In Third Person???

I think it's fairly common, even in messaging. For me, it's an abbreviation: I use "Bettylou" to mean my Bettylou persona, unless I am actually presenting as her.

Hi Clarissa,

I usually refer to my female side as Alice.

I have caught myself doing that as well.  Matter of fact my wife did this evening when we were walking home after dinner, I saw a really cute pair of boots in a window and went ooh, I like the color and she asked if I was window shopping for Michelle. Of course, I said yes.

Michelle

I’m glad my wife and I aren’t the only ones that do this! I have to admit it is really convenient in Wal-Mart, Target and various other stores. My wife’s response after the ohh is, “That’s cute.” LOL

Depending where we are my wife will sometimes ask if “Clarissa” needs anything from the women’s department. I think she is enjoying the femme side more than she says she does.

It is something that I noticed a while ago while my wife and were shopping and sometimes when I am in drab I’ll refer to my femme side in third person...

Between my wife and I, we refer to my female self as Peggy.  However, with all others, I will refer to "my female self" or "my female self called Peggy."  I will often follow up with a remark that I have two names for -myself-.  IMHO, the worst thing we can do is give the impression we have a split personality.  Why?  Because our female self is actually an extension of our one personality.  We never want to give the civilians the impression we have split personalities.

I have no professional education or training in psychology and am just giving my own opinion, FWIW.

Side note:  In the dark ages, long before the dawn of the world wide web, we had print only material, and information about CDs was very sparse.  I had no idea my female self was quite normal.  From what print material I could research in libraries, I was confused and thought there was a possibility I had a split personality.  It caused me stress, which I think contributed or manifested itself in alcoholism.

I do not. I just can’t refer to me in third person. It is me. All the time.

I completely understand where you are coming from. I know I embody both my female and male side simultaneously but because of work and other social constructions my feminine side is more “grand.” Because my wife and I know a lot of people in our community due to our jobs, expressing that femininity isn’t really an option.

This is why one side of me is expressed in third person at times. I do think that it is a safety mechanism that helps my wife and I understand this odd juxtaposition.

Probably have, but I try not to, it's just me, that's all

always 1st person, and my wife will always ask me what i'm looking for when we are out shopping

i have 2 sides of me my male side and my female side.   when dressed up as a female i want to be treated like a female. when in male mode i am male and do work like males do.   when in female mode i do house work, cook, watch t.v and most of all walk around to hear my heels clicking on floor and looking pretty

Yup, my wife started it so I adopted it LOL.  I  will say that I do have my male and female persona and act differently with each. So in essence it kind almost is two people LOL.

Pam