I need your help girls,I'm struggling

Thanks for the advice and listening and just putting up with me  Tiff

You are such a kind person

I hate coming on here and whining like a baby It just hurts so bad I needed to talk.

Its ridiculous I know.

I really don't understand it myself.

I have never had a friendship effect me this way.

I'm acting like a child

Thank you so much for the support.

Patty

Patty , No , You're not crazy and yes you can fall for or have feeling for someone on the net , I too had a similar experience with a man from another site , Once we talked on the phone I feel I came on WAY to strong for being submissive as I am , I had sent him pics before so he knew what I looked like and he liked what he saw , We had a lot in common , He is Bi and had very little experience as I have ,   Then it just stopped , Obviously we both deleted each others phone #'s , I did because of no contact and I could kick myself , I had a serious crush on him and still think of him often to the point of getting tingly . He did reach out and said hi and its been a while the other day in a message , But no other contact ,  It's ben months too , All I can say  is time will heal and the feeling will subside , I hope !

Patty

It happens, it hurts and it sucks. But it is a reality that people come and go. I also had one that I met on CDH and then dissappeared. Sometimes you just feel a connection and bare your soul to them, but like has been said its not always felt or accepted equally by the other person. She's just that into you, springs to mind, thats how I felt. Open yourself upto others here, there are lots of other lovely people to connect with.

All the best for the future

Olivia

Your right tiff I value my friendships more on this side of the fence.

Thanks Teri Joe just to be clear there was no romantic attraction I purely was involved as a friend.

Thank you girls so much

Patty

Hi Patty,  Not crazy at all. I am sorry that you were made to feel that way.  It is both difficult and easy to be friends online. When we spend so much time either self denying or hiding, we can become leery of offers of friendship when things get deeper than we expected or were ready for.  And that person may well be in that head space.  And if that is the case, then hope the best for them that they get a chance to reflect on the connection.  In the meantime, know you have a community here that supports you!

Michelle

Hi Patty,

Most definitely not crazy. Look  at it as their loss. We all feel so much and for some of us these are new feelings. We want to talk and discuss them with others that we hope are going through the same challenges. It hurts when you feel a friend has abandoned you. You aren't whiny. We are all here to listen and support you. You will find more friends. Don't close yourself off.

Angela

Thank you so much Olivia,Michelle and Angela.

I really appreciate you advice and taking time to care.

If it wasn't for this site and girls like yourself I don't know what I would do.

I must say my self confidence  regarding meeting friends has been destroyed.

But you girls give me hope.

Bless you all

Patty

Hi Patty,

I'm so sorry Hon, I know from personal experience just how badly this can hurt. I too started an on-line friendship that grew into much more, and even though she, (a CDer), lived 2000 miles away, I felt extremely attracted to her. I was ready to buy a plane ticket to go and meet her in person when she told me she didn't share the same feelings for me. That was the last time we spoke and I felt heart broken for several weeks. Nobody likes to feel rejection but unfortunately it is an emotion we experience from time to time. Use this experience as a learning life lesson, just please don't become bitter. I have met many trans girls thru the years who isolated themselves for fear of rejection, and we can't ever have love in our lives when we hide behind a wall of fear. You will get over this and yes it will hurt for a little while but have faith in yourself and remember, you are a beautiful person both inside and out!!

Big Hugs, Breanna

Hi Bren thank for that wonderful advice, it may stop the hurting some.
I will try to not be bitter I don't think I will.
The hard thing is I am somewhat of an introvert but I was coming out of my shell.

Now I am second guessing every thing I think.

Thank you for sharing I am sorry someone hurt you this way.

I am still praying for you to hun.
Love Patty

Hi Patty,

I'm sorry your friendship didn't work out. I'm sorry you are in pain. I don't think you are crazy or creepy in any way and you always have seemed very nice to me. There is never any way to predict what another person will say or do and sometimes what they do really disappoints us because we allowed ourselves to get our hopes up. I'm going to say keep allowing your hopes to go up. Keep hoping for and expecting the best from people. Sometimes it's not going to go the way you want, like in this case, and it's going to hurt. As long as you know in your heart of hearts you had nothing but good intentions than that's all that matters. I know you are still hurting after three months but I will say it's only been three months. It bothers you because you care. I believe the pain will subside after more time has passed. You were reaching out to someone which is one of the greatest things we can do.  Don't let this discourage you from being the kind of person who reaches out in the future.

Hugs

Autumn

Hi Patty,

I think you can definitely connect with someone (male or female) very quickly and form a bond. It has happened to me with partners and friends. Sometimes things just click right?

That being said, sometimes initial excitement of a new bond might overpower a true fit. Sometimes we can really love a person at first but then as time passes we realize we don’t align as much as we may have thought initially. Try not to take it personally (I know that’s hard because it “is” so personal right?!).  Sometimes it just doesn’t work out.

This may also be a case where their SO wasn’t comfortable with them having any relationship with another cross dresser. My wife has expressed clearly to me, that she doesn’t want me in any type of relationship, friends or otherwise, with anyone local. So their SO may have pushed them to end it.

Anyway, losing friends is never easy. I’m so sorry for your grief. I think we’ve all been there at some point and it sucks. Time heals everything as they say and it will heal you.

Hang in there girl!!

Pam

Hi Patty,
I know what that hurt feels like. It happened to me about 10 days ago.
I will send you a longer private message either later today or tomorrow.

Jessica

Hi pam , some excellent advice.

I don't think it was her S/O as I had talked to her  a lot believe it or not and she was the sweetest person.

My S/O had some issue with this friendship .

I had to talk to my S/O and stand up for myself that I wanted to be friends with her.

I think my friend is afraid she would cause me to divorce.

Which is not the case but if it did happen it wouldn't have been her fault.

That would be my choice to make I think

I will have to get over it however it hurts a lot more than I've hurt in a long time.

Thank you so much Pam.

Patty

Hi Jessica,

I'm sorry to hear you are going through this to.
I would love to hear from you.

Patty