Heterosexual Relationship, Homosexual Thoughts

In my opinion🤔 it is quite common and natural to have thoughts that are divergent from our own perception of our sexual identity.
Our sexual identity is not always aligned and corresponded with our gender identity.
For example, I know I have a polymorphic or fluid sexual identity (as they say in modern times) and my gender identity is a TGirl.

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Greta ❤️

Hi Cece I'm Bi myself so i have all sorts of thought's about being with men and women, my first encounter with a man was when i was in my 20's and i questioned my sexuality but i was still attracted to women, so what is a girl to do i ask you?,

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Interesting topic indeed. I don't have any answers but I'm experiences the same thoughts. I'll hang out here and see what people say.

Cece -

This is an interesting topic.

For myself, I have had encounters with males a number of times in my life but have always considered myself heterosexual.  Since coming out a few years ago though I have rethought where I am and considered myself bi, though I haven't acted on those feelings.  Recently, after a discussion with a friend, I have rethought it again and would consider myself to be pansexual.

It will be interesting to see what others have to say.

XOXO
Suzanne

Cece -

This is an interesting topic.

For myself, I have had encounters with males a number of times in my life but have always considered myself heterosexual.  Since coming out a few years ago though I have rethought where I am and considered myself bi, though I haven't acted on those feelings.  Recently, after a discussion with a friend, I have rethought it again and would consider myself to be pansexual.

It will be interesting to see what others have to say.

XOXO
Suzanne

Perhaps it is ingrained in our psyche which has been molded by societal norms to have two sexual aspects thus suppressing these thoughts and actions by conditioning.  Is there some kind of natural reason which manifests itself as there is a lot of evidence that intimacy between same sex is not new in history, different societies had different attitudes. While looking for labels to explain your feelings the reality is that you are just being yourself as it is there quite naturally.

I don't have any actual data to back this up, but I'd like to  think many more men  have these kinds of thoughts/fantasies than care to admit. I also would like to think WAY many more men have tried or have fantasized about crossdressing than care to admit. I think our CD status sort of give us license to acknowledge such things in ourselves, and we are the more psychologically healthy for it.

For me, I would say I am attracted to women On many levels. I think women are beautiful, hence why I believe is one reason I want to be one so badly. I love everything about them and want to be them so badly. I haven't been intimate with a woman in a long time but would like to be, with me as a woman also. I have had intimate times with men while dressed. I am not necessarily attracted to them, but I enjoy the feeling of being a woman that they give me when they are with me. That's my thought anyway.

I've been with several men over the years ever since I was a teen. I've also been with several women and I really loved that. But, a few years ago, I met a guy that really rocked my world. He treated me as his girlfriend in every way. He would open doors from me, buy me little gifts, hug and kiss me everytime I saw him. He would take me to his bed and make love to me. I loved that so much. He moved away so I haven't been with a man since. I really miss being in a strong man's arms and making love to him. I hope that I can find a guy again.

Denise

I agree, I have little doubt most men fantasize about being with another man. I certainly do, but never have, and doubt I ever will. No doubt women do the same, but it is more acceptable for them to do and act on...just another odd inconsistency in our society.

Do we as crossdressers have more such fantasies? I suspect probably  so because we are thinking outside the box and we are pushing societal norms already. Plus some/many are already on a different part of the gender curve. I tend to have such thoughts more frequently when dressed, but still when in drab as well.

hi all

this very interesting to me also, while i consider myself heterosexual and normally wouldn't dream of being otherwise , but when dressed en femme my thoughts drift not to men but to other crossdressers, the thought of being with a hairy mean just has never appealed to me. But the thought of being intimate with another crossdresser has definitely crossed my mind, having said this then i suppose i could dwell in being a crossdresser lesbian, that is where my thoughtt transgress to.

Wendy

CeCe, thanks for the question. My SO and I had this talk a while back and I didn't really have to think of the answer I just replied I'm Bi, but I feel that I would act more on the urge of being with a man while dressed as a woman. Didn't get much of a response but I could see the wheels were turning.

I'm enjoying the honesty in all the replies.

Sherri

Hello,Cecelia

I would consider myself to be bi. I have been with a couple of men and I had fun. The thoughts of being with a man definitely crosses my mind alot and who knows maybe one day I may find a man to be my SO. Hugs, Allysa

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