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Hey everyone, I just wanted to share a little update after my last post, because something big happened last night. I came out to my girlfriend as a cross-dresser. And honestly… it went so much better than I could have hoped.
We were sitting in the living room when I told her we needed to talk. My heart was racing. Then I showed her a picture of Mia.
She laughed gently and said, “Finally, it took you a while.” 😳
She told me she already knew. That she’s known for a long time. She didn’t say how, and I didn’t ask... I was too overwhelmed, honestly. But the way she said it... so calm, so kind.
She did ask one thing that was a little awkward but came from a place of genuine curiosity: whether I was still attracted to her when I was dressed as Mia, or if Mia was into guys. I told her the truth, simply: that Mia is me too. And I love her, only her.
Then she said something that made my heart absolutely melt.
She said she never expected to fall in love with someone who was “two people”… but maybe it could be fun. She joked that now she has someone to go to makeup shows with, or shop for clothes, without any excuses. 😅
And then she looked at me and said: “With your face, the size of your shoulders, the thinness of your arms, and your grace… it would be a mistake not to dress like a girl.”
At one point she asked, “And what’s her name? The CDs always have a girl name, right?” I told her it was Mia, and without missing a beat, she smiled and said it suits me very well. I think I’m still floating.
She did say she needs a bit of time before meeting Mia in person, because she hasn’t seen her yet, and that might be a shock. I totally get that, and I told her I’ll be patient. She’s already giving me so much.
I don’t know if it’s a cultural thing (her grandmother is French, and I’ve always had the impression that French people are a bit more open than folks in my country), but I was honestly surprised by how naturally she took it.
Anyway… just wanted to share. I feel relieved, excited, still kind of in disbelief. But most of all, seen.
To everyone here who encouraged me, gave advice, thank you from the bottom of my heart. You helped give me the courage to finally open up, and I’ll always be grateful for that. ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
Have any of you had a similar experience, coming out and realizing your partner already knew, or was more supportive than you expected? I’d love to hear how it went for you!
Mia ❤️
@mialanieri that's fantastic Mia I'm so happy for you! What a huge relief !!! So excited for your future - hey remember to mention to your gf she would be more than welcomed here if she fancies joining ! 😍
in answer to your question nope I didn't have the faintest idea when I found out , unlike your gf lol I was floored lol .
sending you massive hugs 🌈🥰
@bellaz76
Hey Laura!
Thank you SO much, your message genuinely made me tear up. I'm still kind of floating from how everything went, and reading your words just wrapped me in this big emotional hug. It means more than I can say.
I’ll definitely let my girlfriend know she’s more than welcome here! 🥰 She’s a bit shy about online spaces but knowing there are people like you who’d make her feel welcome might be exactly what she needs. I guess it's about time.
Well, I totally understand your shock at discovering the situation, but the important thing was that your enormous love was stronger than anything else. And that speaks volumes about your quality as a human being.
Sending you massive hugs right back, and so much love. I’m really lucky to be here among people like you.
Mia ❤️
@mialanieri I can feel your happiness and joy it's infectious- I'm so glad that you are here with us all too 🥰
Congratulations Mia! Bravo for your bold courage too.
The Pink Cloud 9 never felt so good!
Bravo to your wonderful girlfriend. Now she has another girlfriend in Mia!
Fran 🥰 🥰
Thank you so much, Fran! The Pink Cloud is real and I am absolutely floating on it right now! 😄
And yes—my girlfriend is incredible. I'm still in awe of how kind and open she was. The idea of her having “another girlfriend in Mia” makes me smile so big. I just feel so lucky. 🥰
Mia ❤️
You did it, you did it, you did it, you did it, you did it!
I am soooooooooooooooooooooo happy for you right now Mia!
You've made my day.
Honestly, I love this so much.
Ellie xxx
PS. Yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!! ❤️ ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Ellieeeeeee!!!
Reading this made my day!! I’m smiling so hard my cheeks hurt 😄
Thank you thank you thank youuuu for the love and the excitement—it means the world to me. I’m still kind of in shock, but floating and happy and just… wow.
YAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY right back at you!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Big hugs,
Mia xxx
@mialanieri Mia! That's a hell of a thing! Thank you so much for sharing. So inspiring! My deepest best wishes to both of you. This made me so emotional! What a star you are!
Katie!
Thank you so much for this beautiful message. It truly means the world to me. I was so nervous to share, but hearing that it touched you… that just fills my heart.
Your kindness and support make this whole journey feel a little less scary and a whole lot more special. Wishing you all the love and light right back.
Big hugs,
Mia
Wendy!
Thank you so much! Your kind words mean a lot to me. I’m still kind of in disbelief, but also so happy and so relieved. Just… wow. ☺️
I really appreciate the love and support—it makes this moment even more special.
