Helping someone understand why I crossdress

How many women understand what men do? Why they spend so much time with their cars or out hunting, shooting or fishing? Do they understand the chat between the men that takes up so much more of their time?

It seems that you have a wonderful friend who you feel needs to understand. The fact that she accepts it and shares is wonderful. The simple reason is that it makes you happy and is that not enough to go with?

In the fullness of time she may understand so be patient and enjoy the experiences with her.

I agree with Angela. I'm not sure it is so important that she fully understands the reasons why you dress. The fact that she accepts and helps you speaks volumes.

You are lucky to have such a friend!

Hugs,

Emily

I don't think many if us really know why we crossdress.  For some, it's to buck the gender rules, others just like the clothes, want to be close the their fem side, etc..

You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. If she's of a mind set that she doesn't want to understand then forget it, she's not going to. Heck I don't fully understand why I do this, DNA, want for feminine expression, the look and feel of the clothes, I don't know. There are some things in life we will never understand, maybe we're just not supposed to, relax and enjoy it and be happy you've got such a great friend.

Interesting and thank you, I’ll have to read it.

Get your friend to look at sensory challenges in children. There's such a thing as seams that irritate their skin. There was a time before leggings that kids had to wear their clothing inside-out so the seams don't rub on their skin.

I know that it doesn't address the psych part of dressing, but it's a starting place for your friend to understand the idea of seamless and compression clothing for children. If she can open up to the necessity of certain garments, then you can ease her into the female side in some men.

Love your name, Paula!

Any way, Dr. Peggy Ruud has several good books she has written on this exact topic.  The titles escape me at the moment, but they are available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble.

I got to attend a lecture she gave one time down in Dallas to one of the CD groups I was invited to attend.  Very awesome woman and definitely knows her stuff.

PaulaF

Hi Paula,
I have had this same conversation with a couple female friends, lately, and I simply came down to, I love the way I feel as a crossdressed woman, and it just feels right.
Hugs, Regi👸💖

Paula

When I first joined this site I was wondering the why question a lot myself. After reading the stories from others, and how closely some have been related to my own path.  I have reached a point of -''Roses are Red, Violets are Blue, Dressing is what I like to Do''

xxx Tina

Oh gosh. I think we've all asked ourselves this. Upbringing? Hormone levels? Androgen insensitivity? Something else?

Or just because it feels soooo nice.....

Connie

xxx

Hi Paula,

How I can explain what I do not fully understand myself?

Be glad you have a friend that accepts you as you are. Maybe as time rolls on she will come to understand just by being your friend. Then have her call me and explain it to me.

Hugs, Jillian

Hi Paula,

I have given up trying to understand why i crossdress.  For me it feels good and i like it is enough.  My wife wants to understand why, and always question my motivation when it comes to anything femme.

Enjoy her support and dont worry about the why.

Hugs

Paula

Here are some other "why" questions.

Why do some men absolutely love to deer hunt while others [like myself] could care less?

Why do some guys absolutely swear by Ford pickups while others wouldn't drive anything but a Chevy or Dodge or? ____________ (fill in the blank)

Why are some men so addicted to football while others [like myself] could care less about the game, but love to watch professional golf?

Why do some woman regularly do their nails and hair while others could care less about manis / pedis or well coiffed hair?

Why are some of our community OK with being CDers, because you also enjoy your male side, while others struggle with gender dysphoria knowing in our hearts that we are women?

The list could go on and on, yes?

So much of what we choose to do is preference is it not? Why is thus and such our preference? If we are not sure, is it possible to help someone else understand?

IMHO - No.

So dress, enjoy, and accept this is part of what makes you - you.

Kindly,

Charlene

Women crossdress all the time. They can wear jeans or trousers and no one bats an eye. A man puts on a dress or a skirt and he's a weirdo.

As to explaining why someone wants to crossdress.... There are a thousand answers, but I guess the main one is they just want to.
I've had this chat with my wife a hundred times. The common answers are I love the way it makes me feel. I love the confidence it gives me. It goes a long way to combatting my depression.... In fact, if I didn't crossdress, I'd be back on my antidepressants. Back into the world of "comfortably numb". No thanks. I'll put on a skirt! 🙂

Cerys