I need a hug, support and love

Hi Girls,

This is very long but I needed to write it

As many of you Girls know up until the end of December 2020 I was fairly active on CDH then something happened and for the most part I became very withdrawn and rarely participated here.

The only one that knows my entire story is Grace Scarlett and I give her permission to discuss that part with you. It's too long of story for me to type it out on my phone, but I'll tell you enough here so that you can connect everything together.

It all started 57 years ago when I met 19 year old girl/woman at a charity fair that I was working at. We hit it off pretty good. About a year later in March of 1965 I went into the US Navy. This woman and I got married in September of 65' while I was in service. She went back home got her belongings and came back to my military base and we rented an apartment off base.

I had a military buddy that I introduce her to and we all became friends, except my now wife and buddy became more than friends. I was at base one day left and went home and as I opened the door there are the two of doing the Hoochy-Coo in bed. I totally blew up and literally and physically threw him out. She went home and filed for divorce. We were divorced and went our separate ways. We each married someone else. All during the time that we were apart and she was remarried she was seeing other guys and of course she got pregnant by another guy but told her husband that the child was his and he just accepted her story. 50 years later the child does a DNA test and the childs father turns out to be one of the guys she was rolling in the hay with.

Okay there is a lot more to this part of the story but it will only fill in some blanks and is not that important.

In 2017 my wife at the time leaves me because she just didn't want to be married anymore. So I get the house plus $20,000. I couldn't afford the house by myself so I had to sell it. Take the money and move. I had no idea where to move to but I knew that I couldn't afford to live where I was.

The woman that I was first married to we had eventuality over time became friends again and suggested that I moove to where she lived because we had a son there. So I did. I packed up and moved 700 miles to Greenville SC from SW Florida.

Once I got here she decides that she doesn't want to be married to her husband anymore and wants to move out but there is a problem she has no money of her own except a small Social Security ck. She now needs a car to move her things out of the house she is in to an apartment she hasn't found yet. So what does stupid me do I buy her a car $7,000 cash.

Now she needs an apartment. She finds an apartment BUT they won't rent to her because she doesn't have the income to pay for the apartment but if she can pay a year in advance they will rent to her. Again she doesn't have the money sooo stupid me again pays the year in advance for the apartment.

Ok now she goes to an attorney that she use to work for to get a divorce. He will do it but he requires a$1,500 retainer. Guess what she doesn't have it. So you guessed it. I pay for it.

I also bought her a new $600.00 iPhone and let her use my account which she never contributed any anything to. Then for approximately two years I supplemented her bills by giving her $250.00 - $400.00 a month.

Now she has a car an apartment and she has retained an attorney and she starts moving out of the house she has lived in for 25 years. When she got finished moving everything all she had was a small path that she could walk through. She couldn't even open up her sleeper sofa to sleep on. So i invited her to stay at my apartment because I had the room and a Futon that she could sleep on she accepted my offer BUT she didn't want the Futon instead she slept in my bed with me.

Now she is living in my apartment, I'm doing 95% of the cooking, rarely will she clean, vacuum or even attempt to iron anything. I pay for everything ok she has bought some groceries but very little. I have gone through $80,000 and she has contributed very, very little in the three years she has lived here.

The culmination came the day after Christmas 2020. She was over at her apartment packing things up in anticipation of moving to Florida when she gets her $180,000 divorce settlement. I had earlier in the day was in our bathroom brushing my teeth and shaving. I noticed that the her side of the vanity that she uses was filthy and items that only she uses were stuck to the sink with spilled toothpaste and I had to clean it up because I knew she wouldn't.

When she came home she looked at me and said what's wrong and I started to explain comely without raising my voice to her but she knew that I was totally upset. Then she looked at me and said "That's it I'm leaving. We, rather I should say I, discussed it for awhile and she finally went to bed and the next morning started moving out.

Out of the $180,000 she is supposed to receive from her divorce she is only willing to pay back to me $13,000 for repayment of the car, apartment, attorney and a small amount extra. I blew almost $80,000 on her and this is what I end up with.

My life hasn’t gotten better since she left but it has definitely gotten worse. First my laptop computer hard drive died on me so I took it to a Best Buy, an electronics store, to get it repaired and they can’t repair it because the hinges were broken and they would have to destroy the screen to get at the hard drive. So I have to buy a new computer. Then within a week my smart phone died. So now I have a dead computer and a dead cell phone. I don’t have the money for both so I buy the phone because I can make phone calls, take photos and get on the internet, send email and messages.

Now I recently took a yearly blood test and they found that my PSA level was high so my doctors nurse practitioner has me go to a Urologist for further test. Yep he found some pollops on my prostrate and he finds a suspicious area that is no doubt cancerous. Now I have to go for an ultrasound. While all this is going on the nurse practioner does another blood test and finds that there is something odd going on with my liver enzimes and orders a second ultrasound. Both of those will be done next Friday.

Last but by no means least the head gasket on my car goes bad and now I need a new,used, car.

What’s next ?

Let’s see what happens tomorrow.

Sorry for writting a book but I needed to explain so you could understand completely. What I need now is a tremendous amount of support.

Kathleen