Big hugs,
Mia
I am so happy for you, Mia, give this lady all your support because hers is priceless!
I suspect that, like me, you will come to see your life as "Before CDH" and "Since CDH", such is the change you will continue to see.
Those of us lucky enough to emerge from hiding into sharing and acceptance know full well the joy you are now experiencing. Those of us still closeted will enjoy the vicarious pleasure of reading your story, ok, with perhaps, just a tinge of envy 🫶.
Love, Love, Love this!
Allie x
Allie!
Your message touched me so deeply—thank you. You get it, in the way only someone who’s walked this path really can. That feeling of “before and after”… yes. I already feel it shifting, like something’s been unlocked inside me.
And you're so right—her support is priceless. I feel like I’ve been handed a kind of rare, quiet miracle, and I’m holding it so gently, trying not to cry every five minutes... because now many of you know it. I'm a crybaby! 😅
To those still waiting for their moment: I hope my story gives a little hope, just like others here gave me. We all deserve to be seen, fully.
Sending love right back to you,
Mia x
@mialanieri I'm so happy for you and your girlfriend. Now you need to update your profile, because now you have shared Mia with another person.
Lacy
Lacy!
Thank you so much! I’m still buzzing from it all… and you’re absolutely right—I guess it's time to update the profile now that Mia’s out in the world a little more. Feels wild and wonderful to say that.
Appreciate you noticing—and being part of this moment with me!
Hugs,
Mia
@mialanieri Congratulations! I'm so happy for your courage and that your gf is so understanding! Patience is very hard but that is a great way to handle it. You didn't want to overload her. Sounds like you're off to a great start.
Bobbie
Bobbie!
Thank you so much! You’re absolutely right—patience is tough, but it feels like the least I can offer after the grace and love she showed me. I really didn’t want to overwhelm her… and I’m so grateful she met me with such calm and kindness. I'm a lucky one!
It definitely feels like the beginning of something really beautiful. Your support means so much.
Big hugs,
Mia
@mialanieri You made my day, Mia. There are a few tears in my eyes.
Now go play dress-up. 😁
Harriette… now you’ve made my day. Thank you so much... your support means more than I can say. 😀
Sending hugs and sparkles your way!
Mia
@mialanieri Perfect and congratulations that is wonderful news. Please take it slowly you do not want any bumps in the road. Remember time, space and patience. Katie xx
Thank you so much, Katie! I really appreciate your kind words, and your advice is spot on! I know it’s tempting to get swept up in the excitement, but I’m reminding myself to slow down, breathe, and give her the time and space she needs.
This is a journey we’re taking together, and I want to honor that with all the patience I can muster. Thank you for being part of this moment with me. It means so much!
Big hugs,
Mia xx
@mialanieri Amazing story, I am so happy for you and how things are working out.
Thank you so much, Paula! I’m still kind of in awe of how it all played out—definitely feeling incredibly lucky and grateful.
Mia
That's wonderful news! As I replied in one of your earlier posts, my wife didn't know but she figured me out and was accepting from the start. Never take for granted what an incredible gift you have in her. We are incredibly lucky to have our wives or girlfriends who love us completely. Also be patient and let things evolve gradually. You will have plenty of time to explore and see what works for you both. Some day you'll be able to go out as girlfriends like my wife and I do. You're going to have so much fun. if ever you want to discuss in more detail just PM me.
Michelle, thank you so much for this beautiful message. Your story has been such an inspiration to me... I remember your earlier post. You’re absolutely right: having a partner who accepts and loves us completely is such an incredible gift, one I will never, ever take for granted.
I’m definitely taking things slowly, and trying to savor each little moment as we figure it all out together. And the thought of going out together someday, as girlfriends like you and your wife do… that really makes my heart flutter.
Thank you for the offer to chat—I may just take you up on that sometime!
Hugs
–Mia
@mialanieri goodness me Mia what a relief for you , i truly wish you both well . Xx
Colette, thank you so much! It really was such a huge relief, like a weight I didn’t even realize I was carrying just lifted off me. I’m feeling incredibly grateful and hopeful right now. Your kind words mean a lot!
Wishing you all the best too
–Mia xx
@mialanieri Mia, we'd been married for over 20yrs and i didn't know myself i had an inner feminine side which she maintains she always knew and waited for me to unleash.
She supports me in every aspect, makeup, fashion, shopping...we even go out en femme for walks/ coffee, which she enjoys....so yes, you can build on the solid foundation you have.
Inevitable, the matter of trust and loyalty will be broached and your sexuality will be queried.....i find CDs just as attractive as any female, doesn't mean I'll stray ... I've learned from my previous marriage, that affairs are counter productive.....i can bring this reassurance to her in our conversations.
