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Im going to college and want to crossdress, but I will have 3 other roommates. Its also a small conservative town, so i'm not sure how to keep others from knowing or screwing over my social life by coming out.
Hi Macy! You have a tough problem there. You have 3 roommates, it will be impossible to cross dress and keep it secret. You will need your own apt. or separate room away from others. I guess you don't live near parents home for privacy. Suggest you stick to items under your clothes until you do get your own place. Short of that.....find an agreeable female or other cross dresser to bunk with.
Dame Veronica
Macy,
I am in agreement with Veronica. You are in somewhat of a pickle. As Veronica says, underdressing would be one way. In the end, however, you will need to examine what is important.
MacKenzie Alexandra
Hello Macy,
What a difficult situation. I was in the military for 9 1/2 years, married and 2 children. Difficult situation is an understatement even in your situation. I kept my need to crossdress hidden deep inside until I left the military and divorced a wife in the process. Marriage and the military is an oxymoron for sure! All alone in between marriages I did some crossdressing and hid it again very carefully for the next 20 years of a second marriage. Was not caught in either marriage but came out to my next wife before I proposed. It can be done but very discreetly however with 1 roommate it’s possible but with 3........?????? I would suggest a small suitcase in the trunk of your car hidden under a canvas tarp. Have your things stored there, leave for the day and find a remote area to get dressed. Wash your things in another town laundromat to not be discovered. Getting dressed in a remote area at night works well if you know the area well as I did while in the military separated from my first wife. Good luck and may the force be with you! TTFN💋
Danielle
Be assured that with 3 other conservative, male roommates, there is likely a lot of “sizing up” going on.
even the slightest hint, especially with any physical items to corroborate, will be discovered and revealed.
at the risk of sounding like I know anything, I would say All (coming out) or Nothing (nothing, zero, nada).
been there, and I mostly chose “nothing”, but even then, I sometimes picked up vibes that weren’t right. Could have been paranoia, tho
I agree with the above, you will, need to balance the possibility of being caught with your desire to dress up. If you do not keep your lingerie stash 150% secure and hidden, it is not a matter of if ...but when it will be discovered. best bet is to have a place of your own, where it will not have to be hidden.
Hello Macy,
But another idea I’d like to float is that “conservative” and “judgemental” need not go hand in hand.
Thank you for pointing that out. I DO conflate the two, and that is not logical.
I suppose its a bit like thinking all Ferrari’s are red, while in reality, there exists - by far - more red ones than any other color, but not ALL are red.
Seriously, though, you are absolutely right, and thanks again.
Another day of becoming a better person for me! Yay!
Macy,
When I was in the military assigned to ships and shore stations I found getting a hotel room for the occasional three day weekend of full dressing was well worth the money. I went far enough to minimize running into anyone I might know but not so far as to be cost prohibitive. It was just enough to keep Gina manageable.
The first time I ever dressed fully femme was for a college Halloween Party. I met others there who also dressed. We got along well and they invited me to join them on their parties and dress up socials. There may be groups at your school that do that also.