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Conversations about my crossdressing never come up in my house. My wife never brings up the topic and I don't feel comfortable talking about it with her. We have an agreement I can dress as I like and if she finds it too much she would let me know. I tread very lightly because I don't know where the fine line is and I don't want to do something to offend her. So far she has never said anything .... Good or bad about my dressing.
Thanks to Covid, I've been growing my hair out and have not cut it in 19 months. Since it's quite long, down past my shoulders in some places, I wear it in a ponytail. The other evening while relaxing in front of the TV I had my hair down and a Scunci on my wrist. My wife notices the hair tie and asks me if I "borrowed" one of hers. I told her no, I bought my own. They are more comfortable than the elastic bands. She agreed, end of story. I am thinking to myself, I am sitting here, barefoot with my feet up, wearing a very bold nail polish on my toes (OPI Barefoot in Barcelona) for the whole world to see and all she could comment on is a hair tie? I just don't get it. I guess it's okay to wear bold nail colors? I have a few more I want to wear.
Anyone have a similar experience they want to share?
Robin
Hi Robin,
Many women often accept their partners crossdressing but actually don't want to participate in any way or form.
Many women are extremely possessive of what they see as personal hygiene items ie makeup, hair, washing items etc. So I suspect the two things are interlinked.
Amanda xx
Robin, if I ever grew my hair that long, my wife would go beserk - lol. At age 67, not even sure I could grow it that long.
Alice Black
Hair ties are like pens and left socks there always disappear
I can sympathize with you. While I generally have my wife's support and acceptance, she goes up and down in the level of warmth. I know she is concerned with being outed to her parents as we are currently living with them. However, that alone doesn't explain why seems more comfortable some days than others.
MacKenzie Alexandra
I have Covid hair and its gotten pretty long. I keep it in a ponytail which the wife says she likes.
When I started growing it out the wife let hers grow too. Her hair of course is much longer than mine and the other day she mentioned she might get hers cut and asked if I was getting a cut. I told her I wanted to let mine grow much longer. She then said I was competing with her when in reality shes competing with me. Go figure. Shes not going to cut hers now... women!
When a scrunchy disappears it comes back as an unmatched sock. When a sock disappears it returns as a food storage bowl lid that doesn't match any bowls. I'm not sure but I think dogs might have something to do with this phenomenon.
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Beth
Last week my GGF needed a scrunchi and i gave her one of mine. She looked at it then to me shrugged and off she went. I found it quite ironic.
Hi Robin as this is funny the other evening pretty much the same we were sitting watching ?? something on tv and i noticed wife wearing the same color polish as Stephanie and asked her about it and she says yes its yours didnt think you would mind ha ha and i dont just funny ..
Stephanie Bass
For the first time in my life I have let my hair grow past my shoulders and I can now wear it in a ponytail. I have told everyone it's because of COVIT. What really surprised me is my wife really likes it and doesn't want me to cut it.
When it got long enough to put in a pony tail I did it in secret and took one of my wifes scrunches. I was in fear that it would be too feminine looking for her. To my surprise one day she got out one of her scrunches and tied my hair back and told me I should keep it in a pony tail.
To me it's an outward expression of my inner femininity. I don't know how others see it, but I'm really enjoying it.
Is it a case of "if that's mine, what else is he borrowing?"
I would love that degree of acceptance, btw!
Connie
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It sounds to me, like a large part of acceptance, but I don't understand, neither of you talking about it? Ever??.
As Lisa said, communication is key, I wouldn't be able to keep my mouth shut, I have to know how my wife feels about everything, Luckily, she loves my cd'ing, and encourages me every step of the way.
Hugs, Regi👸💖
Seems a lot of men wear ponytails these days and I never had problems with scrunchies in public. If you want to move your femininity up a step start wearing your ponytail higher up the head and feel the difference
Hi Robin Hair length is still a very personal thing Its how you wear it and what style you choose to wear is when masculine and feminine become apparent. I think the basics sill apply whether your wearing a scrunchy or a simple hair tie. Keep you hair clean and moisturized and brush it often and having the ends trimmed when hair starts to split. Most CDs who are fortunate enough to have long hair just read adjust pony tail form low to high. I wear hair ties when i just do not like the feeling of hair on my neck. I also found a great use of hair ties they help extend a waist band on my cute pair of jeans. A good subject to bring up.
Luv Stephanie
Hi Stephanie,
I've noticed men and women both wear a low ponytail. While the high ponytail appears to be reserved for women. I switch back and forth between low and high although I find the low to be more comfortable, especially when driving. Most men with ponytails, at least in these parts, use a bungee style hair tie. I'll have to pay closer attention.
-Robin