I'm so pleased about your new found freedom, and a big hug for your girlfriend from us all here 🥰
Martina x
Martina, thank you so much for sharing this. Your journey and your partner’s support give me so much hope for what’s possible. I really love what you said about reassurance—honesty and openness feel more important than ever now.
And yes, I totally get what you mean about loyalty—it's something I feel so strongly too. I could never, ever fail my girlfriend. She's my only one, the most beautiful, and just… perfect for me. ❤️
As for attraction, I think everyone experiences it in their own way. For me, it’s always been women—but I really believe every journey is unique and beautiful. What matters most is being honest with ourselves and the people we love.
Sending you both a big hug back, and thank you again for the kindness!
Mia x
@mialanieri lovely story!! My SO appeared to not know, but said certain things she observed over time had made her wonder (how I always noticed details of what women were wearing, how crazy I am about satin..). She has her limits but she’s very supportive and I feel lucky about that. Sometimes I feel guilty and tell her “I know you didn’t sign up for this” but she truly doesn’t hold any bitterness about it. Thanks for sharing your story! 😘
Serena, thank you so much for sharing that. It really means a lot to hear from others who’ve walked a similar path. I totally get that feeling of guilt sometimes—I’ve caught myself thinking the same thing. But having someone who stays kind and supportive through it all is such a gift. Sounds like your SO sees the real you, just like mine is starting to, and that’s so beautiful.
Mia ❤️
@mialanieri Such good news I'm extatic for you. Just take it at her pace and don't overwhelm her and you both may find that this can be a positive addition to your relationship vs the expectation of a negative. im so happy for you. keep us in the loop.. Cheers RC
Thank you so much, River! That means a lot to me. And you're absolutely right—I'm definitely following her lead on this. She’s already been more amazing than I ever dared to hope for, and I want to honor that by giving her all the time and space she needs.
It really does feel like this could be something beautiful for both of us, not something to fear. And honestly? I feel like I'm falling in love with her all over again.
I’ll absolutely keep you posted. Sending big hugs your way. ❤️
Mia
There were some who felt she knew and was still there with you. Now you have said the words it's confirmed and things look as if they are going to go well. You have made sensible decisions about how to show yourself but it is yet another wonderful story and wish you both a happy future.
Angela, your words mean so much to me. You're absolutely right, she did know, and she chose to stay, love me, and even embrace this side of me. Now that everything’s out in the open, it really does feel like a weight has been lifted, and I’m so hopeful about what comes next.
Thank you for reminding me that even just being there means more than words sometimes. And thanks for your wishes.
Mia ❤️
I'm so happy for you, Mia! I don't think you could have expected it to go any better than that. Give her time to process but it looks like you have some shopping trips ahead!!
Much love,
April ❤️
April, thank you so much! You're right... I honestly don’t think I could’ve written a better outcome even if I tried. It was such a mix of nerves and hope… and now it just feels like everything is beginning in a new, beautiful way.
And yes!! I’m so ready for those shopping trips! She already joked about dragging me to makeup shows, so I better start budgeting now!
Much love right back to you, thank you for cheering me on! ❤️
Mia
I am happy for you, Mia.
Thank you so much, Gisela! It was, without a doubt, the best night I've slept in years.
Yay! Congratulations, Mia! I'm so happy for you that The Talk went so well for you! My story is a little different in that my wife knew all along that I liked to dress with her in private and at one point she told me "you know you can take this as far as you want or need to". After that it was a pretty steady progression that she both supported and participated in. We've always been uncommonly close, and this only brought us closer. And while I certainly had to confront and process some big stuff in the process, I never had to wonder if I was OK with her and that's an amazing gift. I wish everyone had this. My wife occasionally asks me to buy a lottery ticket, and I never skip the opportunity to remind her that I've already won.
Nikki, your story gave me chills, in the best way. That kind of love and support… it’s what so many of us hope for, and I’m so, so happy you’ve had that kind of journey with your wife. The way she told you to take it as far as you needed? That’s pure love, no conditions.
And wow — “I’ve already won.” I might borrow that line someday, because it’s exactly how I’ve been feeling too. Like I didn’t just come out—I came home. Thank you for sharing your story with me. It means more than I can say.
Sending hugs
Mia
My wife occasionally asks me to buy a lottery ticket, and I never skip the opportunity to remind her that I've already won.
This ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
Congrats Mia!! It's a wonderful life you unleashed!!!
Xx
Brianna
Brianna!
Thank you so much!! It really does feel like something beautiful just got set free—and I’m so excited to see where it goes.
Big love and hugs,
Mia xx
That's really great, congrats and all the best for your great future.
@shreyushah
Shreya!
Thank you so much! Your words mean a lot to me. I’m feeling hopeful and excited for what’s ahead.
Wishing you all the best as well!
Mia
Wow, thank you so much for posting that. As they say, "She's a keeper".
