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Don't know if this has been asked before, for I'm new this site. If the shoe was on the other foot could we be supportive of our SO.
LexiNicole
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Interesting question, Lexi.
We certainly hope we would. But if we're suddenly blind to the facts. We most likely would have a unfavorable knee jerk reaction.
It seems its more mtf than ftm. But if I were born female I would at least try to learn as much as possible. Given that I rest my fears of loosing the one I choose to love and be a partner to.
I think many negative reactions are from the what would others say or fear do! Hence or deeply closeted Sister's fears.
We should see some good responses on this subject.
Fran 🥰
Great question. First off my wife loves her sparkle to much to even consider it, but hypothetically assuming she did, I personally wouldn't have a problem with it so long as I still get to dress and present as I like. However, that brings up deeper questions that I believe many SO's have and likely I would have too if I were on the other end of this. Such as, do you want to dress like a man or become a man (i.e transition)? Are you still attracted to and want to stay with me?
If it were just, "Hey honey, I wanna wear men's jeans, a flannel shirt, work boots, have short hair, and no makeup" but I still love you and never want to leave, then great! Wear what you like. Far be it from me not to extend the same grace given to me to be myself. It could be kinda cool to flip the script on both roles but I can't envision that happening.
@lexinicole I definitely would be supportive of her. I’m attracted to both genders and think a full gender swap date would be so funny and fun for sure.
@lexinicole Well a lot of women do wear men’s clothing now and some even named after it. Boyfriend jeans , boy shorts for panties. Me personally I would have a problem with it . Like I say to her about what I do “ it’s just clothes”. My wife and I’m sure many others do to , wears my shirts to sleep in or on a cool evening she will come down stairs wearing one of my big shirts .
@lexinicole knowing the feeling, I would be totally on her side day one. But if I were not a CD, it would take longer to tcome around to support, i m sure I would. The factor is, she is the love of my life and best friend. I would do anything not to lose her.
Absolutely, I think that would be great fun.
Having said that, most people wouldn't notice since a lot women wear man-style clothing at one time or another. Facially, the female face is softer and the woman is more likely to look like an effeminate man than an American quarterback. Apart from that, I'd think it was easier FtM than MtF but I can never know for sure (of course).
Becca
Yes absolutely, unfortunately a lot of women wear mens style clothes 24/7 so little change in outward appearances. Also depends on how strong your relationship is with your partner I guess.
Katie
An interesting "what if" question, Lexi, let's add some details.
Your SO starts wearing binders and wishes her breasts weren't so big. She gets her hair cut short at a barbers. She starts dressing in a style to hide her womanly appearance. She adds a male name, and prefers to be adressed as he / him when dressed up (or down 😉 ). He has a seperate wardrobe of male clothes. They spend money on a make up artist and have a photo shoot to proudly feel and show how they pass as a man. She mentions testosterone as a way to 'rough up' the edges and practises speaking in a lower voice and the art of sitting and manspreading like a man. They buy prosthetics and start packing down below so they have a pleasing bulge. And then they see no reason why they should stay in the closet. They venture out. They make friends on the internet and arrange meet ups and 'boys nights out', leaving you at home. Then they tell you that despite all this they are still attracted to men, and aren't lesbian. They tell you the last thing they want is for you to leave them.
Would you be just a little bit challenged ? I'll admit I would need time to get my head around it if it hit me all at once, as in 'crikey, where did all this come from?'. When in theory, being as I am, I should be able to immediately say 'fine, whatever makes you feel right'.
I think I would be OK about it after that first reaction subsided.
Emma x
I would be 100% accepting, tolerant, supportive and would participate as requested.
I would certainly like to think so. My wife is very supportive of my dressing so I can't think of a reason why I would not be.
Jules
Well it’s easy to say yes as to not come off as a hypocrite but let’s be honest as a heterosexual, a significant other presenting as opposite sex is a tough pill to swallow. Of course, love triumphs all though. If the love is there than it is a small hurdle to jump in the grand scheme of the relationship as long as everyone’s honest
Like many hypothetical questions, it's difficult to answer with complete honesty. Being who I am, I would say yes since I would understand their situation and feelings.
Totally agree with you Lauren, if the roles were reversed where we didn't know anything about cross-dressing and our SO came out to us that they are. We really don't know how we would handle it, we would like to think so.
It took a while for my wife to accept my cross-dressing but she fully supports me know and I love her very much for it.
LexiNicole
