I want to be a girl....can you help me ????

It wouldn't be an issue in my family. They accept me all the way down the line from Mum and Aunt in their nineties and the new generation, three years old, (they only know Aunty Angela) so it would be fine. Happy days for any if they did want to come out.

Angela...

wow...total acceptance...you lucky girl...and what a great platform for a " newbie "....thank you x

If it was my own son, I'd be a) Over the moon and b) A bit amazed if he wanted to go all the way.

My older son has always been sporty, enjoys football (the correct name for soccer), and has mostly traditional male friends and tendencies. He has always got on well with girls too, and I am a bit envious of how he so naturally seems to switch between groups of boys or girls (segregation starts in the playground, and my eldest doesn't seem to recognise that, which is wonderful!) - so maybe he has feminine tendencies, or maybe he's just nice to everyone. He is an incredibly easy going character.

My youngest can be the opposite - very difficult and stubborn - or read that as very clear in his own mind about what he wants. He also doesn't really recognise that boys and girls are separate - different, yes, but no boundaries.  Many is the time I've seen him dress up in female clothing at school or at home - not regularly, but any time he feels like it, he will, and won't be at all embarrassed - and no-one here will pick him up on it. He's also incredibly imaginative - all his teachers confirm this unprompted, so he's likely to be artistic and wierd like me - and too right!

If either said that they wanted to transition, it would really depend on how strongly they felt about it. As children, I don't think they have the full picture, so I would strongly encourage waiting until say 16, but as I say, it depends.

At 12, I thought I wanted to transition, but actually wasn't too sure - especially about people's reactions.

Now that I care a lot less about people's reactions to stuff that doesn't concern them, I still wouldn't transition myself, despite my loathing of male physicality.

After all, I don't see it most of the time, and I wear mostly women's clothing anyway, so I don't feel male - I just feel like me.

So I would be supportive and listen to any child who had concerns, and try to help them celebrate and be happy with their "wierd feelings", but not push the agenda.

Love Laura

How lovely,  just well written and explained and I would expect nothing less from you...

Imagine....Laura and Laura junior hit Bournemouth....no Karaoke would be safe!!!....omg....huggs x

Grace, first, I have no sons but do have several nephews.  I really want to think that if one of them stated a desire to crossdress I would wholly support them.  I doubt I have the courage to come out to my family to show solidarity in all honesty.  But, I hope I could be strong enough to at least reach out to him privately and let him know it was okay to just be himself and wear whatever he wanted.  I don’t know if I could even reveal Raquel to him, though.

It’s funny, though, because I do have a niece who’s a young professional and lives in our city, which is hours away from any other family.  My wife and I suspect she may be lesbian.  Just gut feelings. So on my recent free weekend where I could be Raquel 24/7, I thought about reaching out to her.   I really want to confide in her. I chickened out.

My natural human instinct for self-preservation overpowered any desire for having a confidant.

Hmm. No kids, some remote nephews and second cousins I've never met, so it's academic for me. I'd like to think I wouldn't throw him under the bus, but I'm not sure I'd come out myself either. I'd make it known that I accepted it and that the family should too, and give what support I could. I'd fight his corner, for sure.

Further down the line, who knows?

Connie

xxx

Hi Grace that's a good question, I think i would support them totally, as for coming out myself I'm not so sure about that, I've got a really big family with 5 brothers and 3 sisters, numerous nieces and nephews and cousins I'm sure there must be another crossdresser somewhere in the mix, I can't be the only one in the family who loves to dress 👗 up, maybe there is someone just like me in the family and they are in the closet too,

Huggs Roz X

My wife and I have talked about this a fair amount. If one of my kids came out, be it related to their gender or sexuality, I would share with them that they are not alone in this, and that I have similar feelings. The last thing in the world I'd want one of my kids to feel is that no one understands them, or that their parents don't have their back. Their happiness and health are our top priority, bar none, including any difficulty I might have in letting them know about how their dad identifies.

Hi Grace What a interesting question I guess you could say I live in a feminine house hold. There are three generations of woman. My wife. mother in law, and my 35 years old daughter who is slowly trying to move her self back in after experiencing a failed marriage. My wife and mother in law both know how I prefer to dress. { mostly androgynous  } I would say. Despite all my clothes being made for woman; It works for me right now. We are raising three grandchildren all boys. I would say I would wait to see how everything plays out. Its a little different today there does not seem to be a huge difference between feminine and masculine clothing  to day especially when it come to colors..  My middle grandson has very feminine tendencies. I watch as he is trying to figure it all out. We let all the boys wear what they prefer to wear without any negative criticism.. Just last week I was out shopping with my middle grandson looking for a new phone. We found one that he wanted when the sales lady asked what color he wanted black or bright pink, that was the only colors the had in stock that day he chose pink. I just said I like that color also. I just said black is so boring and it harder to find if you ever misplaced your phone. He had the cutest happy smile when when the saleslady handed him his new phone with a bright new pink case. Then we just moved on. He did mention to me during our ride home there were a lot of girls at his school that wanted to be boys. I just said its a difficult time in young peoples life it will all work itself out later in life, but in the mean time just enjoy being young. Getting old is not much fun. He said to me you will never get old and thanked me for his new phone then he said he loved me.  Just treat each other with empathy, kindness and respect. You would be amazed and quickly find out that the clothes you choose to wear that day really do not matter to the ones you love and those who love you back. My experience has been try not to go over the top with your dressing, save that for special occasions when you are out and about or going to places that there are people like us just trying to have fun while expressing how they feel. Sometimes life is not easy when cross dressing is a part of your life but when you stop and think about no one's life is easy. We just have to make the best of what we are given and go on from there.

Luv Stephanie

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Morning Grace and CHD!!

“Good for it!! By the way, son and daughter, I’d like to introduce you to ‘Barb Wire’”.

Me and my SO (Senior Officer) have already and repeatedly let our kids know to follow their heart, no matter where or whatever spectrum they land on.

And to “Get a JOB!” once done with university. (Tough parents!!)

(Daughter currently an RN at our local hospital and son working on his PhD in AI - artificial intelligence - I was his role model - HA HA!!)

Me and SO are over the moon!!

👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨 Barb 🌖

I have no children but if I did I would like to think I would be super supportive. I know how hard it is to be a crossdresser so I would want to help them as much as possible. I'm not sure if I would come out to them or not but probably would.

I have two nieces who came out as lesbians and I have encouraged them to be themselves. Today one of them lives openly with their partner. Neither know of my dressing.

Thank you Stephanie...a lovely read...

It's funny with colours...how men are usually expected to be dull and dark, while women are....anything they like.

I will say I have seen a lot more men about town in brighter clothes, pink or yellow shirts are common...and brighter coloured trousers and jackets too..... maybe the tide is turning???

Michelle....spot on!!!!

" I know how hard it is to be a crossdresser "

...they could not ask for better guidance...xx

As I have no children Grace , that scenario won´t happen.

But if  I had a kid and he would express those desires to me , first of all I would be very

proud of him for having the courage to tell me ! and give him a big hug.

Then I would reasure him that it´s allright to have those feelings , that there are many childen out there like him and that he should be who he wants to be.

Over the years I would let him discover himself on his own , and when he gets older If those feelings are still there , and even grew stronger , so that maybe even transitioning would come into the picture , I would support him with that also , giving him advice as much as I can.

Then , after his 18th birthday , I would probably tell him that : I have a big secret I want to shear with you , and only you , your dad has been crossdressing since childhood.... and that the apple didn´t fall far from the tree apparently !

Love Sylvia.