How?

I remind myself of what I have and what/who I'd leave behind if it gets that far.  I also try to find something that I enjoy and binge on it. After I get sick of it, I try to find something new that I might enjoy and give it a try. There's really no set way to get through it. Especially since you see and do things differently than me. I've also found it helps to talk with someone, whether family, friends, a pastor (if you're religious)

Lexie.

The best advice I can give is that you need to talk... confide in someone. I didn't even realise what my problem was until I spoke about it.I found depression was like going from a room into a slightly smaller room then into a slightly  smaller room again and again and again...I just couldn't breath or seem to turn anywhere.....it got really dark some days....

I had a massive talk with my doctor, everything came out, including my dressing. It felt like a huge burden had been lifted, just by sharing my worries and fears. Something so simple but so important.

I was lucky, I have had the same doctor for years, and it was like confiding in a friend.....but I seriously think it changed my outlook and my direction and also my way of coping...

It's not easy, but I see a half full glass instead of a half empty one..just finding good things instead of always looking for the bad ones..I'm not saying it's always true, but a lot of the time, there is a good side, you just need to find it.....and looking for it is the start....

I don't know if any of this will help, it's a minefield, but it's so much more common than I ever thought before I spoke to my doctor.....we have to deal with it the best way we can....you CAN beat this!!!!!!

Best wishes, grace♥️

All one can do is focus on the good things and the people who care. And I can tell that on here, plenty of people do.
Xoxo, kate

Thank you all for your support. I just wish I had any friends, let alone one friend that I could confide in.

I feel that my wife doesn’t want me to have ANY friends male and OMG, if my friend turned out to be a female, she immediately thinks I’m having an affair.

Perhaps writing a gratitude list would help. I am grateful for my friends, for the roof over my head, my job, etc etc. Ongoing depression may be something you need to talk with your doctor or counselor about.

Lexi, you need to somehow replace obsessive depressive thoughts with new healthier ones.To start, I recommend that you start exercising for 30 min a day, even if you don’t feel like it, if you aren’t doing so already.

Lexie, we are here for you if you want to talk. It's ok to feel down sometimes and to cry when you feel like it. Your feelings are all valid, both the good ones and the bad ones. Telling your doctor or therapist about it was good advice. They can help with depression, and do so for many, many people out there. For me personally, I think spending some time in nature and fresh air are very renewing as well. Hang in there!

Birel

Jerri,

I couldn’t agree with you more. I CrossFit five days a week. It keeps me fit but also keeps my mind on an even keel. No matter how I’m feeling I always feel better after my CrossFit class.

Caroline

My first wife was like that, didn't like me having friends. She's an ex wife now. I have definite opinions on that, pm me if you want them, please, but I won't Subject you to them unsolicited. I am here for you if you want to talk about it though. I've fought through depression, and know it's real and just overwhelming sometimes.

Bridgette

Girls much wiser than I have already given a lot of wonderful, caring advice. But I would add this. First, remember you are not alone. Whether it’s one of the ladies here, a professional, whomever, there is someone to lend you a hand. Second, do as I did. Take a look at Lexie’s profile and photos. Think of that big gorgeous smile. And then try to remember where that came from and what it felt like. You are a wonderful person and truly a gift here in this community.

Keeping you close in my thoughts,
Clara

Tonight, my wife and I got into a “discussion “, where she said “you want to be a woman”, which just goes to show me that she doesn’t understand what a cross dresser is.

she needs to understand the definition of cross dresser, transgender, and gender dysphoria.