Not a similar experience, but my wife has pretty much known as long as ai have. I told her I wore her panties for the day the first day I did that. As I progressed she was right there with me. But, like your GF she just took it instride. No big deal at all.
Some if us are just lucky
JJ!
Thank you so much for sharing that! It really warms my heart to hear your story. It’s amazing how some of us are lucky enough to have partners who just get it, right from the start. I’m so glad you and your wife have such an open understanding—it sounds like a beautiful bond.
I’m definitely feeling very lucky right now.
Mia
Mia, glad it happened. Hope all of our adventures together are great. Wishing you the best.
Lynne!
Thank you so much! I’m really excited for the adventures ahead, and I’m so grateful for the support and kindness I’ve received here. Wishing you all the best as well!
Big hugs,
Mia
My dear Mia. I am so glad you have discussed Mia with your lovely wife and it all turned out better than you imagined.
NOW your relationship is really on solid ground. There is no more secreting away of Mia. There is no more hiding that part of yourself. It must be a heavy weight lifted from our shoulders.
You will find your relationship will grow even stronger as the days and weeks go by as now your relationship is built on trust. You have bared your soul to her and she is aware of that. Your wife must be a very special person.
You expressing your self is very similar to my own. Over time and the last 3 months we have shared girly shopping together and openly talk about Gwen in our general day to day conversations. My only going forward suggestion is to hasten slowly, a little bit at a time.
May your days only get brighter on your journey
Cheerio Gwen.
Your words mean so much to me. You’re absolutely right—being able to be open and share this part of myself without hiding it is such a relief. I already feel that weight lifting, and it’s incredible how much lighter my heart feels. I'm even happier!
I’m so thankful for my girlfriend’s kindness and understanding—it’s truly special. Your journey with Gwen sounds so beautiful, and I love hearing how your relationship has grown stronger through it all.
I’ll definitely keep your advice in mind—going slowly and savoring each step feels like the right path. I owe it to her to take it step by step, without overwhelming her or taking anything for granted.
Wishing you brighter days too, and continued growth on your own journey.
Cheerio,
Mia 🌸
Thank you for sharing this story about your wonderful girlfriend. Just remember to go slow, keep the lines of communication open and be mindful of any concerns she may have and you should be fine. So happy for you!
Fiona!
Thank you so much for your kind words and gentle advice. You’re absolutely right—going slow, staying open, and really listening will be key. I want to make sure she feels as supported as she’s made me feel.
I’m so grateful for the encouragement—it means a lot.
Feeling hopeful and excited for what’s to come!
Big hugs,
Mia
Congratulations! I'm glad things went so well.
Thank you so much, Kathe!
I’m still kind of in awe of how well it went, and I really appreciate your kind words!
Big hugs,
Mia
Congratulations Mia on your good news!
Alice
Thank you so much, Alice!
I really appreciate the support—it means a lot to me!
Warmly,
Mia
As for next steps, take your time and let things sink in a settle down. Let her find the pace and do not overwhelm her with this new revelation. Many a CD mistook first acceptence as carte blanch to dress as they please only to find later resistence. Be patient. Though she may be receptive, she is still no dou t a bit confused and unsure, so take your time. My wife got used to my dressing over 20 years, becaise that is how long it took me to progress from underdressing to fully en femme.
JJ, hi again!
Thank you so much for this thoughtful advice—it really means a lot, especially coming from someone who’s been through it and understands the long game.
You’re absolutely right: just because the first reaction was warm doesn’t mean I should rush forward. I’m doing my best to stay grounded and really tune in to her pace and comfort. She’s given me so much already, and I want to make sure I honor that fully.
It’s reassuring to hear how things evolved with your wife over time—it gives me a real sense of hope and perspective.
Gratefully,
Mia
Wow Mia, you are one lucky girl! I think most, if not all of us have dreamt about finding an understanding woman willing to share the joy of being feminine.
Times certainly have changed. When I was starting out, most women were either lukewarm about crossdressing at best or revulsed by it at worst.
I applaud your courage and your discerning choice of companionship. Just imagine the fun you'll have together! I'm almost jealous but at the same time I'm very happy for you. This little hobby of ours is can be challenging. Your having a wonderful girlfriend like that will be such a blessing.
Best wishes and have fun!
Rayna
Rayna!
Thank you so much for your beautiful words—they truly touched me. I absolutely agree, it feels like such a rare and special kind of blessing to have someone so understanding and open by my side. I know not everyone gets that chance, and I don’t take it for granted for a second.
Hearing your perspective, especially about how things were when you started out, really puts this moment into context. It makes me even more grateful for how far we’ve come—and for people like you who paved the way with quiet strength.
I’m definitely looking forward to the fun and growth ahead… and I’ll carry your kind words with me as I go.
Mia
