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and the draw is now occupied by knickers, bras, holdups and tights. This has come about in a truly dreadful manner as a week ago my wife died from her cancer, I would rather have her here and my underpants but it is not to be.
I have been a closet trans (is that the right word) since puberty and while on occasion I have found it limiting that is how it was, my wife knew of my preferences but did not wish to be involved which was fine.
So now I am out, I wear knickers and bras all the time, nail varnish, lipstick and mascara most of the time but still my drab outers when in public. How out I shall come I don't know, after all I am in my late 70s and have size 12 feet but I do have a full head of hair which I shall let grow. I have told one female friend who is being very supportive and giving me tips on make up and dress. I ventured out to the shops in shorts, showing my shaved moisturised legs, with my nails, lips and lashes all done and no-one objected.
If those of you that read this wish to read more of my outing then I am happy to oblige, but if this seems just the same old thing from an old thing then I shall desist.
Rx
@randia Randi, great for you, hope you can find the level of femininity you want and when you want it. For myself I'll be 70 in 3 weeks and I present as Cassie 24/7 except at work. When I do retire in a few months I will probably toss most of the rest of my male clothes. I am also planning to get a part time job just to keep active. Planning to work as Cassie. For right now in my area I think the acceptance will be very good.
For now I still have a couple of drawers of male clothes(yes,underwear too). Likely will be keeping a few items for a while yet.
Cassie
If those of you that read this wish to read more of my outing then I am happy to oblige, but if this seems just the same old thing from an old thing then I shall desist.
Much of what we do here is to listen to others cross dressing stories. Some of them are very different, some of them are much the same, but it really doesn't matter to which category any of the stories fit, so long as we can tell our stories to a sympathetic audience and I can't think of a more sympathetic audience than here on CDH.
Tell your story, we will be listening.
With condolences on your loss, big hugs,
Becca
xx
PS I threw all my male underwear away a few months ago.
Hi, Randi, please accept my condolences for the loss of your wife.
It's always good to hear of others' progress in dressing as they wish, especially in public and without problems. None of us would wish to pay such a cost to be able to do so though.
Of course you can share your story with us, it's a huge part of what we do here. I hope you can take some comfort from the sharing and I know you will have our full support as you go through the days and months ahead. You are among caring friends.
Allie x
@randia Hello Randi, I'm Tia. My wife passed three months ago after a long-drawn-out illness. We were married for 56 years, and it is taking some getting used to living alone.
Don't stop talking about your outing. It helps those of us who are slower in the process. It is good to have friends to chat with
@tia I won't stop Tia. I have a difficult day today as I have to collect her belongings from the hospital and then a meeting with the funeral people. However by having the feel of my bra on my chest, my knickers tucking all away and my clear nail varnish I will be bolstered by the new emerging me. More in a few days
@randia You have my heart-felt condolences over losing your wife. It's got to be tough.
But now you have the freedom to experiment that you seem to have craved for a long time. We are here for you if you need anything.
Hi Randy, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss hun. My sincere commiserations. I've read a few times here that crossdressing has helped deal with the grief of the loss of a loved one. I really hope you can find some comfort in your feminine expression. I for one would love to hear more of your story.
Huge hugs, Chrissie xx.
First of all, my condolences on the loss of your wife. I can relate because I lost my wife 33 months ago. I did not go out in public until after she passed and now I live full time as a woman.
As to how out you will be, just go at your own pace and do whatever you are comfortable with. You will know when you hit the "sweet spot" where you feel you're being the real you.
Hi Randi,
My condolences on the loss of your wife. Cancer is a very terrible thing. Congratulations on your decision and good for you venturing out with lipstick and mascara wearing your lingerie. As well as for being your true self
Alice
Randi =
Condolences on the loss of your wife. We all grieve in our own way. It is nice to hear that you have found some solace in being able to dress as you like. Being able to purge your old (presentation not age) self must have felt good. Looking forward to hearing more of your story as you move forward in your journey, after all that is what we do here.
XOXO
Suzanne
Randi
My condolences for the loss of your wife. We are here for you.
Randi, I am so sorry for the loss of your wife, and I am right alongside you in ditching the underpants! I did that 8 years ago under exactly the same circumstances. Also like you, my wardrobe has changed to be more androgynous, but all femme, so I still look like the guy society expects when I am out shopping.
