it became a “this isn’t me anymore. Where is this going?  I’ll never be accepted “. Lately, I understand that the urges come and go and sometimes I just take a break. It always comes back and has been with me forever so it always will be. It’s a roller coaster baby ☺️