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I lost my job on the 25th. On the 26th. I woke, showered, shaved, and put on full Cerys. I've been Cerys ever since. My plan is to stay as Cerys for as long as I can, or for as long as the mood takes me. The longest I've been Cerys for is 5 weeks!
I'm one week in, and my wife, so far, hasn't asked me to switch to male mode yet.
Cerys is helping me through this difficult time, and I think my wife understands this.
I'm obviously enjoying being Cerys, but I'm not enjoying having to shave every two days 🙂
We are away in our motorhome this weekend. I don't plan to pack any male clothes, though my wife does like me to have "an emergency back up".
I'm curious as to how long Cerys will be out to play. I might wake up in the morning and not be in the mood, though packing my bag tonight might ensure that I am 🙂
I've hardly bothered with Cerys the past few weeks. The impending unemployment stopped me being in the mood for anything. Now that it has happened, I'm fully in the mood/have the need for Cerys!
Counting the days 🙂
Cerys
Hi Cerys, really sorry to hear your news, especially as it was clearly a job that you loved and found rewarding. If you are looking for a new role I hope you find something that is at least as fulfilling for the future, or maybe kick-starts a new direction for you.
Meanwhile I hope Cerys has a great time over the weekend. Are you likely to be heading towards the Cotswolds?
My thoughts are with you. Hugs, Rebecca x
@fembecky We're off to Cheddar..... Yes, American friends, Cheddar is a real place 🙂
Cerys
@dazzler Cheddar sounds like a great place to visit; I have never been there but I would love to see it sometime.
It is of course one of only 2 places this side of Saturn's rings where cheese can be found naturally (the other, of course, being the moon as Wallace and Grommit proved). But the cheese that comes from Cheddar is particularly tasty and people have been known to over-indulge and gorge themselves on it. This is of course the derivation of the name "Cheddar Gorge". Any non-UK residents can verify this by looking it up on Google Maps where Cheddar Gorge is clearly marked.
Happy gorging and many hugs, Rebecca x
@dazzler Hey Cerys. Sorry to hear you've lost your job, particularly if you enjoyed it. I've been made redundant three times, and was never particularly upset. I always hated what I did as a job. I retired three years ago and spend most of my time preparing and practising for the three local bands I play with. I love it! I wish I could spend more of my time slipping into a nice dress but hey ho. You're lucky to have that freedom. Do you think you'll actually get fed up with it in the end? As they say when one door closes another one opens, which is great as long as you're not a cabinet maker 😂. I've also secretly wanted a motor caravan all my life so I'm doubly jealous. Hope you have a lovely weekend and that things work out for you honey.
Hugs, Chrissie xx.
@dazzler sorry also to hear about your job loss. I hope that you have some prospect of getting back to work again soon. Enjoy spending some time on yourself!
I'm obviously enjoying being Cerys, but I'm not enjoying having to shave every two days 🙂
Now that you have a bit of time on your hands (sorry to hear that), maybe you can test other ways of thinning the forest on your legs. I prefer IPL, but epilators will give you more time between "shaves".
We are away in our motorhome this weekend.
Did you name your motorhome Priscilla?
@dazzler Ah, so sorry to hear about your job situation Cerys. It's surprisingly traumatic isn't it?
I was made redundant 7 years ago and was mortified - even though I hated the job, I was contributing part of our household income and could we manage without that? Turns out we can (just) and turns out it was the best thing that could happen.
I stopped being depressed and comfort eating, lost 25 kilos, and discovered that all this extra free time on my own allowed me to indulge in my passion for crossdressing that had been impossible for the previous 15 years! Which leads me to hear and the happiest I have been in my life, so it's silver linings and all that 🙂
I'm completely with you on the shaving aspect of daily dressing though... my face must absolutely hate me sometimes!
Anyway, good luck in finding your way through this Cerys. I'm sure it will have a positive outcome. 🙂
@dazzler Cerys, sorry to hear about the job…I’ve been there a couple of times, so I know how it feels. But you have to remember (i) your job does not define you and (ii) its not personal and (iii) just because you lose your job does not mean you lose your friends and family. We are all still your friends here at CDH! It’s great that we have our preferred selfs to help us get over the shock of loosing a job….I too went full Christine mode (but only at home) for a few weeks when I last lost my job and it was really helpful (and of course most enjoyable).
About the shaving…I think we all empathise on that issue. I shave every 2 or 3 days. I have found that it gets easier and faster and more efficient each time, but it would still be great to not to have to do it. I have tried creams…but whilst the effect is very smooth, I find that that too only lasts a couple of days. I have tried epilators and the results do indeed last longer, but girl does it hurt! I have been told that with time the pain lessens…its something to try to persist with later. There is alway laser hair removal (which I would like to try). Have any girls out there done laser treatments? I would love to hear their stories.
Enjoy your time as Cerys…you never know when the ‘bad’ news will come that you have another job and have to go back to drab!
I wish you all the luck and send my best wishes to you and your supportive wife.
Hugs
Christine
@dazzler I'm so sorry to hear about your situation and I hope you can find something new very soon. In the meantime, enjoy your new found freedom to live as Cerys. I'm sure it will reveal things to you about yourself that you may not have previously considered.
