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Being who we are on this site, many, many posts are about how our SOs feel about our cross-dressing as MtF entities.
I am just pondering on how I would feel if my wife suddenly announced that she wanted to dress as a man. To have a man's haircut, wear men's clothes, perhaps even have a fake moustache and beard. What if she tried to deepen her voice and walk like a man.
I'm not saying it's exactly the same thing in reverse because of possible inherent differences in each sex's outlook on life, but it's an interesting proposition, to put yourself in her shoes and try to feel how she might feel when you put on a dress and a wig.
Hmm.
Becca
@rebeccabaxter Hi Becca. I've had some of the same thoughts, about how I would react if my wife suddenly told me she wanted to be a man. By doing this, it would possibly help me understand, a little, about how my wife felt when I came out to her, about wanting to be a girl. It brings up more questions, some, very serious. It brings up emotions and maybe suspicions. Questions need answers, but careful consideration needs to be given beforehand or a good compromise. And a great amount of talking with one another about the situation and the reality it brings. Plus, it can make things very awkward for a while.
I'm very thankful and happy that my wife decided to stay with me and support me in what ever way she can. We have fun going out together, doing everyday things as two girls. It has ultimately brought us closer together! It's always better to share, when dressing up.
It means you are thinking how your wife feels Rebecca. Something for others to consider when coming out as it would help you understand how they are reacting but of course it could add a new unknown dynamic if deep down you both felt the need and became a role reversal as you still love the person. It has been documented as an actuality.
@ab123 I'm really only thinking out loud, the chances of my wife ever wanting to present as a man are rather lower than me winning the national lottery--and since I don't even buy a ticket, that is VERY low.
That thought has crossed my mind. How would I react ? What kind of emotions would I encounter ? Would my feelings toward the relationship be the same, or would it be impacted in a positive/negative way ?
Where I work, I do see folks transitioning (at least their names anyways), and while not scientific or anything, I see more mtf rather than ftm.
I think the same questions my wife asked me would be the same ones I would ask her : are you gay ? did you want to fully transition ? and hopefully she would answer the questions as honestly as I've answered them when she asked me.
Reality is, this is a 2 way street. If she is ok with me being Wendy, then it would stand to reason I'll be ok with her being dressed as a man.
I actually would love it, at least on an occasional basis, which is what my dressing is. We did have a play session where she wore my boxers and I wore her panties a bra...it was quite fun.
As we get older we have both adjusted our rolls. She has become more masculine and I more feminine. Not complete roll reversals, but a rebalancing of our relationship.
I am not sure it is relevant, buy as she ages she looks more like her father, and the first time my wife saw me fully en femme with wig and all she said I looked like my mother. I am still a man, and she a woman, but we have no provlem bending norms a good bit.
It would not bother me at all as long as they were happy.
Guess I might see things a bit differently than most people as i'm on the pansexual side of the scale & have had masculine & feminine partners in the past & therefore easy going with whichever way they perfer to present.
I don't think that I'd have an issue with this
Anna x
