How accepting is your community where you live?

Hi Fiona as i have mentioned before where i live here in Montana the community is old school as farmers and ranchers and there was a couple that lived about 10 miles away from me.. They moved into a old farm house there and before i got to meet them people around area ousted them because they were trans dressers.. Enough harrasment they moved away within a week after moving in such a shame i never got to meet them before gone .. So Stephanie keeps to her self well except for the wife and all my wonderful sisters here ..

Hugs girls and hope for better results with other girls here at home..

Stephanie

I list my location as Asheville, NC where the town is pretty much a liberal city and I have never had any problem going out fully dressed in public there. I list it because of that attitude and have had some fun times there but I actually live about an hour away south of Asheville in a very conservative, overly religious, city.

Its the south and my town is very anti-LGBTQ where there have been attempts to open LGBTQ venues but all were picketed and shut down fairly quickly by church groups. I would never attempt to go out fully dressed around here. As it stands, my under dressing with maybe a noticeable bra outline sometime, a long 14inch ponytail in a matching scrunchie, wearing semi fem clothing and womens deodorant, manicured clear polished nails, and now pierced ears, get me enough attention as it is. I'm a big guy (not fat) and don't really care but we have to remember to be safe out there.

I live in quite a diverse community here in the U.K. which has many cultures and religions some from many continents. I have to say that I have had no real issues once I started to come out and dressing from home. Neighbours have been very accepting  and I can freely go about my business and at work it has been the same with customers and clients alike. The laws and regulations help a lot as does the communities attitudes. Perhaps there are other areas of the U.K. that aren't so accepting and would exercise care should I anticipate a visit, although I am sure that won't happen.

It is as perfect as it can get and am always prepared for some issue to manifest itself but overall I feel extremely lucky. I feel for the girls who live in communities that have cultural and religious issues that prejudice  minds against anything that doesn't conform.

It is best not to live in an unaccepting area that is populated with hicks and hillbillies. It is just asking for trouble unless you stay closeted forever. If possible, I would move to a better area. There is nothing worse than allowing a community to dictate your lifestyle.

Hi girls,

I have to consider myself to be incredibly blessed and very fortunate! The community I live in is Victoria, British Columbia, Canada. Our city was listed in the last census as being the most LGBQT or queer friendly city in the entire country. This city is the capital and our provincial government officially supports inclusiveness in all of its ministries.
I work in a building that is home to two government ministries. I work as a woman, a trans woman. I came out last year as being transgender and inquired about transitioning on the job. I was accepted by everyone as being trans and was unanimously supported to transition while at work.
I've been in touch with several girls who are sisters right here on CDH and who also live in Victoria. I'm finding it a bit difficult to get together with other trans women who are quite timid about "coming out" in public.
I'm part of a group of people involved in "The Transgender Archives at The University of Victoria". There's going to be a conference at UVIC from March 30th to April 2nd, called "Moving Transgender History Forward" and I will be attending, hoping to make many new acquaintances.

Hugs,

Ms. Lauren M

Yes Jamie, for those U.K sisters who are not aware of non-accepting states , regions and deep seeded prejudices . I don't envy those CD's living in the Deep South, Appalachia , The Mid-West Heartland ( Nebraska, Iowa, Kansas, and then there's  Rural TEXAS ( which I wont even go on about)

I live in Upstate NY on Lake Ontario and everything is cool here ( except the summers)

I live in the outback nsw Australia. I dont go into town dressed. My neighbors have seen me dressed.

I hear whispers but nothing is really said. One old neighbour in his 80s told me his cousin was trans. And was beautiful. Nothing else was said.

I'm fully involved in the rural community. I hunt. Log. Farm. Member of a few community groups. And do various work for neighbors. Again i dont dress outside my own property. (Which is bigger than most suburban towns anyway.)

Hi Fiona
I live in rural Buckinghamshire very conservative you hardly ever see any crossdresser's on a daily/ weekly basis, however living where I live if anybody clocks you they just ignore you. Like any area you might meet someone obnoxious, they just get ignored I must say the younger generation just accept you as they find you some like to chat. About 10 miles from where I live is the well known Pink Punters exclusively LGBTQ+ and very welcoming.
Love Sarah xxx

Some people have stared at me in beta Julie but that's it and I did not notice them staring. But with new improved more realistic Julie. I'm sure people no longer stare honey.

Southern California is probably the heart of liberalism, so no issues. No doubt there are cretins about, but so what? I don't go stupid places at the wrong time even here, but I never heard a bad comment. No doubt some whisper one to another, but if they have a problem with it, it is their problem, not mine.

I agree with JJ.  SoCal is one of the best places to live if you're a CD or trans. I've never had a bad experience here.  That said, there are people here that don't like us one bit.  Staying away from the places they congregate is a common sense approach to avoiding trouble.

Really, most of California is pretty tolerant.  Especially along the coast.  And there are a number of laws in place that provide significant protection if faced with discrimination and hostility.  Few states equal what we have here.

One thing that concerns me is travel.  There are places in the world that are essentially a no-man's-land if you are trans.  Unfortunately some US States are becoming that way as well.  And they're not as easily avoided.  I no longer feel safe driving cross country.  Major airports in some States may become off limits as well.

Overall I'm optimistic about our future.  But I think things will get worse for some of us before they get better.

/EA

Hey Fiona, I live in Kamloops B.C. when I moved here I was 16 and it was a town of 26000 people and was definitely red neck country. Now at over 100,000 that's not so much the case anymore. I go out for a girls day with a girl friend shopping and ending the day for happy hour at a pub. We go through the Malls, Walmart, drug stores, Costco you name it and we've never been clocked (that we were aware of) and never had a rude comment from anyone. My how things have changed. People these days, even the red necks, seem to take it all in stride now. It's too bad it wasn't like this back when I was younger.

Trish.

I live in Burien, WA ( a suburb of Seattle). I've been out and about for a couple of years, and haven't had a problem - fingers crossed!
Fredrika Jones

Unfortunately, my town is very conservative and old fashoned.  And currently isn't well received.   But the town is slowly evolving and it getting a little better as time goes by