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So I was thinking about this past weekend I wasn’t in make up abs didn’t have a cute hairstyle... but otherwise was dressed fully... I was at my normal place to drink and just have a good time. I admit over there, especially recently having come out to them as a full CD whereas before they just knew I had worn panties and leggings... , but back to n m y topic over there I have a few of my guy friends I’ll kinds flirt with. Not expecting anything from it just having a good time... I’ve always considered myself straight, but this weekend as I was doing my normal having a good time one of them... kinda started flirting back in a way... and it surprised me in the way he would normally after a few minutes push me away or whatever but instead pulled me closer, and with that... the second surprise was... I enjoyed it... which now makes me have a bit more of a dilemma of.. am I bi on top of everything... while it’s a fun journey to be on... this life makes you think about things differently... and you learn a lot about yourself in the beginning from what I can tell...
so now my question to all you ladies... have you had a moment while dressing that caused you to reassess who you are a bit? Whether like mine or otherwise and would you be willing to share?
There are a lot of beautiful ladies on here aren’t there 🥰🤩
Absolutely. Realization could very well be a better term. Could have been the alcohol involved but the guy is mentioned... I’ve know forever... and never once thought about anything even close to that happening so it was def a new experience and def some realization of possibilities...
Yes!
But don't worry about it. This is not only normal but usual. When feminine having attention paid to you as a woman makes you feel more feminine and your libido can activate a feminine sexual identity. It's not so much a change of sexual orientation (you are attracted to femininity including your own). It is that presenting in a feminine gender motivates you to react to your attraction to femininity in a feminine manner.
Confusing? I suppose that basically you are reacting as a woman but not necessarily because you are attracted to masculinity as such but to the affirmation that a male's attraction to you can provide. This, however, could progress.
I have read similar anecdotes, oh, anywhere from 50 to 100 times. Very common.
Araminta.
Did you “friend zone” him and didn’t realize it was a possibility until his move made you think harder about such possibilities?
Hi Tonya, I'd say it's your natural femininity shining though. I'm bi or at least curious. I know this because the fantasies I was being bombarded by were about men.
Interesting situation Tonya, I enjoy male attention when I'm out. I find it rewarding, a little ego boost. You know this guy knows I'm not a woman but still finds me attractive, tee he, girly giggle in there. I've had quite a few encounters with men over the years as my reassessment came early, I was only 14 and mine was out of confusion and lack of knowledge. I'm 14, I've been dressing like a girl since I was 10 and it turns me on complete with fantasies about boys, so I must be gay, 14 year old logic. I explored my sexuality and figured out I'm bisexual and enjoyed very much being the girlfriend role. Young and stupid, yes but don't regret a moment.
Thanks, great topic, Heather.
It def feels better knowing it’s not uncommon. And I do know it felt really good having that attention. So I guess I will just have to see how it all changes if it changes in the future☺️🥰❤️
Honestly just had never thought about it in that way... I’ve known him since middle school... almost 20 years ago now... way before I even considered CD... we’ve always been fairly close as he’s one of those friends that’s there when you need them no matter what... and as far as I’ve known he’s always been 110% straight... he has a gay brother so I know it wouldn’t bother him if I went that way but don’t know if it would ever go beyond the flirting IF I decided I wanted it to... I’m not even sure on that part currently...
I know I friend zoned a few people through my life. Sometimes it’s a valid reason, lack of attraction, job related, etc... Sometimes it was unintentional.
That is definitely something to think about...
Before I was "transformed" I had always considered myself straight. This first time a man held me as Jennifer and kissed me I felt weak in the knees and felt something wash over me. I can't explain it but I never felt so excited in my life. I still get weak when a man holds me and if he kisses my neck all bets are off.
Hi Tonya,
Read my article about what evolves for many CDs. It might bring you some insights. Most of us do this because it brings us joy, but few of us understand the hows and whys of our CD propensities. I’m not attracted at all to men, but I do find beautiful CDs who look like women attractive even though I believe they are men. Like many of you, I am frequently amazed at how successfully some men can grasp that feminine allure.
https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/red-patent-heels-other-inanities/
FAM
Oddly I don't think of guys when I am dressed but do think of women....a lot! However I have dreams of men when asleep. My part in the dream can be either a male or female, and occasionally both. Some deep things to think about.
❤
Beth
Alcohol?
Winston Churchill famously replied to his wife Clementine’s criticism of his alcohol use, “Always remember, Clemmie, that I have taken more out of alcohol than alcohol has taken out of me.” But, be careful!
FAM
