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How big of a deal is it to possess breasts?

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I know they're just breast forms, but gosh they feel good!  How they get in the way!  How they are "there" all the time!  My question is, do GG's have these same emotions about their um, two physical gifts?  As for me, I have never asked a GG, "Do you love having breasts?"  Does anyone have an account of discussing this with their wife or a SO?  Like - if you are a C cup or bigger, do you ever get used to them, etc?  For a GG, are you thrilled or ecstatic?  I'm up this morning, my coffee, satin nightgown & robe, a full bra, and I'm absolutely loving it.  While we're on the subject, if you have had surgery, how would you describe your change in emotions about how they feel, compared to your happiness with forms?

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(@lizk)
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Illustrious Member     North County San Diego, California, United States of America
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@danikiss22 

I love my boobs.  They're way better than my nicest pair of breast forms.  I'm a 38C.  Not too big.  But they're still growing from HRT. They don't get in the way....usually.  You learn to adjust to life with boobs. 

 

/LK

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(@cherylt)
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Prominent Member     Honesdale, Pennsylvania, United States of America
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@danikiss22 The only discussions I remember were friends over the years that had large breasts (women). They felt they were sometimes a hindrance, sometimes a real pain (back pain) and an obvious distraction as men always saw them first. That being said, women don't just put them on, they become used to them over a long period as they develop. They are part of their identity in a much different way than for us. Just ask any woman suffering through breast cancer and surgery. It's a tremendous shock to them. 

As a CD I love my breasts. I understand they are part of my feminine identity. Over time I've actually decreased the size of my forms. I realized I wanted more to be "real" and average rather than just wear big breasts. As I've done so I've found my clothes fit me better. I don't struggle to find tops that don't look like sacks just to fit my breasts, the buttons on my blouse don't pull and look like I'm wearing a size too small. 

Am I used to them? Yes, absolutely! I wear them nearly every day and wish they were real. Most days I wear them 10-12 hours and get a little sad that I must remove them at night. I miss them when I don't wear my bra. I'm always aware they are there from the tug of my straps to my arms bumping against them. I have never felt they were "in the way".

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(@jennconn)
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Noble Member     Florida, United States of America
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@danikiss22 I’m betting there isn’t a CD or trans woman that doesn’t like their breasts.  The closest thing that I had to having a discussion about breasts was a friend of mine that had breast reduction who said they were painful and she didn’t want them big any more.  But that does t answer your question.  I’m also guessing that maybe a gg might open up to us when we are dressed, since they seem more than willing to talk to us about a number of things that they would never say to a male in drab.  

but to be clear, I do love my forms and breast plate.  I really love the appearance and jiggle that I get from the breast plate, especially when I’ve been bra less.  But that’s just me.

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Posted by: @Anonymous 97944

I know they're just breast forms, but gosh they feel good!  How they get in the way!  How they are "there" all the time!  My question is, do GG's have these same emotions about their um, two physical gifts? 

I seriously doubt it. I expect they show them to best advantage when necessary, and use them for breast feeding, when necessary. Do they constantly look at them or touch them? Almost certainly not.

I'm presuming that you have a certain set of appendages down there in the pubic region? Are you frequently amazed by their presence? Probably not. They have their uses, as and when required, but apart from that, they just hang there, largely ignored. A man will often sit on the sofa with his hand down his pants (don't think anyone actually knows why) but I think it would be very rare to see a GG with her hand up her jumper while watching the TV.

Becca

 

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Lady
(@rockcdfan)
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Trusted Member     Salt Lake City, Utah, United States of America
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@danikiss22 When I married my wife, she had smaller breasts and told me that she always wanted larger breasts her whole life. She gained a bit of weight over the years and now has bigger breasts. She always tells me how much she loves them.

When I started my journey a few years ago, I immediately wanted a breastform. I have three now...two that are the T-shirt type (D and F) that I would wear when I know I am dressing up for the whole day and one that is the type that goes around the neck (easier to get on and off). 

I dont think that I will ever get real ones but the forms are the best and I feel a lot of good emotions when they are on.

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Lady
(@joanarbour)
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Reputable Member     Missoula, Montana, United States of America
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@danikiss22 I do love wearing my forms, but had never considered having real breasts. 
From an aesthetic point of view, I do consider that “breasts” are very important to make dresses fit properly ( at least that’s what I tell my wife).

