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I have a question for those who are married and secretly dressing. Where do you keep your clothes and things? I keep mine in a bin in my garage or trunk of my car. It's crazy. I want to find a closet and maybe a dresser for my stuff but how do I do that?
Frances, I can't help you. I don't have any clothes at home. I only dress when my wife is away, usually once a year. It's next month and I'm so excited! I buy two or three complete outfits and then purge before she returns. Expensive and frustrating but that's the route I've chosen xx.
Francis, for years I keep my stash at my workshop/office. But when sold the property last year I had to adjust. First I downsized my clothing and lingerie collections ( I tell myself it wasn’t a purge) I now keep my smaller collection in a looked tool type chest in my work shed at home ( I toss in some dryer sheets or scented soaps to keep them smelling fresh) since I underdress most days I keep a smallish tool bag in my work truck with panties and a few bras for easy access. I will sometimes bring in a few panties and hide them in my dresser. I enjoy putting panties on when I first get dressed in the morning. But if you think your wife or SO may look through your things I’d skip this part. Every closeted cd has gone through this dilemma. I’ve had to adapt and change my plans quit a few times through the years.
just be careful and use common sense if getting caught would be a major issue.
Natalie💋
I’m right there with you Frances. I’m a bit daring, I have everything in my closet in a bin with my work gear piled neatly over it.
My wife isn’t tall, so going vertical is always a good option I’ll try later. I like your idea of the tool box. Just consider it like a military footlocker.
this is life in the closet definitely. If I find myself alone for an extended period of time, I’ll hang everything, but until then, back in the closet. Thanks for sharing.
Tamiya
I've got to agree with Julia - coming down in favor of full disclosure. To me, anything else is much too stressful , especially for something that is harmless and supposed to be pleasurable. Anything else is dishonest and sneaky, never a good look if you should get "caught" - and it's likely you will eventually. A tough convo to be sure, but you may be surprised at the result, and then you will both be free.
I don’t disagree with full disclosure. If you go that route be prepared for the outcome. It may be fine but I know from experience it probably won’t be. I say this from experience and the experiences of other gurls I’ve met through the years. If you’ve been with your wife or SO for a while or a long while you should have a feel for how they would take finding out there husband loves to feel fem and were women’s clothing. I was sure my ex would not accept it and was proven correct. I wish that wasn’t the case but unfortunately it was.
Natalie💋💋
I think people know their SO and probably can gauge whether coming out is an option.
As for stashing things, depending on your house construction the sub-floor can be an option. I have carpet tiles in one room that are easy to lift and replace, under that I have cut some floorboards and have a good space for keeping things.
As others have said I also keep some smaller items amongst my boy clothes
I'm in the same boat, I was out with my SO but then my kid cane home most of krrisys things a in a travel bag in the closet, but I have been in secret for a few so my wardrobe is in a small bag in the car not back out of the closet with the So but I'll be having a temu order showing up soon!!
Yo lo guardo en el garage, en un caja, en un sitio donde no creo que lo encuentren, Y todo es lenceria
My en femme wardrobe is in my garage but my underdressing clothes are in my closet either hanging or in drawers. My makeup is also in a drawer.
Ladies, thank you all so much. I have 2 cases in a large bin labled summer clothes in my garage. High enough that only I can reach without a ladder.
As far as telling my OH it isn't worth risking. I will drop subtle hints here and there to get a tempature.
Thanks again.
I had an old computer case that I gutted and put my stuff inside then stored in my basement. Eventually my wife showed up early and caught me dressed. Divorce city followed within a couple years
Hi Ladies,
I'm in the DADT camp. "She knows but does not want to know". I have my own bedroom "up the other end of the house" and my lingerie and sleepwear, (depending on the season, plus hosiery in winter), is "hidden in plain site" in my dresser and wardrobe.
I underdress 24/7 and as for dressing sessions, a/. occasionally at home when she goes out for the day, b/. when I "get desparate" I have a 3m(10ft) sq storage unit where I can have a session with the door down. Its also where I keep the rest of my "girly stuff" dresses, skirts blouses cardigans etc etc and accessories like shoes and jewellery.
Until late last year, I also had regular charity volunteer overnight trips, where I could get my "full Caty on". But since then my creaky old (and painful) lower back has had other ideas.
NB I did get caught by the old "she came home early" thing last September. It giot a bit frosty 'round here for a few weeks, but things have returned to "normal"... I'm not happy about this, but at this stage 'TINA" There is no alternative..
Happy dressing
Caty.
I store my girl-stuff in foolscap box files; these are kept in amongst my hobby stuff where my SO does not venture.
I have a limited amount of space but sufficient room to store the things I need to dress a couple of times a month.
I keep mine in a 5X5 storage unit, which also serves as an emergency dressing room when I'm unable to dress at home. It was large enough a few months ago, but I've collected a lot more clothes and shoes since then, and it's getting quite tight in there! I'm considering moving to a larger unit but the cost is quite high and I don't think I want to spend that much.
Sometimes I bring some items home from the unit and keep them in a locked suitcase inside my closet. I'm not married, but I do have other family living with me so there's a slight risk, and I've managed to stay hidden so far. 🙂