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Hi say my best friend became homeless a few months ago so I have put him up but he is always at home, I used to be able to wear my girlie clothes around my home but I have stopped due to my friend staying here, I am to scared to tell him I crossdress but I want to be able to start again as it's starting to get me down that I can't, so I am in need of advice as to what to do about being able to start wearing my clothes again around my home
mmm… interesting...here my thought... I think I would struggle with anyone living with me 24/7 as I need fairly regular time on my own. Your sharing accommodation is generous to your friend, the balance of giving is on your side, atm, so perhaps not much to ask for someone to give you a bit of space a few times a week.
Am guessing you do not perceive this an ‘opportunity’ to tell – family aside, only two person I would share accom with; one F knows and the other M would not accept but be intelligent enough to understand give and take. In the longer term I prefer he not know.
I would have to have a conversation about securing some specific regular times when I could be alone. I wouldn’t necessarily mention xdress.
Hi Natalie,
It would be my suggestion that you not inform him. If you’re allowing him to stay with you, then that is a sacrifice on your part and he is your guest - even though it’s long term.
However, I would also suggest that you have some sort of plan for him to move on. If he’s been there for “months” and is never leaving the house, that doesn’t seem to bode well for his prospects of getting back on his feet.
The longer he remains, the longer your stress/anxiety from not being able to dress exists. :/
I wish you luck!
@melodeescarlet I think Mel is spot on…with an end date you have something to look forward to. In terms of dressing well they are there it’s almost the same as telling them so you have to be prepared for the repercussions good and bad if they find out.
Quite the dilemma. Is your friend working, able to work (not drug dependent)? Maybe you can encourage him to move on, if he is able to support himself.
I just found out that my brother just did this with my 35 year out neice. Time to get a job and move out.
He is currently looking for a job and working on trying to get his own place, he is my best friend plus he is bisexual so I think he would be accepting but I am to worried to tell him as I wouldn't want to lose our friendship over this, but could be a way for me to tell him
@natalierose Not to be a Debbie Downer or anything, but the problem with new jobs is that in three months the employer may say that he isn't a good fit with the company and lay him off. Then he is back to where he is now. Hopefully, for both of your sakes, he is a good employee.
And, hopefully, if you do tell him, that he will keep your confidence amount all of your friends.
Good luck!
hi..................just be prepared to have budgeted monies for a hotel .............sometimes the Pink Fog just comes in ..........tension builds as you try to resist it ..................regretful words are said ...............or have clothes in the car and go for a drive .................change up ......and be a girl ..................I like to go to a cemetery .........hope that doesn't creep you out ...................relax and be a girl ....................karley
I wear GG clothes all the time, but I still look like society as a whole expects. Todays outing was to a pharmacy to get a vaccination. Over my panties, tank top, knee high nylons & womens tennis shoes, I was wearing womens jeans & sweatshirt. I knew I was dressed as I wanted and to feel right. The pharmacist never batted an eyelid and just stuck me with the needle. I was soon on my way to the next port of call, the grocery store. I wear similar stuff when family come to stay too.
It's your house, do what you want. If he doesn't like it he's free to leave. It would be different if he was just staying the weekend or something. just my thoughts.
Hello Natalierose, I am in similar position to you in that I have a friend staying with me who is also homeless. The difference is that he is a crossdresser as well so it is easier for the two of us to dress when ever we like.
You say he is Bisexual so that may help you with talking to him about your crossdressing. Please give it a try as it would help you to dress more freely & also he may enjoy you being dressed as well.
love Helenmarie
My best friend came to stay a night at my place, by standing invite. I'd remembered a conversation we'd had the previous time he was here, which led me to think he might actually be in touch with his own inner girl. In talking about that conversation and thus coming out to him, it turned out I'd misunderstood what he meant! 😳 However I always knew he would be cool with the other side of me. As a result, I can now happily dress when he's around. My point is, if you think your friend would be understanding and accept you en femme, maybe now is an opportunity for you, too?
Best of luck 🙂
Fiona xxx