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(@mkat3874)
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Reputable Member     Northeast GA , Georgia, United States of America
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@danikiss22 

As a male who is a 40D naturally from having a hormonal imbalance since I was a child I can tell you it's been a love/hate relationship.  Growing up I faced some ridicule from other kids which really made me very self conscious. Before I came to accept myself for who I am, I hated them and tried to hide them under baggy clothes. Now I usually wear a thin and stretchy sports bra under my male clothes which helps to tone them down a bit. When I'm dressed en femme I really do love them.  When I first started dressing fully to go out I bought a comfort style bra.  Sure, it was supportive but did nothing for the look. It was my wife who helped me find a style that better accentuated the look and was still comfortable. 

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@mkat3874 Hi Michelle, welcome to CDH

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(@danirost)
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Estimable Member     Central, Illinois, United States of America
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@mkat3874 I too have boobs or moobs or whatever you want to call them. And it truly is a love hate relationship. But now I'm old enough I don't care and having embraced my feminine side now, albeit closeted, they are fantastic. I'm larger and mine or 44D. The number of bras you can try and the effect they have on your chest is remarkable. 

I'm certainly not suggesting everyone get a set, of course, but if you're dealt the cards you might as well play them? I had a car accident a few years ago and I had a horrible lump from a seat belt. It wouldn't go down and I ended up having a mammogram. Talk about an eye-opening experience. When checking there is a large ball of breast tissue behind the nipple. That's a sign of gynecomastia. 

It's what it is and I finally "like" who I am and my situation. I'm growing (no not there) and I'm learning to love with who I am. In fact embrace and love myself (more). 

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(@mkat3874)
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Reputable Member     Northeast GA , Georgia, United States of America
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@danirost 

Coming to like/love yourself in whatever situation you've been dealt is so important.   It's only been in the past few years that I've come to that point.  This year in particular has been a year of tremendous growth and learning for me. Going out in public for the first time, meeting others like me in person, and even interacting on this site has been such an amazing growth opportunity.  I'm still a work in progress but one of the biggest changes in my mindset has been a shift from seeing myself as somehow defective or "less than" to seeing myself as complete just as I am.  

 

 

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(@danirost)
Joined: 3 years ago

Estimable Member     Central, Illinois, United States of America
Posts: 177

@mkat3874 Michelle, I can relate to everything you said - including the year of change. I started dressing at 8 years old but the first I realized I was a crossdresser and that I wasn't alone was in 2019. I have been in therapy, for other reasons, and my therapist was the first person besides my SO that I "came out" to. My therapist is an angel and she has helped me so much. Like you this last year has been a true eye opener. 

I underdress when I go out (got to love winter clothes - LOL) and it is such - well hard to describe it - I was going to say a thrill but its more like affirming. I'm being myself in the real world and no one cares. As to your 'defective or "less than"' statement - yes, I fought that for over 40 years. And honestly I still fight it. 

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@danirost Dani, we have a lot in common.  I started dressing also about 8 or so but only said the words "I am a crossdresser" as a positive affirmation last year. 

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(@margprodue)
Noble Member     Madison, Wisconsin, United States of America
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Hi Dani,   Himmm,  I guess I can dish a little here having first no breasts, then getting very nice 36B cup breasts with perky nipples, and then finally going to deflated breasts in old age.  I got breasts by accident (see my profile for more info) and was freaked, worried and embarrassed.  I hid them, they were in the way when I tried to slide under the car to weld an exhaust pipe, no more shirts and skins bball games or swimming.  They got LOTS of unwanted attention to the point that I worked hard not to show them.  Then finally one day I'd had enough and figured if they were going to follow me around (actually lead me around) we were going to have some understanding of the rules.  It seems to me that as girls develop breasts they go through this attitude change also. So when I accepted my intersex situation and started living as a mixed-body woman and wanted to show them off I would wear something low cut and use their power.  Cleavage gets attention and you could drive a truck through mine.  Then I had to control the power since there are a lot of crazy men who can get real aggressive so I learned to throttle it back for daily life.  Also, I wore a bra daily to prevent flopping and chaffing.  It's not very pretty, just functional much like your daily shoes. Pretty is for special times not for real work like lumberjacking. My breasts were small and fit my frame so they weren't too heavy or bothersome but women with large breasts would offer to share some of theirs with me while saying they admired my petite figure but were real tired of hauling their's around all the time and dealing with backaches, unwanted attention and clothing problems. Conversely, skinny women would say things like wouldn't you just like to have a full D cup for a night and wear an evening gown that makes everybody drool?...On discussing this with my wife and various other women friends it seems that breasts are just part of the life and every woman deals with what they have be they big, small, pointy, floppy, not needing a bra etc,  just like every man deals with muscles, hair, jobs, height, weight etc.  Then there is the final act when your breasts take a bow and sag and evaporate to the point of loose being flabby balloons.  Not everybody has this (I do now) but it's part of life and different women react differently with some rejoicing and some with sorrow (now I can easily weld under the car and if I want to recreate the times of old I just dig out my pushup bra and literally push everything back  up. So, that's my take on firsthand boobs in a lifetime.  I hope that is helpful,  Marg  

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(@harriette)
Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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When I started my second real job, I saw that there was a young office worker who had huge breasts. I took pity on her without knowing what she must go through in life. The ridicule, the awkwardness, the eventual pain.

