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...when I dress (not as often as I like), I find myself super confident. It is really odd because I don't go out in public (yet). Maybe it is the breastplates that give me the curves hugging my keyhole bodycon dress or the 4 inch heels that I wear...but I just feel desirable to the world. Maybe it is just my fantasy but my mind goes to another level where I am in control of the dynamics between me and a potential partner. My partner would be checking me out and I would play it up to make him (or her) want me even more. I find myself pushing my own boundaries just to blow my suitor's mind and have him/her be putty in my hands as I do what I want, how I want, when I want...all because my suitor wants me...It is this very empowering feeling. Can anyone relate to what I'm describing? Maybe even a wee bit?
Oh yes, but my scenario would be out in the world, and in more conservative clothing.
Just being dressed the way I want to, with makeup, wig, forms, etc. gives me a super rush of positivity, like I could do anything.
When I interact with people, I can see the power I have as they gaze in curiosity and encounter a friendly, welcoming person with lots of bad jokes and long stories, who just happens to be a man dressed as a woman.
Some find it quite intoxicating and profess love and all sorts of things, but the kind of love I give is honest friendship - and maybe some dodgy dancing!
The empowerment lives on into my male life - I feel more confident, like I can project any image I want to. I can be authoritative, gentle, campy, even.
All these characteristics are in me, and I am proud of them all (but do try hard to be humble about it!).
Pride in myself is something I am still getting used to, after 50+ years of having very little and only recently realising that.
Being an open cross dresser has changed everything!
Love Laura
I believe what you're feeling is the power of a female. I've always believed women hold all the power because men are naturally and so easily attracted to them and they can control the degree of access or not. Most women don't have to even try to attract men, they just pick who they want. To realize this power as a CD is intoxicating.
Oh, so absolutely! I too feel confident and desirable and that makes me feel sexy!
Barb :B
Yes….intoxicating….yes
We are always learning and changing. It’s great to see you blossom into the person you are!
This may be a generalization but I have observed in life that men, especially the younger male of the species, turn their brain off and become more single minded in their pursuit of beauty and sex then women are. ( or most of them are easy to lead by their you-know-what ).
Hi Stevie. Yep men are usually led by their dumb stick while women are usually led by emotions. As CD's we have insight into both worlds.
It’s funny because having that insight to both worlds is like a superpower. We must use it wisely 🙂