Hi Cerys,
I'm sorry to hear that you lost your job, but as one door closes another door opens, look on the bright side you get to be Cerys all day long and for as long as you want, there are upsides as well as downsides, the downside is that you have to shave every other day the upside is you get to be Cerys for as long as you want,
Hugs Rozalyn X 🤗
Sometimes losing one's job is the best thing that can happen. I've only involuntarily lost one in my life and it was a game changer. I went from being a well-paid but highly stressed and demotivated customer service manager in the computer industry, who had no support and not a little dislike from my immediate boss and his boss too, to a poorly-paid, agency driver job, delivering steel in an old truck; it was absolute bliss! At the end of the day, I went home, nobody phoned me in the middle of the night (it was an American company, I worked in the UK, so time differences and all that), I didn't have to worry about what tomorrow would bring. There were no presentations to plan, no awkward customers to kow-tow to and as long as I did my job, absolutely no one bothered me. Greatest of all, I was on my own all day without any interruptions. I eventually got my Class 1 licence and drove artics for the next twenty years until I retired; I never looked back.
Nothing to do with cross-dressing I know, but very much to do with freedom to garden, to play chess, read a book, whatever you want.
Enjoy being Cerys for as long as you like.
@rebeccabaxter This is what made me sad. The job I had was part time, working for a charity. Easy, rewarding work, doing something useful that made a difference. I landed the job after many years of hard, physical work, often stressful. It was perfect 🙁
Cerys
@dazzler Ah, I see, I guess it's quite different when you enjoyed the job. I hated mine and was quite pleased when they made my job redundant—except they didn't, they gave it to someone else, I could have sued but I was so happy to be out of there.
Becca
Cerys I can relate…I was a 24/7 workaholic for over 40 years. Probably would have worked until I dropped had it not been for the CoVid adventure and my company downsizing me out of a job.
Going from nonstop working to full stop what am I gonna do- made me realize I needed friends and hobbies. Thankfully Grace re-emerging from the good old days has really helped me fill time, make friends on CDH and strive to perfect my womanly persona😊
There’s always an opportunity if you look for it.
GP
@gracepal Grace, I managed to retire at 62, I haven't stopped since. I garden, cycle, do photography, chess, cars, motorbikes, diy, etc. etc. Then, as if I didn't have enough to do, I've taken up cross-dressing! How I ever managed to do anything when I was working full time, I'll never know!
I'm busy keeping busy, it's what keeps age at bay (almost).
Becca
@rebeccabaxter Becca, same here girl. Everyday I have a moment where I think:”How did I ever squeeze work into my busy schedule?”
GP
@dazzler Sorry to hear about your job :/
It's the shaving that gets me - every day. I've done 5 days in a row and I was quite ready not to do a 6th.
@melodeescarlet I shave only when going out and when the mood strikes me. Having had a beard (which has now gone) for over forty years, the skin on my face objects to it being scraped with steel blades and shows it's annoyance; thank heavens for foundation and concealer.
Sorry to hear about your job Cerys, I lost my job awhile back and it was the best thing for me. I hope everything works out well for you❤️
Cerys -
Sorry to hear about your job loss. It is nice that you are able to spend your time dressed 24/7 with he support of your wife. It is wonderful that you are going on a trip with your caravan and being able to dress while doing so. I hope you are able to break your previous record of 5 weeks, I'm sure you're up to the challenge. I find for my self that dressing is a great stress reliever.
XOXO
Suzanne
It is never nice to lose a job you like but can be used as a time of reflection too. It is lovely for you to be Cerys for as long as you feel comfortable for.
Is it possible that Cerys may be a more permanent feature in your life, subject to your good ladies approval of course. Is this rattling around in your mind at all? You are very comfortable and very much out so. Perhaps that 'emergency' bag would be there but rarely used.
When I finished work I knew it would be an opportunity to be myself more but fate played the ace card and a job came my way and have had a few jobs since. It was easier than I thought when making applications and was never made to feel out of place or uncomfortable.
I was over the west country the other week and went through Cheddar gorge when it was devoid of traffic and people allowing me to enjoy the beauty of the area.
Enjoy your trip Cerys.
Hi Cerys,
I am so sorry about your job loss, I feel for you and I can readily relate to your situation. I was downsized from my job of 32 years last year. Being 60+, that was a blow to me. I did the same thing you have done and became Jennifer pretty much full time for almost 3 months straight. I totally agree with you on the shaving aspect, for a while; my face was not a happy camper!
Losing that job however, gave me time to reflect on a lot of things in my life and in retrospect, I looked on that occurrence as an opportunity to explore new avenues that I've always wanted to take.
I discovered, though I was always fairly certain of this, that I really loved being Jennifer; especially at this tenure of my life and I wanted to spend more time as her.
It wasn't easy to do, as it is tough times out in the world, but; I've found some work that although I can honestly say is not my cup of tea, it allows me a little more freedom to be Jennifer more often than the previous position I held for so long.
I echo some of the same sentiments other girls have said. Enjoy your trip, try to stay positive, remind yourself that things sometimes happen for a reason and take the time to thoroughly enjoy Cerys and who she is!!!
Wishing you all the best!
Hugs,
Jennifer
