[Closed] How To Make Youirself Paranoid...

What about letting your SO know about your crossdressing?

Harriette -I wish I could!  It's all part of the same problem - "to tell, or not to tell"...  Do I behave more like a woman and confess?...  Or just carry on being terrified most of the time?  More than worried... Holly XXX

Getting packages with female attire in them is also telling her, though. Be prepared for questions.

You would be surprised how helpful women in shops will be when they find out you were buying these things for yourself. I’ve never had an issue I’ve even giggled and have a little girl talk with them. Also I know it’s not easy to do but if you’re honest with your significant other, she might respond very well to it. I mean, I ended up divorced lol but that’s my story

I shop in person way more than online now that I’ve overcome the worries of shopping for women’s clothes or shoe. At first I always Used the shopping for my wife line and worried standing in front of the pantyhose rack picking out what I wanted , or trying to sneak a shoe on to see if it fits. Now it’s easy as I don’t care what people think. I’m straight up with the sales associates and let them know I’m shopping for myself.  A crossdressers money is just as green as a cis gendered woman is.

Lexi (what a great name, by the way!) I think I may have to try it - find a shop somewhere a long way away from where I live and then just hope... surely, as long as they will never see me again, I can't feel too terrible?  I think I may have to do it - no matter how terrified it makes me feel...

Hi Holly ! I’m a simple girl lol I go to Walmart a few towns over and use self pay or if I go to the mall it’s a bit far from home but I’m becoming much more open I go out en femme quite a bit now I’m attending Divas Las Vegas this year and I’m so excited to meet other women like us !

My wife knows, so I don’t have this issue, she is not happy about it, but knows.  I suggest strongly if you are going to order items which are to be delivered, do one of the following:  Easy  out, order her something on the same shipment.  Then when you open it, she has to hide her eyes, surprise,  it’s for her. She doesn’t see the rest of the contents.    Tougher out:  have the “ reckoning “ conversation.  Don’t wait to be outed, do it on your turf, your time, your place, your conversation before the “awful” surprise happens.   If you are a feminine figure,( not me, 6’3” , 215 lbs.)  you can easily shop out saying it’s for your SO, but shopping in your size.  Last if you have any sisters near you , dress and shop with them, you would be amazed at the courage a friend gives you.  Hope I made sense. Hugs. Lorraine.  P.S. if none of this works, take 3 Johnnie Walker Blacks  on the rocks, and swear you will never dress again.

Post office boxes
We have one in town and almost always the one who picks up mail.
There be one you can get to discreetly and easily.
Many UPS shipping centers also rent boxes.

Hi Holly,

For internet shopping it obviously depends where you’re buying from, but if shopping from Amazon you could use one of their hub lockers.

I have one 5 minutes from home, which proved very handy when I first started shopping for Lucy gear.

Also M&S and Next do in store collection for online ordering.

But to be honest, shopping in person isn’t as bad as you may imagine, especially somewhere like M&S where you can just pick up what you want without having to ask anyone for assistance.

Sure, you’ll be nervous at first, and will probably try and convince the person behind the counter that it’s for your wife, but you’ll find that they don’t really care. You’re just another customer. Before you know it, you won’t actually care yourself

Lucy

This doesn't sound to me like how to make yourself paranoid. It sounds more like a recipe for disaster.

Your plan is to hope to intercept packages before your wife gets them? To hope there isn't some kind of delay on your way home? To hope it comes when they say it does and not a day early or later? To hope she doesn't decide to take that day off?

Yes this can work occasionally, but it is by no means a long term viable solution to anything.

Sooner or later she is going to see" the package", so best to deal with it on your terms rather then wait until she discovers it and starts asking questions. Be proactive rather then reactive.

You say she may already know, and she might, or she suspects something, and that suspicion leads to her thinking there is another woman.

My wife knows, so it is not an issue, but I would rather she knew and had to live in a DADT situation then the constant worry of her finding out and then having to deal with the fallout. Hopefully, she is fine with it and supportive, or at least accepting.

Here in OZ we have both Amazon and Australia post "pick up" lockers. The latter is where all my Caty stuff gets delivered to. (And some male things too!!)

Years gone by I had a PO box and that worked just as well. (With the possible exception of big packages with the senders details and contents described on the outside. But the PO I used was 40 k's from home.(we lived in the "sticks" back then..

In the words of the Nike commercial. "Just do it".

Caty.

Hi Holly

Maybe part of you wants your wife to intercept the packages so you can’t avoid the talk?

When you get around to it you’ll be surprised how easy (and fun) shopping in person can be. I only dress in private these days so shoppings always done in drab but I find if I’m honest about it being for me majority of the time the SA will be extremely helpful which puts me at ease and makes the whole experience positive and I become a repeat customer. If they give a bit of a cold shoulder, they don’t deserve my money and I go elsewhere.