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I know I’m not the only one who finds dressing a great stress reliever, but does it extend even further into becoming a ‘soulmate’ for you? Almost anthropomorphic? A soulmate being someone who feels deep or natural affinity with. Almost part of you…
@valentina16 I have not considered it in that way before, but you may be onto something. Dressing secretly for most of my life (since childhood) was probably the opposite due outside influences / expectations. Even after admitting & sharing together with my wife, it had some amount of stress. Only in the recent past have I embraced myself and don't care who knows. Is my femine side my soulmate? Maybe, not sure,.. it's just me & makes me happy.
@valentina16 VV - I just have to ask…will there ever be a topic you post where I don’t have to look up the definition of one of the words used in it? “Anthromorphic?” WTF!🤣
That said, I do think many people are their OWN soulmates. Nothing to do with crossdressing though. They’re narcissists. Since I’ve retired I’ve met many….they’re in love with themselves, whatever they’re talking about only concerns them 99% of the time. You will hear all their old ‘war stories’ and accomplishments over and over whether you want to or not. If you do manage to interject something of your own, well, they will bulldoze over it and tell you about their experience that tops yours. It’s an interesting category of human being, that’s for sure. (Heck, I just described our new prez - for sure🤪!)
That aside, I just dressed up and had all my s*** out all over the place and everywhere yesterday. My wife and I always refer to Grace in the third person as another woman who comes to visit occasionally. It seems natural to do so. I’ve always thought ‘soulmate’ was bs. Total nonsense. “Oh, they were meant to be, they’re soulmates❤️”….gag me. If you can find a partner you love and want to live with who you just love being around, then there’s a soulmate for you. I’m on my third one😆.
I don’t think Grace is my soulmate. She is anthromorphic for sure. But she is still me in a dress. We cannot be soulmates. For one thing, she’s a little bit bitchy for my tastes….🥰
GP
Thought provoking comment.....In my case, it is probably the woman that I want to be. This is a broad spectrum of things including appearance, personality, and all the other things that make up a woman.
@lauren114 You are absolutely right Lauren 🥰! Being a woman is more than just appearance! I know that I always try to act like a lady especially in public. This includes being kind and polite and not picking unnecessary fights with strangers. The personality quiz I took said my personality is 83% feminine 🙂!!
❤️ Ashlyn
Because I've always known that my "internal wiring" is female, dressing (early on in my life) was always a stress reliever because of aligning the visible with the invisible. Now, since I'm living a great deal of my life as a woman (soon to be 100% out to the world), I don't really consider dressing, or expressing my femininity in any other way, as being a separate soulmate - but rather a final blending into who I am and who I've always been.
What a great question, Valentina!
Hugs,
Shawna
Many of you already know much of my story, but for any newbies, here goes.
I knew when I was only three years old that I was supposed to be a girl, that knowledge or 'feeling' followed me through my entire life,I am a transitioned trans woman, and two years ago I found out that I am intersex, a mix of both genders, actually an intersex female.
So the girl in the mirror has always been who I truly was, much more than a soulmate, it was the 'real me'!!
Hugs,
Ms. Lauren M
I feel a deep, natural affinity with being this lady called Fiona. Living full time has enabled me to more deeply explore my feminine side to the point where I would now say it represents 80-90% of my persona.
As a male I would say I was 75% male, 25% feminine so you can see what a big change it has been. Thankfully it's been a change for the better.
It's more than an affinity it's my 'Raison d'etre'.
Yes Valentina, being Catherine Louise Ryan when I can, has been an integral part of my life for over 40 years. As you know, a bit restricted these days, cos of a couple of relatively minor, but still painful, health problems.
But sleeping femme every night and waking up, (at least in the Oz summer,) means I can clothe myself in lots of lovely sleepwear lingerie. Those few minutes and I guess any "nocturnal trips to the ladies" are just plain bloomin' wonderful.
Silk full length nightie up, silk french knickers down, weight of my forms in my bra,
Bliss!!
I'm hoping to have overnight trip before the end of April to finally.. be able to get my "full Caty on".
Happy dressing
Caty