I have found my own pain problem from bra straps holding the weight of forms. Today I feel a bit of that without any forms! Shoulder pain caused by bra straps is often due to a condition called bra strap syndrome, or costoclavicular syndrome. Basically, a pinched nerve that can give me a numb feeling up to and across my jawbone.

Bigger isn't necessarily better.

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(@tina-loves-hosiery)
Eminent Member     Western side of, Michigan, United States of America
Joined: 9 years ago

Hi! As a man with breasts I can 100% say I LOVE having them. I've got my self to a 42 H- I cup now. No they are not oo big. Hope I can get them bigger. I always wondered myself years back, what real breasts would be like. They are FANTASTIC! I took some getting used to when they really took off and grew in 2022, but now I'm not afraid for them to show under tighter shirts or sweaters. One wish would be that every one here who wants them would be able to have them too. I know ya'll would love them too! 

Tina A

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@tina-loves-hosiery that's what I think too, I would absolutely LOVE to have real breasts.

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(@silkybottom)
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New Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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@danikiss22 

How easy or difficult is it to have breast implants. I would love to have real breasts that bounce on their own but don't really know where to start. I do not want a complete sex change, just nice perky breasts. Comments or advice please

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@silkybottom I think you would look on the internet for a doctor who does in-person consultations.  Be prepared to pay for the consultation.  I think looking for all my information on the internet like Reddit etc. is not smart.  When you pay somebody, that's like your insurance, it's like a contract, "this is good information."

What I know about the process now is that you first go on HRT.  Maybe for 1-2 years I think.

Dani

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(@Anonymous 97944)
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Love my forms not to big and not to small, I have a c cup and absolutely love them makes me feel more feminine.

Alexis Grace xx 

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(@Anonymous 97944)
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Really like having boobs when dressed , they makes me feel more feminine , makes me feel complete .

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(@leonara)
Noble Member     Long Island,, New York, United States of America
Joined: 9 years ago

My wife at the age of 32 was diagnosed with a rare form of breast cancer.. one breast was partially removed and at the age of 75, continues To wear,a prothesis to balance out the appearance of her breasts …she has overcome that she is “not perfect” and very grateful that her cancer could have been  worse .

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(@d44)
Famed Member     New York, United States of America
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I love the feel of breast forms so much that I wear them virtually 24/7 in one of my ultra-comfy Bali bras. I have a pair of solid silicon forms that I sleep in every night. It's such a wonderful feeling when you wake up in the morning and the first thing you feel is the forms pressing on your chest. Great way to start the day.

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@d44 

Me too!  When I wake up, their presence is immediate and wonderful.

Hugs, 

Dani

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(@chrisfp99)
Famed Member     London , Kent, United Kingdom
Joined: 2 years ago

Oh girls, you're getting me all hot and bothered 😂. Firstly I'm very much a crossdresser. I love my man side too. So I'd never take any steps to acquire real boobs. But I so long to try forms. You know my situation ladies. As part of my planned week en femme in May I had some triangle forms in my Amazon basket. Just size B. I favour a modest bosom. But as that ultimately didn't work out I am still to experience the excitement of wearing my first fake boobs. I can just imagine the bounce, the weight and the look of them in my bra. Hopefully one day...

Hugs, Chrissie xx. 

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(@tinytinkerbell)
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Reputable Member     SF Bay Area, California, United States of America
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@chrisfp99 Please take that big step and make the move, Chrissie....please don't deprive yourself of the pleasure to become your total, feminine self.  I've been crossdressing now for well over 40 years, and getting my first set of forms was one of the best decisions I've ever made.  I've never regretted it for a second, and if I have any regret, it's "getting TOO old" and being "too cheap" to invest in a breastplate (it's a long story but I just don't have the freedom to dress up much anymore...!!!)....don't wait too long and let these "prime" dress-up-years pass you by...good luck, I wish you well in making this decision...ENJOY...!!!

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(@chrisfp99)
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Famed Member     London , Kent, United Kingdom
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@tinytinkerbell Oh thank you Tiny. I don't have any freedom to dress up but I dream of the day it will happen xx.

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Lady
(@joanarbour)
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Reputable Member     Missoula, Montana, United States of America
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@chrisfp99 mmmmm and when you first feel that bounce!!

