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Hello everyone, hope you’re all doing well.
So I don’t write a novel lol I’m 35 I’ve been cding since I was 5 and did it when I could trying on my sisters and mothers clothes until I was a teen then I bought a few things then pretty much was cding as a sensual Thing until my mid 20’s then stopped for a better part of 10-12years. It wasn’t until This past summer(2019) I started dressing again after a long hiatus. A sudden urge to start again came about and I didn’t push it away this time and accepted it, in doing that it opened a side of me I’ve never seen and finally got the courage and stepped out the door for the first time...well now it’s been four times out😅 Although It’s been just some simple walks or a quick drive at night, it’s huge steps for me. It’s amazing how one year can make a big difference. I’m so happy I’m doing this but with all this happening It’s been causing some doubts and confusion surrounding my life. I don’t have a partner or kids but nobody knows about my cding and have been thinking about it a lot lately if I should tell a close friend or maybe a family member, that’s a tough call for me right now as I want to continue to explore this wonderful side of me but don’t want to ruin friendships or worse family relationships.
Thanks for whoever reads this, any support or advice would greatly appreciated!
Hi Nathalie,
Congratulations on your outings. A short walk or drive can be a huge step in gaining confidence.
Alice
Hi Natalie,
Yes, congrats on your outing! Definitely work on exploring this side of yourself. You are young and this can turn into something beautiful for you. A lot of us are older and fought these feelings and wish we had the self acceptance when we were younger to be our true selves.
Kay
That's amazing 👏 I hope to take a nice walk soon in femme too. I just really want too
Congrats! That sounds like fun. I'd like to think I'll get to do that one day. As far as telling people do you have a close friend you can trust to test the water?
First time out is SCARY. Well done. Once you've done it wow! A great feeling, but beware, it might be addictive. I have no family and all my friends and male, so I stay in the closet.
My biggest problem is getting away from the house without being spotted.
Hey Natalie, welcome and thanks for sharing your adventures 😀💕
I’m still pretty new to the ‘going outside dressed’ game but I agree it’s such a buzz, and definitely addictive!
Sounds like you will be able to explore this side of you a bit more too 👍👗
Seraphina xx
Welcome to our slice of heaven Natalie. I would advise that feel out who you want to be your possible confessor's before you say a word to them. Test the waters and see what their opinion is of CD's or TG's in general first. No matter how close the friendship may be, or tolerant you think that cousin is, you really have no way to gauge their reaction to what you tell them until you find out their tolerances on the sly.
Before you do that though, you need to become friends with yourself first, bring both halves to a level of acceptance that you probably will not find with other people.
Congratulations to you on your outings. It doesn't matter if you walked to the curb and back, or drove to the next town, you took the chance and made it yours. No one can ever take that away from you. It is heartening to see so many younger girls braving their world lately, and yes, you can ALL do it. Make sure the time is right for you and open that door.
PaulaF
Congratulations on your outing Natalie! It is a huge step in building your confidence. I know that's how I started. Small steps lead to big things. One day you will just go out and about in public and will find out how wonderful it feels and how no one cares or looks. I enjoy going out as Carla and wearing my skirt, sandals and top just feels so much more comfortable than being in my male mode. So enjoy going out and be happy!
Carla
Going out is wonderful even if not interacting with people. Walks, getting gas, atms, all feel wonderful and build confidence for drive thru's, post office drop off, lots of things where we can be out low key. Congrats !!!
All I can do is second what the other girls have said. Going out in public, going shopping, sitting at the beach, well, it's all such a natural high. Enjoy.
Heading out now:)
Bobbi
No need to tell anyone, just start showing up at social events in increasingly fem outfits.
Well done Natalie. I only recently took the plunge and it was no problem at all, although I was out such a long time my flat mates were back home when I arrived back. At least it broke the ice with them
Hi Natalie
Hope you are well today!
Many congratulations on your outings. Taking that huge step is scary and exciting in the same breath, I hope there are more adventures outside to come soon.
I like you, denied my whole self for a long time and four years ago took that leap back into this wonderful world. I am a lot more confident now, even in my 40's. Is there someone at work you could chat with? That helped me a lot.
I wish you well!
Hugs,
Samantha x x
