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How do you deal with a physical community not read for you?

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(@mynameismikayla)
Eminent Member     New York, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

I have recently discovered that my CD habits are indictive of some deeper gender identity issues. I realise that I am indeed a girl inside, and this realization has helped me so much mentally and emotionally. It's like being awake for the first time in my life. People can see that I am happier, and that's great. The problem is that this isn't the most trans tolerant area. I have a friend who is a trans boy, and I've seen his struggle. I've seen the backlash and heard the comments. I've supported, defended and been inspired by him. But here's the rub: I live in such a small insular close minded area that I don't even feel comfortable telling my other trans friends who I really am. I can tell all of you, because of the safety net of annonymity. It just hurts to feel so good about yourself, but closed off as to why. My wife has been helping me be careful about who I tell, cause she's afraid for my safety. Im just sad that I can't be who I really am in my own community.

So how have you ladies dealt Whit the issues in your physical community? Was your experience positive or negative. I would like to hear some stories from both sides. Just looking to know I'm not alone

Thanks ladies

As always, lots of love

Mikayla

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(@ohlivialivin)
Noble Member     Norfolk, Ontario, Canada
Joined: 6 years ago

Hi Mikayla

You're certainly not alone.

I wrote a post a while back, "who to tell" dealing exactly with this. Its a matter of finding that balance between safety and freedom for ourselves. As I've become more comfortable, the introduction of ME 2.0 to more individuals has grown, with much acceptance.

Olivia

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(@mynameismikayla)
Eminent Member     New York, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Some of them aren't the best at holding secrets and are directly related to nosy gossips...

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One of the better ways to deal with this is to bring on the change gradually that way the community won't be quite so shocked.

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(@geselle)
Estimable Member     Chico area, California, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

Tiffany I'm also in that same boat as you it is not happening here in this town. I am looking to buy a new home and as I look I am checking to see if the community is trans friendly so I ask around. I check the local shops to see how some of the girls that work there feel and they will usually give you the general feeling of the place. I will not live where I am not accepted so when I look a property I check out the neighbors, if I don't see someone I think I can talk to I look at their places, if I see a pride sticker I know it's Ok but if I see something that looks like their might be an issue I move on. I'm still looking for that place I can call home.

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