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(@randialex)
Estimable Member     Shaftesbury, Dorset, United Kingdom
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My wife had large breasts and always said that if she ever was reborn she would be flat chested. As for me I have forms that fit my 38B bra which I wear at home but sometimes forget they are there and go out with them in place. I would love real breasts but at my advanced age it just isn't going to happen

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(@ab123)
Illustrious Member     Surrey, United Kingdom
Joined: 5 years ago

Apart from the biological functions and medical implications of natural womens breasts they are as much an issue to them as us. There are women who do not care but those that do have a myriad of thoughts about them.

We often know of women that want to get the bra off as soon as they get home, breasts to big, too small, wrong shape. A friend of mine was quite voluminous but a small frame, oh she knew the guys ogled her but it was not comfortable and causing back pain so she had a breast reduction. It is a topic of conversation among women and even filters into daytime T.V. Others have breast enlargement and why are there 'booster' bras and chicken fillets along with other enhancers? Bra fitting is an industry too and so is the selection of bras from being sensible to sassy.

I have been fortunate to have worked with women as trans entering into the world of their conversation and the subject is very much talked about. They have breast envy of others and will compliment another on the breasts and have lively opinions. I too had a nice compliment on wearing a lower cut dress at a dinner from another lady I know. I haven't much but using the same products available to women, correct bra and enhancers I can achieve something nice.

I suppose for us to have breasts is an affirmation of femininity and if we all had them in the variety of shapes and sizes we'd be talking about them the same as women as having perfect breast forms is lovely but real life isn't as nice.

 

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(@gracepal)
Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
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The headline of this forum topic alone makes me laugh. Breasts. Now there’s a subject everyone has an opinion about!

I’m in the “proportionate” to your size camp here. Don’t get me wrong, a pair of larger than normal examples displayed attractively is going to turn my eyes down every time. I have done double-takes with pics of girls on here even, wondering how do they do such a good job with those, they look real.

I’ve known two women who’ve had reductions because they caused them serious back problems. One recently did it because she’s devoted to playing sports and they “slowed her down.” When she told me I asked - How far down in cup size you gonna go and she said: “Teenage boy.” LOL!

Coming from the beauty industry breasts were always a big topic, in more ways than one. When my wife and I owned a salon it was the daily topic of conversation. My salon staff either had’em, wished they had’em or were saving for’em. 3/4 of the girls had’em. My wife, who was a fine B cup I always thought, got’em. Which I did think was a bit weird after being married 5 years, but I’m a live and let live guy. You want’em, get’em. I do recall her saying - “Most men would love it!” (I ain’t most men honey😊) Although I wouldn’t admit it at the time the road signs to the end of that marriage were appearing and that was a big one. It also didn’t help that the nickname of my salon became “Hooters”. Even my cheap-a** brother - who thought our haircuts were way too expensive - was a customer just for the cleavage views.

As a crossdresser, of course I’ve always loved brassieres - so many styles and colors. Even in my earliest sexual encounters I would think, leave the bra on please. It didn’t take long to figure out there was only so much you could do with those fun bags -so you moved on to bigger things.😊

Oh yes, morning coffee and breast discussions. It’s already a good day!

GP

 

 

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(@sf)
Prominent Member     SoCal, California, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

Dani, I like your post, good question about having breasts since guys generally don't have much breast tissue - duh.  My wifey of many years never really talks about her "boobies" other than to acknowledge that yes, she does in fact have breasts.  They are a part of her like her arms and legs, and the "you know what" part that guys have.   

Having said all that, when I crossdress I would not mind wearing a bra and breast forms, it would be fun to look down at my faux "boobies" just like it's fun to look at my painted toenails.  Girly stuff.  Wifey however has limits, she kinda accepts me dressing but says NO to bras and forms.  So I go out in the world as a flat chested gal, but have solace knowing that there are a lot of flats chested gals in cute dresses out there.

BTW, wifey hates her bra and takes it off the first thang when she gets home. She laughs when I mention that I would like to try a bra.  The dynamics of crossdressing indeed.  

Again, I liked your post.  Have fun with your bra and forms.  Staci (jealous)...  smile 

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(@lauren114)
Noble Member     Delaware, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

To me, breasts are such a prominent part of the female anatomy.  I see myself as a woman and I want to have all of the physical attributes of a woman including a woman's figure.  I would love to have breasts so for me it is a big deal.   

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(@alison-anderson)
Noble Member     Middlesex county, New Jersey, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

When at home and not going out, I often don't wear forms. But occasionally I do even if I'm planning to stay in. If I'm going out they are a must.

I used to feel my arms brushing against them while driving and making a turn, now I don't even notice.

I know a GG who calls them "crumb catchers."

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